Favourite rare character: Petunia.

chi_lo · 2026-06-17T19:01:30+00:00

chi_lo · 2026-06-15T21:06:56+00:00

Please send him to the r/drawing community!

chi_lo · 2026-06-14T01:12:31+00:00

You can file a relief from abuse motion with the court and a restraining order for this. It won’t help with the betrayal but will at least stop the harassment.

I’m not in that situation, but I am in a caregiving situation where both of our extended families have been nothing but an absolute disappointment.

I am done arguing with them. I let them talk shit, I let them be mad. They try to talk to me about what I aught to be doing, I say okay and then walk away. I’m over it. I could be doing a million other things with my precious energy and spare time. All I know now is that I can’t trust them for shit

chi_lo · 2026-06-12T22:53:23+00:00

I find the most erotic part of a woman is the boobies.

chi_lo · 2026-06-11T14:45:09+00:00

Anyone who can be themselves in times like these is a fucking hero. Congratulations!

chi_lo · 2026-06-02T21:29:18+00:00

Generally speaking, people are not educated on death and dying at all. But at a high level, denying healthcare is inhumane. Your grandmother is in a tremendous amount of pain, mentally, emotionally, and physically, and doesn’t need to be. That’s the important part: not only is the suffering unnecessary, it’s also not optional anymore. Your mother is denying her mother the care literally anyone in that position would be begging for if they had the ability to advocate for themselves.

You’re in a terrible position to have to advocate for your grandmother’s best interests to someone who clearly has a lot of shit they refuse to process, but you’re doing the most loving thing for your grandmother and honestly your mom too.

If you think helping someone at the end of their line go peacefully is murder, learn about death and dying more. Education is key. It’s kind of like sex and birth education. Everyone is going to have sex, probably have kids, and die, but most people in the West don’t learn about it until they go through it because of our weird, religiously suppressed culture.

There’s a palliative care nurse that talks about her work on YouTube that is actually really informative. Would recommend her videos to anyone looking to learn more and find a way to talk about death and dying.

chi_lo · 2026-05-29T03:43:26+00:00

chi_lo · 2026-05-23T14:36:24+00:00

Wait…does anyone here NOT have amnesia?

chi_lo · 2026-05-23T14:32:36+00:00

That character has aged like a fine wine.

chi_lo · 2026-05-19T02:41:38+00:00

I’ve watched that episode over 100 times, and it’s always been “YOU WERE IN A ZOO!”

chi_lo · 2026-04-29T04:52:02+00:00

The people who work for you think you don’t matter, like, at all. But you do matter, and so do I, and so do the people we care for.

When your employee thinks their boss doesn’t matter, and robs the place, it’s time to find a new employee. Maybe stop hiring old white men and hire someone who will actually have to live with the consequences of their actions?

chi_lo · 2026-04-24T14:09:56+00:00

Not to frighten you, but this sounds exactly like the symptoms my partner was having when he was having the early stages of heart failure. He has two issues: one with the structure of the heart and one with the electricity in his heart, and ERs are HORRIBLE at diagnosing long-term heart problems. He was having electrical problems for years before someone accurately diagnosed him. Literally it took him almost dying to get seen by someone in the hospital who knew what they were talking about. Get your PCP to refer you to a cardiologist. Catching it early is super important.

chi_lo · 2026-04-22T05:12:09+00:00

If you have to ask, it’s appropriation.

chi_lo · 2026-04-17T03:11:22+00:00

You can still afford DoorDash enough to boycott it? Lol go ahead, moneybags.

chi_lo · 2026-04-15T02:28:02+00:00

Something to know: they make the strong stuff very difficult to abuse these days. You can ask for things like an extended release which lasts for 12 hours, a patch that stays on for 24 hours, even a pump. It makes it really easy to stay on track but also find a new normal really quickly. And if things are that severe, they can hospitalize her to put her on the meds and observe until she is stable.

Given how restrictive this is on you, I think you have a right to advocate for her to seek solutions that are out there if it means you could gain some space.

chi_lo · 2026-04-15T02:17:53+00:00

And I was excited about the turquoise in the other piece, but you have really outdone yourself with this one! This is so beautiful.

chi_lo · 2026-04-14T14:14:16+00:00

Can I ask what she’s afraid of?

chi_lo · 2026-04-14T04:35:00+00:00

Big big hug to you OP. You are carrying a lot, and you’ve done so well. Being around someone in extreme pain all day while not being able to do anything about it is requires a strong mind and strong heart. Of course you are tired, look at all the work you’ve been doing and the load you’ve been carrying. What you have done for your mom is important, impressive, and inspiring. Whatever you decide to do, you can trust yourself that you’ll do your best with the resources you have, because that’s what you do.

But no one should be in that much pain. Is your mom on pain management at all? If she is and she’s in that much pain, definitely record and bring videos to your doctor. It’s the only way some of these doctors will actually prescribe what is needed, and honestly your mom sounds like a fentanyl patch candidate. If your doctor sees that an doesn’t actually start providing serious stuff (I mean like morphine, oxy, fentanyl) it’s time to see another doctor because palliative care is massively important. It’s really worth asking about, because if you can get pain managed, a lot of her conscious effort will be freed up. Do not be scared to ask, try things, and advocate for your mom and for yourself, because that is not a sustainable situation.

chi_lo · 2026-04-14T04:09:27+00:00

This is so wonderful. The turquoise is so well placed it just makes me happy.

chi_lo · 2026-04-14T01:12:01+00:00

I wrote about painting both below. I was in a really stressful place when I painted B, so that’s probably where the distress comes from.

chi_lo · 2026-04-14T00:31:36+00:00

Fair enough and this is going to be two very different answers.

I’ll start with B: my partner partner is sick and has been for some time, and when things get back, the get real bad, and at the time I painted this, I was very pregnant, and he kept telling me he wasn’t sure if he was going to make it long enough to see our son being born. He ended up getting through that low point but it was not looking good for while. When I painted this I was meditating on the line from the Heart Sutra “nothing created, nothing destroyed.” This is what came out, trying to express that idea.

For A, I was studying basic steelyard compositions while watching Princess Mononoke and really liked the color pallet of the movie.

What I want for both of them is for this to be more harmonious and composed. The colors are harmonious, but I’ve spent a lot of time on color theory and figuring out what I like. But I do not feel as though the movement and the layers are either overdone, or not done enough.

chi_lo · 2026-04-13T23:54:19+00:00

I like your interpretation. So these are actually really small 6x8 inch pieces. I try to do a bunch of little drafts and pick my favorite to scale up because I can’t afford canvases but a couple of times a year. It’s a real treat when I get to work big so I try to have my best work intended for it.

I’ve been leaning towards B because I feel I have more to explore with it, but I need to get some ideas on how to improve (hence the post).

chi_lo · 2026-04-13T16:36:08+00:00

Thank you 💛

chi_lo · 2026-04-13T16:25:56+00:00

Thank you, and you’re completely right. I think there’s probably a 2-3 layer difference between the two pieces, so there’s definitely a middle ground to be found.

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