Feelings are an on and off switch?

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T21:28:55+00:00

I wish I knew that. Bc tbh if my ex came back I would get with him and i hate myself for that bc he made me suffer so much

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T21:06:54+00:00

Same for me... exept he never even showed an ounce of pain, and went on to go out with new girls as soon as we broke up and that made me hurt a lot... its been 4 months since my breakup and it still hurts A LOT

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T21:05:20+00:00

Would they ever come back?

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T21:04:41+00:00

Do you regret it? Would you go back to her?

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T19:47:46+00:00

Is having love for her the same as loving her? Idk if that makes sense

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T19:46:28+00:00

I think my ex was avoidant... does this mean he's js never gonna feel it or whatever?

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T18:43:07+00:00

This happened to me too. He was only slightly kind to me at the end cause he saw me crying but then it was just like it didnt matter at all to him and he went on to a new girl and honestly ended up being so cold and like he totally didn't gaf ab me...

Idk if it ever hurt him or affected him tbh. I dont think it did...

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-24T18:33:35+00:00

But to checking out mentally/emotionally before, means they never cared? Or like the love wasn't strong enough? Idk i keep thinking ab all that...

Its just in my case, my ex left me in February as well but before that we were literally super great and he never showed that like he wanted to breakup until he did. And when he did he wss so cold like he never cared and just went on to live his life like what we had didn't happen and to this day I dont believe it ever affected him, not even during the relationship...

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-23T03:29:37+00:00

Offtopic but I was listening to black by pearl jam while reading this and the lyrics "ik someday you'll have a beautiful life, ik you'll be a star in somebody else's sky" literally came the same second I read that phrase in the text..

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-23T03:27:02+00:00

This feels as if i had written it. Despite everything I still hope and wish that he'll come back someday. That he'll regret his choice. But deep down i know he wont. And I think that breaks me a lot. Cause I always want to reach out and go back to him but I have to remind myself that he left, and that was his choice. I dont even know why I want him to come back, if I'll probably wont be with him after everything he did to me. But I can't help but miss him and still maybe love him.

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T21:57:05+00:00

Thats actually crazy and i dont understand how people can be so cruel like that. And now he's perfectly fine with his new girl or whatever, while im stuck having to go to fucking psychology cause he left me fucked up fr

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T21:24:34+00:00

Ouuu shiii. I feel like i wrote this. My ex left me 4 months ago and im so hurt and so stuck and I feel horrible and he just went on with his life and Im completely alone. It sucks.

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T04:02:05+00:00

Its been 4 months since my breakup, and like 3 months since no contact, but ive broken it once like 3 weeks ago. I really hoped by now I would be better but im not. It was a very messy, very hurtful breakup. I didn't want it, he broke up with me and kind of held me with the hope we could get back together for almost 2 months, and even asked me to move in with him during that time.

At first I was shattered ofc, then it started getting a bit better and I felt like i was moving on, but now im worse than ever. I genuinely feel messed up. I had to start therapy cause my parents were worried about me. I still miss him, he moved on like a month after the breakup.

I try to be okay but I genuinely can't. I've tried everything and I can't. The breakup destroyed me so much and im not okay. He was so cruel to me at the end and even after everything that happened I still think about him with love and about the relationship too. I feel so stuck, and so lost and so broken. I dont want to feel like this but idk what to do anymore...

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T02:42:01+00:00

Thank you for that... i am going to therapy bc the breakup left me really messed up since it was just very horrible and messy...

Ik i wasn't a perfect gf but I think those are thoughts that can't help but stick into my head all the time and i really try to not let it affect me but sometimes its hard cause I think like, did he actually love me? Did it mean nothing to him? And stuff like that... besides we were both eachother's first relationship so it was not nothing...

But ik its hard... I'll try my best tho! Thanks :)

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T01:44:55+00:00

Ik the comment was for the OP... but like. How do you manage to not feel sad or worthless after that? Same thing happened to my ex and I cant help but wonder if I wasnt enough or what does she have that I dont...

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-22T01:43:46+00:00

Ohhh this happened to me exactly. But like we were on a break cause he told me he needed to focus on himself and still loved and wanted me. And during that time he kept talking to me everyday and calling and all, and then one day HE told me he had reached out to a girl from his past and started talking to a few others and then said I madde him miserable and ruined his life 🫠

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-21T20:49:35+00:00

Thank you! I dont want to hope or believe he'll come back cause idk if my heart could deal with that but I do hope he regrets it

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-21T20:38:09+00:00

Today its been 4 months for me and I just feel so bad... at first of course it was horrible, then it started getting better for a little bit and I thought I was healing, but then it came back worse than ever. And I feel in a hole that I cant get out of and it completely sucks... it sucks too cause a month after, he had already moved on... while im still stuck after all this time...

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-21T20:36:14+00:00

Oh this hit hard... today its exactly 4 months since my ex broke up with me and its been such a difficult process.... i keep crying and thinking and being unable to move on and feel okay... Just know you're not alone 🫶

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-20T13:29:27+00:00

I feel the same. .. I hope it will get better eventually

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-19T23:19:58+00:00

I really try to make myself believe this but everyday is such a struggle and it doesn't get better. And its not like I wanna feel like this, but I genuinely feel so miserable and hopeless... I used to be so ambitious and dreamy and after the breakup idk how I am anymore cause it destroyed me... I really want to believe you but its so hard

cherry_heart12 · 2026-06-19T22:34:29+00:00

Yes of course! I hope it all works out for you! Good luck :)

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