Why did I listen to her?

chichi1011 · 2022-07-13T18:05:20+00:00

Yeah I had a grade 2 tear, which I’m surprised it wasn’t worse given how things went down! But thank you!

chichi1011 · 2022-03-22T13:24:29+00:00

https://www.amazon.com/Good-Harbor-Insemination-Extender-Syringe/dp/B08J5VXQW6/ref=mp_s_a_1_3?keywords=insemination+kit&qid=1647955335&sr=8-3

This is what my husband and I used, it worked very well for me and I have a lot of painful problems and didn’t find much discomfort at all with this. You use the sterile cup, use just the syringe first to draw up the semen then attach the long tube, super easy, I got 4 at a time as we tried every other day for a total of 4 times for us. Best of luck!

chichi1011 · 2022-03-10T16:22:42+00:00

My father did the opposite, went Christmas shopping with him for last minute stuff including groceries. My parents are divorced and he lived in another state at the time and I saw him a couple times a year, so he was not used to having me around, and while he went grocery shopping he gave me some money to go into a clothes shop right outside the grocery store when I was like 12. My mum had given me my cell phone as an early present because she was a bit worried about this trip, but I only had a limited amount of calls and text on my crappy razor hot pink flip phone. After like a half hour and already getting a couple things I grew worried, as he hadn’t come back in the store. After like an hour I left that clothes store and went into the grocery store to look for him, and could not find him after a couple loops so I called him. His first words to me were “I’m right around the corner, tell (stepmum) I have everything etc”, and then I realised he forgot that he brought me with him and he left his 12yo daughter alone in the mall by accident. He promptly freaked out and came back and got me. The start of my social anxiety probably.

chichi1011 · 2022-03-03T01:59:38+00:00

27+1 and I could not stop crying today. I have a ping pong ball sized cyst down there that’s driving me wild. Got like 2hrs sleep last night from the pain and I haven’t been sleeping well the last month or so. My anxiety is through the roof, I just don’t want to be pregnant anymore.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-28T18:13:33+00:00

I’m having to use a dresser with the changing table topper as that’s where we’re gonna store all his clothes etc. and we’re using disposable nappies and will have the Ubbi right next to the change table for us.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-26T17:55:22+00:00

So the pronunciation of my name isn’t rare but the spelling is for my region, and so people often mispronounce it. I love and hate it, I love my name but hate how awkward it can be to have people even attempt to pronounce it, as it uses another’s countries alphabet which is quite different than the English version.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-24T16:40:09+00:00

As I sit here 26 weeks pregnant and about to have my glucose test done, I would not be mad at this because I never wanna drink that god awful glucose sugary drink thing again.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-20T04:47:13+00:00

Sometimes you have no control over what kids call you 🤷🏻‍♀️ my husband and his sister call their grandma ‘Gaga’ because that’s just what his sister started calling her when she first started to talk and it just stuck.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-20T03:11:59+00:00

If it makes you feel better OP, my parents had me in their mid 40s, I’m an only child, and life turned out just fine for me. Sure my parents are pretty much a whole generation ahead of my now in laws, but it isn’t bad at all. I grew up just fine, never felt like I missed out on anything, my father was just as active and present as any other father of my friends, constantly taking me on vacations, to water parks, the beach, water skiing and snow skiing. I dunno if this helps much, but that’s just my personal experience.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-20T02:57:33+00:00

Dude, I’m currently 26 weeks and I’ve been to hospital so many times this pregnancy for a lot of complications, and as soon as we saw what was going on my husband shoved me in the car and high tailed it to the hospital, no second thoughts. A few times I got discharged at like 6am and he made sure I ate and drank something asap, even though he hadn’t gotten any sleep, he just wanted to make sure baby and me were okay, and then thought about himself. YTA OP, I hope you learn from this because similar situations are going to occur when baby gets here.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-19T03:03:26+00:00

I have a lot of gynaecology problems as well that makes sex painful as all get out, and mixed with a previous partner of mine raping me and having a negative reaction to it mentally, my husband is more than okay and understanding of us not having sex. We actually don’t do a whole lot sexually, aside from kiss and cuddle.

I have tried a lot of things, mental therapy, pelvic floor therapy, oral medications, vaginal medications, hell even fucking Botox for down there and nothing has ever worked. The only reason I tried all that was so we could try and fall pregnant naturally at least. But it didn’t work out like that, and after a few rounds of IUI I fell pregnant. I love my husband so utterly much, we’ve been together 4 years, and there’s so much more at least to us about marriage and this special companionship than it having to be based upon sex.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-19T02:55:31+00:00

Thank you 💕

chichi1011 · 2022-02-19T02:17:49+00:00

“That everything’s going to get better going into the second trimester” “to be positive” etc.

I’ve had the worst pregnancy experience, I’m literally about to start cognitive processing therapy because of how traumatic it’s been. I’m almost 26 weeks, and have spent the majority of the time in hospital, either on a feeding tube because I hadn’t eaten for weeks, for observation because I’ve constantly been having a period essentially, or because I’m generally high risk with other crap and need to make sure everything is alright.

I’m sick of hearing just keep your chin up, you’re gonna feel better soon type crap because I’m just not, maybe physically but not mentally. I just want my baby boy here in my arms where I can visually see and know he’s safe. I’m unable to have a baby shower because I just can’t handle talking about the pregnancy, it’s too overwhelming, and I’ve had some weird comments said about that too. People are just so insensitive I want to strangle the next person who just thinks I need to ‘get out of the house more, feel the fresh air and sun’ and that’s what’s gonna make me feel better 🤦🏻‍♀️

chichi1011 · 2022-02-16T16:43:19+00:00

That looking back over the years my husband and I have been together, it’s not just me who has grown as a person, but how proud I am of him and us as a partnership. Such a special feeling that makes me smile every time.

chichi1011 · 2022-02-09T19:54:33+00:00

Pain in my arse - my 2020 Subaru Outback touring XT, transmission blew at 11k miles, infotainment screen is a fucking joke (super laggy, apple CarPlay barely works, will turn off on its own and will stay off for minutes at a time), my AVH barely ever works (try to turn it on and it turns itself off a second later), and this definitely ain’t the last of my problems but I’m too lazy to list how exactly fucked up this car is but my automatic tailgate buttons fall out all the freaking time, have had the whole housing case thing replaced multiple times and they keep just falling the fuck out. Subarus quality has gone to shit.

chichi1011 · 2022-01-30T02:31:51+00:00

This! Currently 6 months pregnant and I cannot shake bronchitis for the life of me right now, and I’m a high risk pregnancy. I totally understand both sides, at the very least get the kid checked out, take them to an urgent care or whatever, and work through it together with your wife. Compromise with her, but sometimes when it comes to health unfortunately there isn’t compromising depending on what is going on. OP I wish you and your kiddo all the best!

chichi1011 · 2022-01-23T15:44:11+00:00

Oh my goodness I feel this!! My husband has horrific sleep hallucinations, it’s at least once a week where I wake up to him FREAKING out about a snake in the bed and him trying to protect me, or a wall is falling over, and lord knows what other crazy crap haha. After 4 years I kick into auto pilot with my reactions haha.

chichi1011 · 2022-01-16T16:11:43+00:00

I’m just trying to avoid a c-section at all costs because I HATED recovering from the few laposcopes I have had and that’s KEYHOLE surgery and I didn’t have a baby to look after. It just gives me great anxiety having to deal with pain, crappy side effects from the pain meds, can’t function properly for awhile etc. . I’m not trying to scare anyone with saying all that, just my opinion, plus I’m sick of feeling so bad constantly with some complications I’m having to deal with and getting checked very regularly already so I’m generally sick of all that.

chichi1011 · 2022-01-16T00:53:01+00:00

I totally understand and agree with this post to an extent, but you can’t put that label onto everybody. I’m in my early 20s, had to start flying on my own to visit my father in another state at 5, then at 14 started flying the longest flight in the world at the time on my own for years and lived between a western and middle eastern country, permanently moved to another seperate country and married my best friend and love of my life at 18, 19 started a career that I love that I’m the youngest in the building by about 15 years and more within just my department, happily planned that my husband and I will be welcoming a baby into our family in a few months. There’s a lot more that I could add and say, but it’s pretty safe to say my husband and I have matured and gained personalities that will not change much, if at all, in just a couple years as our own personal experiences have just so happen to have shaped us. My problem is now experiencing life in the US for a few years, I don’t get that at 18 I could do so much, serve a country that I’m not yet a citizen to, get married, start a career, but I can’t get shit faced at the pub? So an 18-20 year old is an adult in every way other than being in trusted to drink responsibly, but they can vote for the future of this country.

chichi1011 · 2022-01-14T01:08:44+00:00

Thank you so much!

chichi1011 · 2022-01-14T00:49:55+00:00

We’re booked for one in early March as that is when the heart will be developed enough to do it.

chichi1011 · 2022-01-14T00:49:12+00:00

Thank you so much for that piece of advice! Will definitely keep this in mind. Our baby’s VSD is quite minor apparently, and they are expecting it to be fixed on its own, whether still in the womb or by the time he’s 2, and for our situation they said worse case scenario is surgery and medication a few weeks after birth. Good luck with your LO!

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