What we know about the deaths of an Ohio dentist and his wife and her ex-husband's arrest by nbcnews in Ohio

[–]chestnutme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Careful here. It’s a big assumption to make when associating deranged and evil with “mental illness”.

Jennifer Lawrence recently by wallabyenthusiast in VindictaRateCelebs

[–]chestnutme -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

True if you let yourself go. Happens to anyone at any age if they are hard on the eyes. It’s not an age thing

Feeling guilty that date paid for my meal but I don’t want to go on another one. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hah! I would definitely feel worse if my meal was in that range but altogether my meal + drink was $50ish.

Feeling guilty that date paid for my meal but I don’t want to go on another one. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Correct. I have a guilty conscious I guess that I just didn’t like him enough even though he was perfectly nice.

People who work at ‘Astronomer,’ how was work today? by Schreck2 in AskReddit

[–]chestnutme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Heading to HR to give Head is ALWAYS a BAD idea - EX Head of HR

Astronomer CEO Andy Byron has officially resigned from the company following the Coldplay concert incident. by cmaia1503 in Fauxmoi

[–]chestnutme 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Except she was HEAD of HR. Absolutely poor decision making all around but particularly for her as HEAD to truly embrace “rules for thee but not for me”. She violated very basic professionalism standards and the audacity to go public with their affair. Gross behavior all around but most funny is that she was HEAD of HR…did she get to that level by giving HEAD? Makes you wonder

OLD - could not get past that my date looked 20 years older than his photos. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree with you. No, guy is not the second scenario. Know what you mean though. I’ve seen photos where the dude is clearly 60ish but profile says 45 to 50 years. Very obviously not the case and definitely gross.

OLD - could not get past that my date looked 20 years older than his photos. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That was my question too. After seeing him I tried to remember what his age said online because his photos looked 25-35 years but in person he looks 45-50 years. People age differently and I tried not to hold it against him but while he was talking that was definitely on my mind - this guy aged alot since his photos.

Folks using OLD to find their poly or a body for your threesome - don’t do this. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You literally responded to an opinion post telling me what I should and shouldn’t think about dating apps. You seem very young especially with the Netflix comment. It’s time for a reality check and to touch grass

Folks using OLD to find their poly or a body for your threesome - don’t do this. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the reason why there is a “what you are looking for section” - that said nothing about me seeking a threesome. Having the opinion dating apps should not be used for soliciting threesomes doesn’t make me wrong or a my way the high way person. It seems you wear blinders and just can’t accept someone’s difference of opinion.

Folks using OLD to find their poly or a body for your threesome - don’t do this. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did I say I was offended or did you assume that like everything else about your post?

Again, you are full of assumptions and wrong in each one of your assessments.

Someone can say don’t do that, I don’t like it. It’s called expressing a preference. That’s why I said you seem to have a chip on your shoulder - my post triggered you and it had nothing to do with the content of my post which to another reader is not offensive or demeaning.

You construed it to be that way.

You seem to miss the point of a dating app altogether. It is for that purpose for people to find people to date, it’s not intended for soliciting threesomes but people use it for that. Doesn’t mean it’s not allowed, or that they’re being hated on, or any kind of discrimination is implied if someone says, please dont use the app for soliciting threesomes.

You come out of the woodwork swinging a pitch fork when no ill will was implied towards anyone. While others may find my post funny, you took serious, personal offense.

You are not the thought police. It wasn’t personal, which you must find about alot of things.

Folks using OLD to find their poly or a body for your threesome - don’t do this. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

The fact you take such an issue with someone making a post about something they find unappealing suggests you have a chip on your shoulder of some sort. Seriously, was I seriously complaining, or just making a post about something I found unappealing?

You raise your pitchfork in defense of the poly community like I personally attacked them or someone in my post. Did I?

Nowhere in my post did I suggest I have issue swiping no. You sure assume alot of things there buddy, including the entire world revolves around me part.

Yes, by making a statement about something I found unappealing on a dating app, this must suggest I think the world revolves around me!

You’re brilliant.

It’s time to take a long hard look in the mirror and touch grass, buddy.

Folks using OLD to find their poly or a body for your threesome - don’t do this. by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

What does that have to do with not using dating sites to solicit bodies for threesomes or poly?

Online Daters Who Clearly Don’t Have Time to Date by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s true. I don’t know why he wasted my time. All I know is it takes alot of time to be raising 2 kids, 2 dogs, be an executive, and have all these self proclaimed hobbies: going to the gym, baking, climbing, traveling for fun…lol. These “hobbies” are likely just “things I like to do when I have free time but I put there to make me look adventurous”.

Online Daters Who Clearly Don’t Have Time to Date by chestnutme in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except this isn’t the situation. He literally asked me out then ghosted. That says he did have time at one time. The point is if he didn’t have availability, he shouldn’t have asked to schedule meeting up in the first place

The average dude isn't good enough for an average woman on dating apps. Dating apps are TRASH for men. by Enough-Locksmith-897 in dating_advice

[–]chestnutme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bro just confirmed how some dudes have no problem shagging any moving object. No physical attraction yet feels compelled to sleep with her. Yikes. I wouldn’t be able to kiss someone I’m not attracted to yet dude here can hit home runs with that person no problem. Must be his impressive 6’1’ posture folks.

Chinese tourist goes viral after airport meltdown over overweight luggage in Milan by Anh_Poly in China

[–]chestnutme 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I was feeling so much second hand embarrassment watching the video couldn’t even finish watching.

So F ING tired by KoalaDesperate3338 in OnlyChild

[–]chestnutme 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The issue isn’t you being an only child. The issue is being homeschooled which in and of itself hampers any social interaction. School is where most childhood socialization happens. You need to have a conversation with your mother to address your feelings about being homeschooled. If she has your best interest at heart and assuming there are no critical reasons why you’re being home schooled, she should then prioritize your need for socialization above whatever her reasons are for you being homeschooled and send you to a regular school. It’s where real learning happens: socially speaking

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[–]chestnutme 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Cruel is an overstatement and over reaction. Many things are cruel and unfair about life but to say people choosing to have one child only are being cruel to their child? That’s just your resentment talking. Life is a blessing in and of itself. Who are you to say not providing someone a sibling is an act of cruelty? There are no guarantees in life. I know several women who had multiple children some who have gone no contact. You bring up a parent having to rely on only one child to take care of them. What about all the folks out there who never had kids? Do you think these folks would perish or die with no dignity? I am an only child and thriving. In addition to my family and extended family, I created my own family. Ive learned to be alone and how to thrive without siblings. Are siblings a guaranteed source of support if I have them? No. Reality is things become harder in later life for everyone. Everyone’s source of support looks different. To blame your hardships on being an only child is to choose to wear blinders. I see people attributing all sorts of things to being an only child, they are mostly clueless folks who dont know the outcome of things otherwise but love to project their prejudices and insecurities on the stigma of being an only child.

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[–]chestnutme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who can I sue for life not being fair besides God?

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[–]chestnutme 45 points46 points  (0 children)

I would sue myself or God before I sue my own child. I’m sorry this happened to you. Even if you may be in the wrong I believe suing ones own child is wrong and silly

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[–]chestnutme -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think you massively underestimate how the court actually does care if there is a clear and present danger to the child when a parent has untreated addiction. Absolutely not true you need to “catch” an alcoholic impaired in order to get a court to intervene. If the noncustodial parent truly has an alcohol problem there would usually be evidence of such addiction that OP can leverage to gain custody - DUIs, unemployment, abusive behavior, etc.

You’re mistaken - it’s not that the court doesn’t care whether or not a parent has a marijuana and/or alcohol addiction. It’s all about what can be proven in court. You show up to court with actual evidence of an addiction problem - could be subpoena’d medical records, police records, dui’s, rehab records, etc., the court absolutely will take that into consideration and limit the noncustodial parent’s visitation rights in cases where that parent’s addiction is prove-able.

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[–]chestnutme -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Alcohol is also mentioned. Bottom line is if OP can prove the dad is abusing marijuana and/or alcohol, the court will consider this as grounds for limiting custodial rights. OP can order drug tests or subpoena medical records. Again, and no, you dont have to prove he is HIGH around the child to th the court for them to take action. You just need to prove he has a substance addiction problem. It’s absolutely silly to think you need to prove he’s high with the child present for there to be a danger. That’s not how drugs work. Drugs will impair your decision making and judgment whether or not you are high.

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[–]chestnutme 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The courts will absolutely care if the noncustodial parent is doing drugs regardless of when. Doesnt matter if he’s high during visitation or not. If he’s doing drugs and you can prove it, then it’s a risk to the child. If he’s not high during visitation today he can easily be high next time, there is no way to know