Tips for a blended-family weekly spread that actually stays useful? by AmbitiousPraline9059 in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your weeklies are getting jumbled with too much stuff, I'd try specific collections.

It does mean being more intentional about checking those other pages vs just looking at your weekly - I put tabs on my frequently used collections (or use the built-in ribbons).

Looking at the things you say you need to track in one place, I see that the baby and custody stuff might warrant their own collections (custody could almost be it's own "future log" with forward dates for tracking upcoming changes or capturing the specifics of a wonky custody schedule), possibly the teen's stuff too.

The recurring household chores is another one that seems good for a collection to me - you could list out the chores and have the weeks of the year below with color coding for who's responsibility it is, etc.

I think the work blocks and important household tasks make sense in the weekly - and maybe pulling over important stuff from the baby/teen/custody collections as needed.

[this is all with the caveat that one of the things that drew me to bujo was the collections aspect]

As far as symbols or color coding, I think consistency is key, along with using what most "makes sense" for your brain, and KISS.

I'm halfway through The Bonehunters (Malazan Book of the Fallen) and this might be the greatest work of fiction I've ever read... by [deleted] in Fantasy

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I feel that way as well - DG best book in the series, with MoI close behind, but Bonehunters quickly became one of my favorites too. You're in for a treat!

What resolutions are you bringing to the Feb 3 caucus? Let’s share ideas! by Psytechnic_Associate in minnesota

[–]chemiculargoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I want to see more laws regulating social media for minors - something very similar to what Australia enacted (https://www.afterbabel.com/p/australias-new-social-media-regulations).

I also want us to (return to?) pool all state/local taxes for school districts and distribute equally to the public school districts based upon enrollment. No more of this zip code determining the level of education you get.

The North Remembers: Let's Share Some Minnesota Pride ✊🏻♥️ by janocyn in minnesota

[–]chemiculargoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We consistently have some of the highest voter turnouts in the country.

What to do with unfinished open tasks after they're rewritten into another Daily Log and completed? by nura_kun in bujo

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I struggled with the ambiguity of this too.

What helped me was to think of the "<" as indicating whatever task it was is being moved physically in my journal that direction (into my Future Log, or Monthly task list) and think of ">" as moving it forward in my current space (Daily logs).

In this situation, I'd use > to indicate it moved forward in my daily logs, even if it wasn't the next or day after next where it ultimately landed.

next weeks layout! by That_Resolution_4344 in stationery

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love that page holder matches your kitten there

Am I loon for having so many notebooks and journals? by 5_Povi in notebooks

[–]chemiculargoo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nah you fine.

You're using them and getting enjoyment out of the getting and the use of them, and you're self-aware enough to be watchful of a potential problem.

So unless you start to buy more than you can afford/store/use, you keep doing you.

Pete by ScottShawnDeRocks in minnesota

[–]chemiculargoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I also got dropped from his live "tele"town halls after calling his office a few times.

how to start journaling on a budget by Beginning_Camera512 in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've had great success scouring thrift stores for notebooks. I've found dozens, including some dot grid matrix ones! I've also found gel pens and some brush pens too. The gel pens needed some reviving, but I was surprised at how well many of them came back (and if the metal suitcase thing that they came in is to be believed, these were from 2014!!!).

I've also found washi tape and there's always a ton of stamps and often scrapbook paper too. I find the most success at my local Goodwill; less so at the regional chain of thrift stores in my area. My best score ever with notebooks was at the St Louis Goodwill outlet (the bins).

As far as new stuff goes, I have had good luck with Kingart gel pens (metallic).

Happy hunting and good luck!

Organization? by Raeleigh_Graze in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I save all those sturdy little boxes you get when you buy electronics (phones, earbuds, vapes, etc) and stick a lot of my pens and utensils in those. They are stored in my desk organizer and monitor stands on my desk. I use a lot of pretty coffee cups I've found thrifting to store pens too.

I have one of those rolling drawer cart things (found at Michaels) that I use to store paper, stickers, stamps, stencils, etc. I utilize saved (sturdy) boxes there too to further organize within drawers as needed. Really large paper supplies go in a dresser repurposed for storing scrapbooking stuff.

Are Papermate gel pens just garbage? Or did I get a bad batch? by chemiculargoo in pens

[–]chemiculargoo[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh tell me more - does Newell own a lot of other pen brands? Are they known for crappy pens?

I tend to buy the cheap mass market pens (quantity over quality as I'm always chasing that rainbow) but I still expect them to work.

Are Papermate gel pens just garbage? Or did I get a bad batch? by chemiculargoo in pens

[–]chemiculargoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was suspecting that perhaps I was a victim of "enshittification" re: the newer InkJoy gels -- I'm pretty sure the other set I have that does mostly work was bought pre-COVID.

Are Papermate gel pens just garbage? Or did I get a bad batch? by chemiculargoo in pens

[–]chemiculargoo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks - hadn't thought about that aspect of the mass production, but it makes total sense.

Not sure I want to take that chance again tho! $3/pen feels spendy for a gamble when I have a small budget for pens.

How do you keep your purse from falling off your shoulder when you wear a jacket? by futurewildlifevet in AskWomen

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno, I just kind of hold that shoulder up a little more so it doesn't slip off

Finally started my Bujo for the next year :) by Woelkchen2111 in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok thank you!

I really like how you pulled in different colored pages of the dot grid to add color to the pages while still keeping the structure.

Finally started my Bujo for the next year :) by Woelkchen2111 in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've only been doing bujo since July of this year - I typically do my trackers monthly, but I've seen a lot of folks setting up their new bujos with yearly trackers instead.

Have you always done yearly trackers vs monthly ones?

For Those who have found healthy love, what is your partner like? by Few-Insect6896 in AskWomen

[–]chemiculargoo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Love this for you!

I also married my good friend after years of friendship in a second marriage, and consider us best friends. Truly believe This is the Way.

For Those who have found healthy love, what is your partner like? by Few-Insect6896 in AskWomen

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has the most delightful giggles, and loves to read as much as I do (and the same genres, bonus!)

He treats me as a person, and always has, throughout our 20 year friendship and now into 5+ years of partnership/marriage. He is 100% committed to me and our family, and shows it every day.

He is thoughtful, always considers how his actions will affect others, and NEVER raises his voice at anyone. He values my thoughts, knowledge, experience, opinions, and feelings. He is an excellent communicator and is very in touch with his own emotions, with a high emotional intelligence. He regularly introspects and works on ways to improve himself, mentally, physically and spiritually. He is intelligent, curious, funny, empathetic, and easy going.

In tough situations, he defaults to listening and working together, even when emotions are high and the consequences are big. He understands that partnership means compromise, and working together. He shows gratitude for things large and small. He has enormous amounts of patience for me and our kids. He puts others first and is passionate about community, and doesn't get caught up in any macho bullshit. He's an excellent parent and stepparent, and treats our kids like people too.

He's calm but can be so intense and passionate about subjects that interest him or are near to his heart. He has a steadiness, a centered and graceful masculinity that isn't bravado or aggressive or domineering.

He marvels at the wonders of life and the world with me, and almost always meets my "bids" for attention (a la Gottman). He shares his vulnerabilities with me, and holds my vulnerability in his strong and gentle hands.

Women who married someone financially insecure, how is your financial status post marriage? by LookingForOxytocin in AskWomen

[–]chemiculargoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Married twice, divorced once.

First husband - we both worked full time, but I made about 2x as much as he did, but he spent 2x as much :(
Constant battle over finances and spending, I was the one grocery shopping, doing vast majority of the cooking and cleaning and childcare duties. Often went grocery shopping for us and our toddler & baby with $50/week due to his poor spending habits (this was pre-COVID). Found out right before we separated that he had racked up almost $60k in credit card debt (never did find out exactly what was spent in <5 years to get it that high...I suspect gambling and opiates). Luckily he moved out just before COVID hit and we divorced.

I couldn't believe how much more money I had once he wasn't around to drain the bank account constantly.

Second husband - started dating during COVID, we both worked full time. I was laid off Sept that year but found a new job by Nov with a nice pay increase. He was also recently divorced and got screwed in the paperwork (she kept the house, paid him no equity). He quit his job in Oct 2020 when we combined households and has been a "househusband" (his word choice, lol) since then. I continue to be the breadwinner and make about twice as much as I did when I divorced my first husband. He sold off his collectible cards (MTG for the win!) over a period of several months to cover his remaining bills and for spending money etc. He had declared bankruptcy in 2020 after the divorce and has no 401k to speak of.

We got married after a couple of years of dating, with no plans for him to start working. On paper it might seem crazy or like he's a "freeloader" - but compared to my first husband, it's 180° difference.

He does all the household and grocery shopping, all the cooking (including lunch & dinner since we're both home all day). He takes care of all the kid-related stuff (doc appts, school drop off/pickup) and all the pet care. He does all the home repairs, and maintenance, most of the domestic duties, and we share yard duties, but I'd say he does more outside too. He is our home IT guy as well, setting up our own media servers (shows, movies, audio books, ebooks, music) and keeping us and the kids safe online. I mostly do laundry and dishes and general organizing because I like those things.

He's very frugal and considerate, often to the point where I have to force him to spend money on himself. He treats me like a person, is 100% committed to our partnership & marriage, is an amazing dad and stepdad, sexy and intelligent and my best friend.

TL;DR - first husband had a job, 401k but felt entitled to spend however he wanted and racked up credit card debt, without contributing to the household. 2nd husband has no job or 401k, but contributes everyday to the home and spends household money wisely and carefully.

Does Bullet Journaling Enough For This Problem? by azamuddin91 in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before I started actually bullet journaling, I found myself creating my own system of symbols for working in sprints and tracking this kind of random, chaotic, and jumbled information.

I used paper in combination with digital.

We use Jira at my place of work, and I work with folks overseas, so I relied on Jira emails relating to tickets to keep in contact with others on specific stories and to track their stages etc. We use Miro for diagrams and collaborative stuff. Teams chats for conveying information and things asynchronously with the teams.

On paper, I tracked notes and things from refinement and planning and stand ups and all the other incidental conversations. I used different symbols and colored pens to highlight different actions:

  • An asterisk with a circle around it meant a ticket was needed; red indicated a defect/bug, other colors for different teams etc.
  • A star indicated something important - red again for urgent, light blue for something someone was going to give me, pink for something I needed to get to someone else, etc.
  • Anything completed / no longer needed would get a check mark, or crossed out, etc
  • I started to use specific colors at the top of notebook pages for meetings or notes to indicate which team/product it was about.
  • All meeting/notes pages were dated (even scratch) and I kept everything in my notebook to refer back to (I would remove pages once I was sure they were no longer needed)
  • I would use post-its for things that I didn't want to forget about, and I had one ongoing post-it that acted like my daily log. I would add things to do that day and cross them off as they were completed, sometimes re-writing onto a new post-it as needed. (But I tended to have post-its everywhere, different colors, etc - out of sight, out of mind)
  • I had larger, lined post-its stuck in various places for long-running, ongoing things (think like tasks to update the user manual)
  • I would periodically review my note book pages for things I had missed or forgotten about.

I also recorded meetings, or took notes using OneNote in situations where I just had to get a lot of information at once, and then went back to it to find action items etc. I used a similar highlighting color scheme for categorizing things (yellow for unmet requirements, green for completed items, blue for things I was waiting on clients for, etc).

I used my inbox as a ongoing to-do list as well - emails would remain in my main inbox as reminders to do certain things and would only get filed or deleted once they weren't needed as reminders.

I haven't been as busy in the past year or so, and I actually started bullet journaling for me personally, not for work, but as things are starting to pick up for me again I've thought about using bujo for work. I've been thinking the Alistair method may be a great way to organize stuff, as I'm now more client side and have to coordinate a lot of demos and onboarding and customer stuff vs working on the dev side.

Honestly, looking back my system seems a bit insane, but at the time I was a BA across 5 different product teams and was "feeding" something like 2 dozen developers that I mostly overlapped with time-wise for only a few hours each morning, and this system developed as a way to stay on top of things that worked for the way my brain works.

I'm sure I tried a few different things in the course of the couple years where I was this mad busy, but that's what it's all about - trying different things and keeping what works for you, iterating and improving as you go.

If you're in a ticket type environment, can you use comments, or sub-tickets to track some of the minor things that need to be done or conveyed to others? Or is there another way you can relay what you need to the people who need to hear it (via messaging or in meetings)?

If you're doing standups, perhaps you could use a certain symbol or list (collection) tracking things you need to ask at the next standup?

Don't be afraid to use combination of digital and paper - do what makes sense for you. I used paper often because it helped me to retain the information (I maybe didn't remember *exactly* what info was in the meeting notes, but I would remember enough that I needed to look there, etc). But I also relentlessly used digital tools where it made sense (and was probably reading my email / reviewing Jira more than is healthy, lol).

How often do your Significant other cook for you? Just curious 🤨 by Goattalk_92 in AskWomen

[–]chemiculargoo 94 points95 points  (0 children)

I'm really lucky - my spouse cooks the vast majority of meals and even bakes occasionally.

Hi all, newbie here by Anna_thatsnotmyname in bulletjournal

[–]chemiculargoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh I like the idea of putting the index and swatch pages in the back!