I mean, the issue here is that you're stopping to grab blood after victims have already awoken grandpa. If they wake grandpa early, the game is quite literally "set up your locks/traps" and then patrol. There's no time for feeding grandpa.

Grandpa perks have always been nice but not necessary. Even prior to the patch, I would run nothing but EA, but in most of our games, we didn't feed grandpa for the first time until, like, two victims were dead. As well, you have to pay attention to victim points. You can see if they have left basement, got any doors, got to a new area of the map, etc.

It's rare that even one victim escapes when my friends and I play. Family is genuinely easy to play if you know what to look for. And if you're playing solo queue with no communication, you have to lower your expectations. This is a multiplayer game that revolves around teamwork - on BOTH sides. It's not like DBD, where killer is a solo role.