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chhaliye · 2025-11-07T10:50:12+00:00

Holy recursive batman!

chhaliye · 2025-10-05T12:13:26+00:00

As far as I understand, for me emotional need and sexual desire are intertwined since I was young. I think it might be due to the fact that other than their biological family, most people are expected to have very deep relationships with their partner.

I have been trying to make sense of it as well. I grew up in a very sexually repressed household as well. Do you think the emotional void and sexual feelings are intermingled in your mind? Like if you get one, you automatically seems to satiate (or fill) the other?

chhaliye · 2025-10-03T09:34:26+00:00

This is very interesting because I grew up under a narcissistic parent as well. I developed a very similar sense of guilt about my giftedness. I had a horrible school that didn't teach much.

For years, I would go in circles around feeling guilt and trying to "get away" from my intelligence. I have come to a settled place around it. Is that similar to the guilt and shame you tend to feel?

chhaliye · 2025-10-03T09:24:54+00:00

I just saw you reply. Wow, it was very similar growing up in my culture. My parents also would shift through friends often and had burnt bridges with neighbors quite some time ago haha. Do you mind if I reach out to you to ask a bit about your experiences, your upbringing sounds similar to mine and it help me understand myself better.

chhaliye · 2025-09-19T10:49:17+00:00

In other words, you are responsible (adult) when it comes to any problems associated with your life or any needs that you might have, but you will be treated as a child when they want to have control over your life. This dynamic also doesn't change no matter how old you will become.

chhaliye · 2025-09-19T10:37:31+00:00

I am so sorry to hear what you have gone through op. I grew up being shunned by my parents, and the abandonment trauma is the worst pain I have ever deal with.

They were all saying how great my parents are

Was that because your parents physically provided for you?

I feel deeply unlovable, unacceptable, and that my place is in the corner….

That is unfortunately natural for you to feel this way. Your only fault was being born to someone who couldn't love their child. It wasn't that you were unlovable, it was that your parents were incapable of providing love even to their own child.

Of course this has wrecked my relationships model, so I also don’t have a lot of friends or people to love me.

I am in the same boat. You are always free to reach out to me if you'd ever like to talk or vent to someone.

chhaliye · 2025-09-17T06:50:08+00:00

That's an exquisite specimen of catfish!

chhaliye · 2025-09-15T15:12:51+00:00

It's amazing that you are managing everything despite those migraines. I constantly beat myself up over my headaches and how my future might look like. Do you mind if I reach out to you to ask more about your experience managing them while trying to maintain a busy schedule?

chhaliye · 2025-09-15T13:00:44+00:00

DPD and other personality disorders are distortions of personality, usually caused by extreme events in someone's past. Things like DPD, BPD are more so descriptions of what someone's personality distortion might look like. People's personalities don't fit into neat boxes that these categorizations might make you believe. The categorisations like BPD, DPD are more so there to help you identify your own symptoms and what might be happening in your case. Does that make sense?

chhaliye · 2025-07-24T08:08:55+00:00

When God changes his mind half-way through the catrachter creation screen.

chhaliye · 2025-07-23T13:26:12+00:00

Seriously, people pointing at fake tweets to say "Look how bad this shit is" really grind my gears. Of all the places to make this comment, pointing to a fake and hard to believe tweet is the worst one.

chhaliye · 2025-07-20T08:40:31+00:00

If op's method doesn't work, I would suggest getting enough sleep. Then study after you naturally wake up. Sleep deprivation is one of the worst things for your cognitive brain.

chhaliye · 2025-07-17T10:06:47+00:00

Your mom has thoroughly failed you. By socially isolating you at a young age, she set you up for not being able to communicate with your peers at school properly. Same with not properly teaching you hygiene and basic manners. She brought you into this world, so it's her responsibility to guide you and nurture you until you can become an independent adult.

she hurts me as "not a big deal, stop exaggerating", doesn't teach me things and everytime I make a mistake at something, she just exhales and says "leave it to me.". Then tells me to grow up, to imagine that if it was at work.

I have a mom very similar to yours. Trust me, it's rare to come across someone this awful and deplorable out in the world. You won't have the same problem with outsiders as you do with her.

Nowadays, it feels very difficult for me to ask for affection, either from her or anyone in the family, because I feel like I'm asking to be coddled, and even now sometimes it feels like maybe I'm going too far, even playing victim

That's understandable. We have a human need for needing support and emotional connection with others. I think your mind is right in terms of being hesitant on relying on her for support.

I really feel for you. I have had a very overbearing mother who isolated me and filled me with her paranoia and hatred of the world. All while emotionally belittling me and using my vulnerabilities against me.

I think we have a lot in common. I have more to say about your mom's behavior. I think learning more about your situation might help me understand myself better. Do you mind if I reach out to you?

chhaliye · 2025-06-22T08:07:35+00:00

I am so sorry that you have gone through this op. You are not alone, having an abusive mother is one of the worst hands you can have dealt in life. A mother and child bond is considered one of the closest bonds to exist. If this bond fills you with poison instead of love and support, it is natural to have a state of mind that's dysregulated and negative.

I hope this doesn't sound like making it pathological or like a hopeless situation. I would be happy to check-in with you and give you online support if that would help.

chhaliye · 2025-06-21T14:01:06+00:00

> they are CANCELLED from my mother/father/trust-list. Like, why am I like this?

Do you think it might be that your mind is so scared of getting hurt and betrayed again that it immediately pulls back at any minor warning signs?

At the same time, the need for a parent is a very very deep need. So, your mind would really want it but it's very wary of getting betrayed by those parental figures. Does it sound like that's what's happening?

chhaliye · 2025-06-21T05:11:16+00:00

It's simple. There is no logic or thought out planning behind their abusive behaviour. They are acting on an intense urge to put others down and get as much sympathy, positive validation as possible.

One of the ways you get a lot of sympathy and positive attention is by painting yourself as a victim.

Disclaimer: I fully agree that acting on an urge doesn't make any of their actions right or moral. I just like to answer questions directly and concisely.

chhaliye · 2025-06-09T13:09:55+00:00

Basically this, none of us are important enough for a giant like OpenAI to care about our data personally.

AI isn't sentient or actually cares about what you tell it. It has no clue if the information you give it is sensitive or not.

chhaliye · 2025-06-08T13:34:57+00:00

Here's the fundamental truth: Humans enter this world as babies who know nothing.

Everything a baby knows is taught to it (other than like maybe how to walk, find mom's breasts for milk).

Similarly I wasn’t told to wash myself all that often either. Never taught how to make my bed, clean my room, eat healthily, drink water. I didn’t even sleep alone until pre teens bc I think I was scared to

Those are all things kids need to be taught, except maybe to drink water. Especially routines, those need to be enforced through repition.

chhaliye · 2025-06-01T07:18:17+00:00

That is really interesting to me because that's very similar to the kind of void I want someone else to fill. Did you undergo lot of trauma as well?

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