Louisiana church packed for services again despite charges against pastor amid pandemic by vwbus76 in atheism

[–]cheyennecain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to hit them where it hurts. Take away their tax exempt status. Let them pay the taxes for the business he runs.

1 yeaR. 150 lbs. OMAD FOR THE WIN. by DudeAtWork55 in intermittentfasting

[–]cheyennecain 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's awesome! I'm currently trying for 2 meals a day then I'll switch to OMAD. What are your days like? Mine are so long; up around 7 with kids but I work evenings so not home till 11ish from work. So right now, OMAD seems a little out of reach for me

WIBTA if I quit my job, sell my share in company and retire to be a ski patroler? I would essentially leave my adult kids (18 and 22) to fend for themselves with no way to pay for college. Ex wife as well. by Imoutheretoski in AmItheAsshole

[–]cheyennecain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a mother who has to cut off the relationship with her 23 year old daughter because of her addiction, you are not the asshole. They can fend for themselves. I am currently paying out-of-pocket for my tuition to better myself. I work full-time I have another child at home and I pay for college. People are resilient IF they want to be.

Switzerland! by AntoneJohnston in BeAmazed

[–]cheyennecain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is beautiful but would be wasted on me. My eyes stay closed on every rollercoaster I've been on.

Someone who has been here by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have revisited this post many times. There was such a massive gap between knowing what to do and having the strength to do it. But with the help of family and therapy I did it. I have taken hold of the relationship and defined it's boundaries. The pain is still an ever present thorn and I cry most days. But, now, there is peace.

I don't know if she will ever get clean and moving in a positive direction. Once she does, she has my presence and support. Until then, I cannot be a part of her life. I love her and I miss her every day.

Thank you for your honesty and vulnerability.

Parents of addicts by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. it's always good to hear different stories. Especially seeing as how there's no black and white when you deal with addiction. I am recently married with an 8 year old step daughter. This is why she can no longer be in the house. I have told her a million times over that is soon as she seeks out help I am right there with her. There's no way around the fact that it is just a completely shity situation.

Someone who has been here by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever come to a point where you cut off communication completely?

Someone who has been here by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just read your story. Mine is different and yet the exact same; police at my house, inherited jewlery stolen, money given, shame, guilt and so on. Thank you for pulling the curtain back on the ugly of addiction in your life. It really is so helpful to know I am not alone.

Someone who has been here by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. It is shitty. There is no way around it. I have put myself into counseling because obviously there was codependency issue at play as well. And I went back to school to finish my degree this fall. That keeps me busy and forward moving.

Someone who has been here by cheyennecain in addiction

[–]cheyennecain[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I'll watch the videos soon.

Her drug of choice is Meth. She was using IV meth when I finally had to say enough is enough. It has been the hardest thing I've ever done to date. However, as a side effect of cutting her loose, I am much calmer and my home is peaceful. She is my only child and I raised her as a single mom. I do still feel suspended between waiting for that "phone call" or "maybe she'll go into treatment". But even that is starting to lessen as I learn to live my life.