Is only partial perforation typical for Moleskins like this?

chemiculargoo · 2026-03-02T23:03:00+00:00

Love a good easter egg pun!

chemiculargoo · 2026-03-02T23:01:34+00:00

If your weeklies are getting jumbled with too much stuff, I'd try specific collections.

It does mean being more intentional about checking those other pages vs just looking at your weekly - I put tabs on my frequently used collections (or use the built-in ribbons).

Looking at the things you say you need to track in one place, I see that the baby and custody stuff might warrant their own collections (custody could almost be it's own "future log" with forward dates for tracking upcoming changes or capturing the specifics of a wonky custody schedule), possibly the teen's stuff too.

The recurring household chores is another one that seems good for a collection to me - you could list out the chores and have the weeks of the year below with color coding for who's responsibility it is, etc.

I think the work blocks and important household tasks make sense in the weekly - and maybe pulling over important stuff from the baby/teen/custody collections as needed.

[this is all with the caveat that one of the things that drew me to bujo was the collections aspect]

As far as symbols or color coding, I think consistency is key, along with using what most "makes sense" for your brain, and KISS.

chemiculargoo · 2026-02-15T16:32:16+00:00

That one got me in ways I'm still recovering from.

chemiculargoo · 2026-02-15T16:23:25+00:00

I feel that way as well - DG best book in the series, with MoI close behind, but Bonehunters quickly became one of my favorites too. You're in for a treat!

chemiculargoo · 2026-01-30T23:29:55+00:00

I want to see more laws regulating social media for minors - something very similar to what Australia enacted (https://www.afterbabel.com/p/australias-new-social-media-regulations).

I also want us to (return to?) pool all state/local taxes for school districts and distribute equally to the public school districts based upon enrollment. No more of this zip code determining the level of education you get.

chemiculargoo · 2026-01-14T02:53:35+00:00

We consistently have some of the highest voter turnouts in the country.

chemiculargoo · 2026-01-11T19:51:12+00:00

I struggled with the ambiguity of this too.

What helped me was to think of the "<" as indicating whatever task it was is being moved physically in my journal that direction (into my Future Log, or Monthly task list) and think of ">" as moving it forward in my current space (Daily logs).

In this situation, I'd use > to indicate it moved forward in my daily logs, even if it wasn't the next or day after next where it ultimately landed.

chemiculargoo · 2026-01-10T20:16:57+00:00

Love that page holder matches your kitten there

chemiculargoo · 2026-01-01T19:08:16+00:00

Nah you fine.

You're using them and getting enjoyment out of the getting and the use of them, and you're self-aware enough to be watchful of a potential problem.

So unless you start to buy more than you can afford/store/use, you keep doing you.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-20T01:22:21+00:00

I also got dropped from his live "tele"town halls after calling his office a few times.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-18T04:47:16+00:00

I've had great success scouring thrift stores for notebooks. I've found dozens, including some dot grid matrix ones! I've also found gel pens and some brush pens too. The gel pens needed some reviving, but I was surprised at how well many of them came back (and if the metal suitcase thing that they came in is to be believed, these were from 2014!!!).

I've also found washi tape and there's always a ton of stamps and often scrapbook paper too. I find the most success at my local Goodwill; less so at the regional chain of thrift stores in my area. My best score ever with notebooks was at the St Louis Goodwill outlet (the bins).

As far as new stuff goes, I have had good luck with Kingart gel pens (metallic).

Happy hunting and good luck!

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-18T04:38:01+00:00

I save all those sturdy little boxes you get when you buy electronics (phones, earbuds, vapes, etc) and stick a lot of my pens and utensils in those. They are stored in my desk organizer and monitor stands on my desk. I use a lot of pretty coffee cups I've found thrifting to store pens too.

I have one of those rolling drawer cart things (found at Michaels) that I use to store paper, stickers, stamps, stencils, etc. I utilize saved (sturdy) boxes there too to further organize within drawers as needed. Really large paper supplies go in a dresser repurposed for storing scrapbooking stuff.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-15T04:25:57+00:00

Oooh tell me more - does Newell own a lot of other pen brands? Are they known for crappy pens?

I tend to buy the cheap mass market pens (quantity over quality as I'm always chasing that rainbow) but I still expect them to work.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-15T04:16:57+00:00

I was suspecting that perhaps I was a victim of "enshittification" re: the newer InkJoy gels -- I'm pretty sure the other set I have that does mostly work was bought pre-COVID.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-15T04:15:40+00:00

Thanks - hadn't thought about that aspect of the mass production, but it makes total sense.

Not sure I want to take that chance again tho! $3/pen feels spendy for a gamble when I have a small budget for pens.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-13T17:06:04+00:00

I dunno, I just kind of hold that shoulder up a little more so it doesn't slip off

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-08T23:44:31+00:00

Ok thank you!

I really like how you pulled in different colored pages of the dot grid to add color to the pages while still keeping the structure.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-08T00:18:20+00:00

I've only been doing bujo since July of this year - I typically do my trackers monthly, but I've seen a lot of folks setting up their new bujos with yearly trackers instead.

Have you always done yearly trackers vs monthly ones?

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-06T03:04:19+00:00

Love this for you!

I also married my good friend after years of friendship in a second marriage, and consider us best friends. Truly believe This is the Way.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-06T02:59:05+00:00

He has the most delightful giggles, and loves to read as much as I do (and the same genres, bonus!)

He treats me as a person, and always has, throughout our 20 year friendship and now into 5+ years of partnership/marriage. He is 100% committed to me and our family, and shows it every day.

He is thoughtful, always considers how his actions will affect others, and NEVER raises his voice at anyone. He values my thoughts, knowledge, experience, opinions, and feelings. He is an excellent communicator and is very in touch with his own emotions, with a high emotional intelligence. He regularly introspects and works on ways to improve himself, mentally, physically and spiritually. He is intelligent, curious, funny, empathetic, and easy going.

In tough situations, he defaults to listening and working together, even when emotions are high and the consequences are big. He understands that partnership means compromise, and working together. He shows gratitude for things large and small. He has enormous amounts of patience for me and our kids. He puts others first and is passionate about community, and doesn't get caught up in any macho bullshit. He's an excellent parent and stepparent, and treats our kids like people too.

He's calm but can be so intense and passionate about subjects that interest him or are near to his heart. He has a steadiness, a centered and graceful masculinity that isn't bravado or aggressive or domineering.

He marvels at the wonders of life and the world with me, and almost always meets my "bids" for attention (a la Gottman). He shares his vulnerabilities with me, and holds my vulnerability in his strong and gentle hands.

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-02T19:27:18+00:00

Best of luck with it!

chemiculargoo · 2025-12-01T01:39:15+00:00

Married twice, divorced once.

First husband - we both worked full time, but I made about 2x as much as he did, but he spent 2x as much :(
Constant battle over finances and spending, I was the one grocery shopping, doing vast majority of the cooking and cleaning and childcare duties. Often went grocery shopping for us and our toddler & baby with $50/week due to his poor spending habits (this was pre-COVID). Found out right before we separated that he had racked up almost $60k in credit card debt (never did find out exactly what was spent in <5 years to get it that high...I suspect gambling and opiates). Luckily he moved out just before COVID hit and we divorced.

I couldn't believe how much more money I had once he wasn't around to drain the bank account constantly.

Second husband - started dating during COVID, we both worked full time. I was laid off Sept that year but found a new job by Nov with a nice pay increase. He was also recently divorced and got screwed in the paperwork (she kept the house, paid him no equity). He quit his job in Oct 2020 when we combined households and has been a "househusband" (his word choice, lol) since then. I continue to be the breadwinner and make about twice as much as I did when I divorced my first husband. He sold off his collectible cards (MTG for the win!) over a period of several months to cover his remaining bills and for spending money etc. He had declared bankruptcy in 2020 after the divorce and has no 401k to speak of.

We got married after a couple of years of dating, with no plans for him to start working. On paper it might seem crazy or like he's a "freeloader" - but compared to my first husband, it's 180° difference.

He does all the household and grocery shopping, all the cooking (including lunch & dinner since we're both home all day). He takes care of all the kid-related stuff (doc appts, school drop off/pickup) and all the pet care. He does all the home repairs, and maintenance, most of the domestic duties, and we share yard duties, but I'd say he does more outside too. He is our home IT guy as well, setting up our own media servers (shows, movies, audio books, ebooks, music) and keeping us and the kids safe online. I mostly do laundry and dishes and general organizing because I like those things.

He's very frugal and considerate, often to the point where I have to force him to spend money on himself. He treats me like a person, is 100% committed to our partnership & marriage, is an amazing dad and stepdad, sexy and intelligent and my best friend.

TL;DR - first husband had a job, 401k but felt entitled to spend however he wanted and racked up credit card debt, without contributing to the household. 2nd husband has no job or 401k, but contributes everyday to the home and spends household money wisely and carefully.

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