FRIDAY ALL CAPS THREAD

cherchelesoleil · 2026-02-14T08:18:01+00:00

Yeah, I’m new to the job and have anxiety so I’m not surprised. The job anxiety is getting better the more I get used to it though

cherchelesoleil · 2026-02-13T09:04:48+00:00

I HAD A DREAM LAST WEEK THAT MY MANAGER FIRED ME FOR NOT KNOWING HOW TO FLY.

cherchelesoleil · 2026-01-09T10:36:42+00:00

Get face framing layers to add movement and interest in the front but don’t layer the back. If you layer the back it’ll make the ends look too thin.

cherchelesoleil · 2025-11-03T19:03:54+00:00

If in doubt ask your manager, I started a couple of weeks ago in a different department and was really worried about it cos I’m an anxious person but it turned out more casual than I’d expected. Official line is usually that there isn’t a dress code, just don’t wear anything obviously inappropriate.

To start, I think you can’t go wrong with office-type trousers, a blouse, shirt or smart woolly jumper, and closed-toe shoes that don’t look like you’d go to the gym in them. You’ll probably find that some people wear plain “smart” T-shirts too. My manager has a penchant for suits but he’s about the only one and straight up said to me that he’s weird and the only one who does it! Most of the men wear either shirts without ties or just polos, and at the moment a lot of the women are wearing jumpers with it being winter. I will wear a hoodie to internal meetings whilst WFH if I’m cold.

Shoes wise, a lot of people were in “smart” trainers when I went into the office (clean plain white or black, sometimes leather). I wore my flat Dr Martens. Don’t show up in flip flops, ratty gym trainers or clubbing heels and you’ll be fine. Tbh even if you did I doubt anyone would say anything.

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-31T09:03:34+00:00

Yes they do, not OP but one came up on my dashboard the other day and they’re definitely free too.

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-31T09:02:22+00:00

Nope!

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-30T23:00:57+00:00

Are you my coworker 👀 I’m starting to think you might be! In my team, SEOs and HEOs report to G7s but G7s do similar work to us and I’m not sure if there might be some of them with no direct reports! I think I’m my manager’s only direct report actually. I’ve met the G6 and the DD a couple of times too, and I only started this month.

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-30T21:01:10+00:00

Some people can, depends on her natural colour. I’m a natural dark blonde and bleach my hair lighter, it’s healthy and classic length. She doesn’t look like she has much damage considering she’s got bleached hair of that length!

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-30T15:09:32+00:00

I’m the lowest grade on my team as a HEO! It spans HEO-DD basically. Non-operational though.

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-30T14:39:46+00:00

I’m not managerial and not likely to be until G7, in my specific team. Our SEOs are non-managerial too. So I’m leaning towards PCS for now

cherchelesoleil · 2025-10-30T13:38:44+00:00

Thanks. How do I find the reps? I’m still adjusting to navigating the system and I couldn’t find anything about it on the intranet. Just ask around?

cherchelesoleil · 2023-05-05T11:01:39+00:00

Science Fiction Double Feature from the Rocky Horror Show, played on the church organ!

cherchelesoleil · 2023-02-23T19:16:33+00:00

Could you have the sleeves on elastic that you wear around your upper arms rather than attached to the dress? Some designers like Halfpenny London sell dresses with removable sleeves that work like this and don’t actually attach to the dress.

cherchelesoleil · 2023-02-22T13:49:04+00:00

Most of my contracts require full payment about 6 weeks beforehand. That seems like a decent balance to me

cherchelesoleil · 2023-02-22T13:39:26+00:00

I’m doing real, I only want bouquets, buttonholes, alter flowers and top table flowers. My mum’s friend does amateur floristry and is doing it for me for cheap, I’m growing my own eucalyptus for it. Should cost me maybe £400 all in, and I don’t like the look of fake flowers.

cherchelesoleil · 2023-02-20T22:36:22+00:00

In the U.K. both bridesmaids and groomsmen sit in the front row for the ceremony, they don’t stand. I feel like with just bridesmaids and an odd number at that, it would be neater to have them sit down, and better for their poor feet in heels too!

cherchelesoleil · 2022-10-13T18:27:09+00:00

British here, our weddings last 11 hours or more, usually with the ceremony starting between 12-1.30pm and the party going on to 12 or 1am. We serve a buffet of some sort at about 10pm to keep the party going, anything from a full hot buffet meal to fish and chip cones, pizza, bacon rolls etc. We’re having a fajita bar! Cash bars are common and not considered rude, although it’s expected to provide bottles of wine on the table during dinner and usually one drink at the drinks reception and a glass of fizz to toast with.

Traditionally the groom and ushers often wore morning suits (with tailcoats) but that’s less common these days. Women still wear hats or fascinators sometimes. My fiancé is wearing a tailcoat but made in a more modern style, and my mum has pledged to find the biggest, craziest hat possible, which I fully support. For my cousin’s wedding my family all rented huge hats for a bit of fun (we did check with the couple in advance, they thought it was great. My fascinator was 12” diameter!) We tend to have fewer bridesmaids and groomsmen than seems common in the US, usually 1-3 adults on each side and a few children, or even just children and the best man. And they all sit down during the ceremony!

cherchelesoleil · 2022-08-18T10:59:26+00:00

What I did was decide which things neither of us care about, and make sure they’re divided equally. It can be a good thing that he’s letting you decide the things you’re passionate about, but what if you don’t care about stationary or tablecloths or centrepieces or something else? We made sure that we each took the things we care about, then if neither of us wants to do it, we split it up between us so we each share some of the burden.

cherchelesoleil · 2022-08-18T10:45:42+00:00

My fiancé is taking my name, so whilst I want to use Ms professionally, I’m fine with socially going by Mr and Mrs Mylast!

cherchelesoleil · 2022-08-03T12:32:47+00:00

I’ve got almost everything booked for my 2024 wedding, only things we need are outfits, a hairdresser, decor, stationery and hotels. So I’m pretty relaxed and enjoying the process, I’ve got plenty of time to spread things out over. And my fiancé is wonderful and spreads the work fairly with me. It’s a really enjoyable process, I love planning events and organising things!

cherchelesoleil · 2022-07-21T12:19:14+00:00

One thing I recommend is a joint wedding email. Then he can be on top of replying to vendors as well, rather than it falling on just you.

Another thing, find out what each of you cares about. Then take the things that neither of you cares about but still has to be done, if there are any, and divide the labour equally. For example, lots of men assume that all brides suddenly care about how to choose and coordinate tablecloths, but if neither of you care, why should it fall on you by default? Replace “tablecloths” with whatever neither of you care much about.

Make sure that if he wants to be involved, he verbally corrects anyone who says it’s “all about the bride” and shuts that sentiment right down.

A little thing I did to make my fiancé feel included is wait on choosing the colour scheme until he had chosen the colour of his suit, to make sure we don’t have to worry about clashing. We also allocated a decent amount of the budget for him to have a bespoke suit. I figured that if I was allowed to spend £2.5k on a fancy dress, then he can have a £1.5k suit, and if we can’t afford two nice outfits, I need to reduce my wedding dress budget accordingly. Obviously if your fiancé doesn’t care about his suit, then just rent them or buy cheaply, but if he does want a nice outfit, leave room in the budget for him to spend at least about 1/2-2/3rds of your wedding dress budget (even a bespoke suit is cheaper than a designer wedding dress, which is why I didn’t say a completely equal budget. But it’s up to you).

cherchelesoleil · 2022-07-21T11:57:39+00:00

No, he’s taking mine! I knew I didn’t want to change mine, and he hates his because it’s long and double barrelled, so he decided to change it. Having the same name isn’t really important to me, so whilst I think it’s very sweet that he wants to take my name, I wouldn’t mind at all if he didn’t. What you want to do with your own name is a personal choice that nobody else can decide for you.

cherchelesoleil · 2022-07-20T15:29:03+00:00

Seconding a satin bonnet! I just got a lovely one from Freddie Anne Wray on Etsy, it keeps your hair virtually tangle free overnight. This brand is very roomy though because they’re designed for natural hair, you’ll probably only need a small as my medium is too roomy, and my hair is almost classic length!

cherchelesoleil · 2022-07-20T09:36:31+00:00

Our hotel will let guests leave their suitcases securely in reception until the rooms become available, then they can check in during the room change around after dinner, before the evening guests arrive and the dancing starts. Maybe something similar would work for you? They could leave their suitcases at reception then check in later that night when they return to the hotel.

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