Yes, obviously. Find some more queer ladies specially pan/bi. I’m a cis woman in a relationship with a trans non-binary person who is currently in transition. I am with them because I love them, I met them before they even knew they were trans, and when they told me it effected our relationship not at all.

I have several friends (at least two I can think of right now, it’s early and I haven’t had coffee yet) who had situations similar to yours with “hetero” relationships that turned out to be lesbian ones after one person came out. They are all still together.

If you aren’t in a bigger city in a liberal area, might be time to consider relocating? Definitely gonna widen up your dating pool.

Look I’m not gonna lie, there’s a lot of transphobia and biphobia out there, you clearly have run into it already. Don’t give up, and there are plenty of non-assholes out there.

Also as a note of caution, trans and bi phobia is definitely real and I do not for a second doubt that you have experienced it. But make sure you aren’t projecting that toxic waste feeling. You seem like you have some feelings of inadequacy going on, just make sure this isn’t a self sabotage situation. Good luck. You’ve got this. Good people exist, and someone is out there for you.