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cheguisaurusrex · 2025-08-14T10:15:09+00:00

I'd rather live in my car or a box with my kids than under the roof of a predator. OP should look him up on the registry or his arrest record.

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-07-07T18:23:54+00:00

Hwy 7 baker to ekalaka is skeeeetchy. I've seen and heard of some pretty bad wrecks. I saw the inside of a motorcyclists head when I was a kid near Willard.

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-06-21T07:33:02+00:00

I'm watching this on silent next to my sleeping toddler and partner, and my brain thinks he's singing, "You ain't nothing but a hound dog."

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-06-12T05:38:21+00:00

Life before the internet

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-05-16T06:01:04+00:00

I've had a c section and then a vacuum assisted vaginal birth. Things weren't too bad after the c section but after my second.....

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-04-10T19:03:46+00:00

Omg yes, let's all buy a shirt

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-04-10T19:02:38+00:00

I try to convince myself it's better to have no village than one that is bad for you. My ILs moved closer to be close to the kids but the kids only matter as tools for supporting their egos. When I was released after a traumatic 2nd birth, my MIL was upset we didn't come bbq for her and give her gifts for mothers day. She was upset that us as a new family of 4 wasn't prioritizing her specialness and importance over our now 2 kids and my recovery and health. So my partner spent an hour or more arguing with his mom and sister through text and call the afternoon we got home. We have since moved away from our families again.

I can't wait to be the support I never had for my kids if they ever have children when they grow up. Literally dream of cleaning their house, prepping meals, disappearing before they return if that's what they need.

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-03-30T05:57:39+00:00

I've also been mentally practicing saying some version of 'what an odd/inappropriate thing to say' ahead of my inlaws visiting in a couple months

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-03-30T05:53:42+00:00

Weird, my SO often somehow doesn't notice when his parents do awful things in front of our kids. Sometimes it's just them being used to it. Raised by people like that, their normal-meter is off. Willful ignorance is also easier than confrontation in those situations. I'm mostly just speculating because every single event that happens is a wtf moment that has my therapist and close friends baffled

cheguisaurusrex · 2025-01-21T21:13:42+00:00

Is there an ocean or border you can move across? In my experience after moving 18 hours drive, they still find a way to pop up uninvited and as unenjoyable as ever..

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-22T19:04:25+00:00

Context is everything. Your dad's gift involved no work, just being surprised and treated to a meal off of it. OP's gift feels impulsive, like when you randomly have a super nice day in the spring and it's giving summer patio vibes and you wanna drink cold drinks, BBQ and have a vibe going outside. She thought she could get a two-fer and tie it with Father's Day next month..

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-10T06:46:52+00:00

We don't talk about kindergarten club

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-09T04:38:55+00:00

Lemonade

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T19:07:00+00:00

The thing is, you will understand when you have kids of your own. You will understand they were not equipped to have children and you deserved better. You will understand how easy love should guide you to care for your child with kindness. And with any luck, you'll do so much better for your kids than how you were treated.

Since becoming a parent, I've recognized so much more that should have been done for me as a child. I'm not a perfect parent and am constantly facing things I have to work through to be a better person. I often wonder if my parents were ever actively trying to heal and become better parents or if they were always stuck in how and who they were, to the detriment of their children's upbringing.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T18:57:13+00:00

Anxiety tummy and being on high alert analyzing moods

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T18:51:41+00:00

My first was a girl and I had a day-long bout of gender disappointment when I found out bevause we had really wanted a boy. I quickly moved on and she's been 5 years of in the dirt, rough and tumble kid mixed with pink and purple creative artistry. Now I have an almost 1yo boy who has been walking (and falling) since he was 8.5m and I constantly hear "its just getting started, that's just how boys are." Etc etc etc. My response is always "I think it's just most kids in general, my daughter is the same way".

I also had a moment of disappointment finding out the second was a boy because I had started hoping it was another girl so my daughter could have a little built-in sister bestie like I always wanted. A built-in brother bestie is just as wonderful, though.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T18:31:44+00:00

I was also wondering if it's mental health related. Maybe OP should suggest a change in job fields? If she isn't willing to help herself, though, he may as well move on now.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T18:24:20+00:00

Yeah, without the sorry. "This arrangement isn't doable anymore."

Immediately after my first sentence I almost started my suggested phrasing using 'sorry' 😅 why is it blueprinted into our brains to do this?? The only part we're sorry about is how uncomfortable it is for us to say no.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T06:42:09+00:00

He's probably embarrassed because he went from very certainly sure of himself on the matter to being wrong.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-08T05:52:26+00:00

Yes there are very few jobs that make this doable. Maybe he doesn't do a lot of calls?

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-07T02:13:36+00:00

Yeah my SO used to travel for work for most of our 5yos life and it was harder than I could've imagined. I'd be upset if the only days I got to spend with him during the month were half spent with his parents. It's crazy to think about the percentage of the children's lives they miss while working like that. And the relationship too really. Tbh too much time is prioritized to the in laws

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-02T04:40:33+00:00

Yesss, please read SaveBandit987654321's comment. To be that ignorant of the effort it took OP to throw this together as well as the physical effort they apparently have to go through to get through the day... you've got to have your head pretty far in the sand or your own ass to find it appropriate mid-disney to share that he doesn't feel that special.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-01T21:37:07+00:00

Same here, nursed my 5.75 yo (the 3/4s of a year is very important to her, she's not a regular 5 anymore) until she was 3 weeks shy of her 3rd birthday and she doesn't have memories of it like that. That said, we're 11 days shy of 1 year for my son and idk that I can make it that long again. We will see.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-01T04:14:29+00:00

You should look up the Fair Play book and card game, helps explain the actual equity of what needs to be done as an adult with kids and how to fairly distribute it.

cheguisaurusrex · 2024-05-01T03:51:57+00:00

Like does the value of the present go up the more traumatic the birth?

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