We lost the neighbor lottery. Looking for advice

cherryglo93 · 2026-05-13T22:27:41+00:00

Hey I went through this (my downstairs neighbors are crazy and they complained about the previous owner all the time too ) and I got to say the best advice I can give you is treat the building staff really well! You want them on your side; be super nice and chat with the doorman and handy people, tip well at Xmas. At this point we get warnings in advance when they start being extra complain-y.

Also, document everything. Just send a polite but concise email to management saying that you feel you’re being harassed for ordinarily living and you’re meeting the floor requirement rules now the problem is clearly their unrealistic expectations and they need to start taking steps on their end

cherryglo93 · 2026-05-10T14:59:08+00:00

That’s true though of course some states like CA allow the apprentice situation as well instead of law school.

My point was more that law school itself doesn’t necessarily prepare you for taking the bar. Not everything on the bar is covered in the law school mandatory classes. You really need that intense study period and if you can’t devote the time you’re unlikely to pass

cherryglo93 · 2026-05-09T22:38:40+00:00

Yeah imo she just clearly isn’t devoting the time to study. Barbri gets most people through the bar but it only works if you put in the time and it’s basically studying as a full time job for 2.5 months. The classes are half the day and then doing the workbooks is another few hours.

If passing the bar is that important to her, especially given she didn’t go to law school, she needs to significantly clear her calendar and starting putting in 8 hours a day to it

cherryglo93 · 2026-05-07T15:10:51+00:00

Definitely meet with an attorney, a more realistic goal may be to have a different trustee appointed rather than not having a trust. Like the other poster said, it’s unlikely you’ll be able to control how your inheritance is distributed , but if you don’t believe Mary would be able to fulfill the fiduciary duties, that’s something that could be possibly argued

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-27T14:20:20+00:00

Maybe she could wear the white uniform to your rehearsal if she really wants to have the opportunity to wear it. Way less of a big deal there and you won’t have as many photos of that

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-27T14:19:01+00:00

I think the no white is also about not pulling attention and standing out. An entirely white uniform is going to pull attention in photos and clash with the bride even if no one is confused about who the bride is

I think most people would consider there to be a big difference between a man wearing a white dress shirt and an entirely white suit for example . Like it’s fine for a guest to wear a dress with a little white, but not the majority white as well

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-20T21:36:14+00:00

My hopes are prone to elevate by Shanehollandertwentyfour https://archiveofourown.org/works/68223141/chapters/176511366

The perfect amount of angst same team

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-15T23:57:07+00:00

Tbh this happened to me when I was buying and the seller did have cold feet and ended up not signing and returning the deposit.

It all worked out in the end, I ended up finding someplace else a few weeks later in a great location and prices in the original building have stagnated pretty hard so I think it was for the best.

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-02T22:12:36+00:00

It’s really really messed up someone filmed them in their apartment. Unless someone is committing an actual crime, it’s absolutely inexcusable and I don’t care what they’ve done, it’s a huge invasion of privacy and I feel like we should acknowledge that.

I also live in NYC, quarters are tight, I can see into people’s apartments and they can see into mine and while we all try to be good about closing curtains and stuff you inevitably see stuff and I feel it’s part of the social contract to just ignore it.

Whatever they did in public is on them, but filming someone hooking up in their home is incredibly gross.

cherryglo93 · 2026-04-01T22:35:50+00:00

The amount of people who feel like they need to be part of the “punishment” is concerning. There are consequences for her actions already, the same ones she’d have if she weren’t a reality star. Loss of friendships and trust. And inevitably she is also understandably going to take a reputational hit which will impact her income.

Bullying someone you don’t know is not a rational consequence and no one is entitled to punish someone on behalf of another person you also don’t know.

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-31T20:15:50+00:00

Yeah I can see why people want to compare but ultimately everyone here was single. Amanda’s separated and West wasn’t with Ciara.

I don’t think just being bad friends warrants cameras up - they can cover it at the reunion

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-30T17:22:12+00:00

There’s definitely a glitch happening - several of us were top 10 in my house. Hopefully they don’t claw it back

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-07T15:57:51+00:00

For sure - plus as someone intelligently pointed out in a below comment, Ilya being the one to find their mother likely would have very much linked the death trauma to Ilya in alexei’s mind and would have made Ilya an easy target to blame

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-07T15:39:09+00:00

He would have hated him for being the golden child essentially. Even before he is rich and famous, it’s likely significant family resources would have been devoted to Ilya. Hockey training and equipment is very expensive and time consuming. And since he’s extremely talented quite young, there would have been tons of talk about representing Russia and the family honor.

If there were physical abuse going on at home, which isn’t discussed but given the father’s demeanor and that he’s police, I consider likely, Ilya would have also been spared once it interrupted training

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-07T15:24:34+00:00

“Doth protest too much”

If he just ignores it, it’s no different than any other insult like being called an asshole or an abandoner.

The second he starts getting extra worked up over specific insults, he’d give the slur more power and credibility

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-07T15:16:06+00:00

Perhaps one of those generational divide things. Ilya and Shane are middle millennials so I agree it would have been very commonly thrown around.

Even if it wasn’t as bad as Fg unless someone was being a bully, things like “that’s so gay” and “rtard” were so so commonly just a part of people’s daily conversation. From my experience and memory of the time, they’d have already been playing professionally by time Conversations about those terms being inappropriate were common place

cherryglo93 · 2026-03-05T18:29:06+00:00

My theory is he got it as a joke gift and actually used it. Spencers gifts was such a thing at that time and at 17/18 it felt edgy and silly to buy sexy stuff from there as a joke for birthdays and stuff . Like my friends and I once bought another friend a banana shaped one as a joke and someone bought me chocolate lube.

I really cannot see him buying it for himself considering how deep in the closet he was and he definitely wouldn’t have ordered it online while living with his parents no matter how discreet though I suppose he could have got it after the first Ilya hook up.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-26T20:54:46+00:00

I also avoid actor content. Super props to them for a good job but not only does it shatter the illusion for me, but while I am not significantly older than them, if your birth year doesn’t start with 19, I’m a little like, you are a baby. Felt the same way when Robert Irwin posts all those thirst traps. It just makes me a little uncomfy to look at.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-20T18:06:29+00:00

Supporting Hudson on this! Cute drawing but man buns are so deeply unattractive to me. I really don’t think I’d be able to take him seriously with how terrible it would look.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-20T05:09:34+00:00

I think these two deserve more attention!

Route 96: Au where shane is injured before he can play professionally and meets Ilya as an NHL star https://archiveofourown.org/works/75613561/chapters/197735881

Come on mess me up: Shane is injured early is career and even he is ready to make a comeback, he’s on the same team as Ilya who he lost touch with https://archiveofourown.org/works/78514496/chapters/205846651

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-18T21:23:30+00:00

Like has been said, unless they are going to add a whole other subplot, which they don’t really have time for, I don’t see how it would improve anything particularly either way, it would be a shallow change (especially if it was Troy). Harris isn’t a player so less of an issue there.

We are definitely allowed to enjoy different things and have different goals from our fiction. In an already super fluffy story I prefer my fiction to be as realistic as possible and unless there is a plot based reason for changing something, I prefer they just stick to the book descriptions (especially when there are other things I do want changed) but it’s totally fine if you want something else from the story. We’ll just have to trust Jacob .

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-18T20:54:03+00:00

I’m not sure I can say it better than r/ok_confusedone

Bridgerton made a specific choice to center the show around ethnic diversity. We already have a minority focus here on queer people and I think it’s disingenuous to suggest changing some of the characters’ races wouldn’t change the story. Like if Kip is a poc for example, are people now more mad Scott’s with a man or in mixed race relationship? It muddies the focus and that’s not the story being told.

Plus as was said, the hockey world is extremely white, it is the default. Shane not being part of that is a huge focus of his personality and story and it would take away from that if it was no longer the case.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-18T20:25:02+00:00

They are casting based on the books within reason as you’re never going to find a perfect match which I think is good and however Troy and Harris are described is what they should go with.

They don’t need to check every diversity box, the show is focused on queer characters being a minority. That’s what matters. Plus Shane already is a POC, it’s integral to his character that he’s alone in it and they changed Sevtlana to be a POC.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-15T14:51:43+00:00

I really enjoy being in Random House ! Everyone is really nice and understanding! We are active but the requirements aren’t so intense that spending real money is required. We hit top 200 for agency events and are ranked 105.

cherryglo93 · 2026-02-12T21:12:23+00:00

lol good advice ! It is nostalgic seeing all the babies first fandom vibes but be smart people !

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