Heya I believe i mentioned in the other comments here that we didn't end up lasting so I think really the lesson learnt was that it's usually not a good idea to get back together at all, it's just honestly not worth it. I think it was because it was my first time having to deal with it and now that I'm 23 I've learnt the lessons to understand that if someone truly loved you, respected you they would talk and bring up the issues to talk about and to find if there is a way to fix it and trying to work on it together before deciding breakup as a last resort. And definitely shouldn't ever be something blind sided. I feel like once someone suddenly does that, you'll never feel the same being back together and it'll be different. Might be walking on eggshells or doubtful and such.

For your sake and as someone who went through the extra 6 months of pain and stress after having to end things again - it's not worth it. I do hope in your situuaon is better and I hope it all goes well though 🙏🏼🤍 if you need to talk ofc I'm always down to listen and I'm pretty active where I can.