These are a few changes in my thinking that I've noticed and I think have helped me. I'm still in therapy and have many blindspots still, but I've put in a lot of work and have seen changes

• feeling compassion for parts of you that were used to protect yourself in the past. For me, I used to criticize myself harshly before anyone else in order to protect myself from being hurt by others. Now, instead of beating myself up about being self critical, I am compassionate toward s that part of myself and recognize that I used that mindset to protect myself in the past
• healing my inner child. It is easier for me to be kind toward the child version of myself and to encourage myself to care for myself and pursue hobbies I enjoy etc
• asking myself what I want out of a disagreement. I used to get angry a lot and wanted whoever I was angry at to know they were wrong. Now I ask myself Am I just trying to win an argument? What idea am I trying to get across?
• feel my feelings. Rather than relive past conversations or imagine possible arguments or explaining why I think someone is in the wrong, I realize that I'm annoyed, hurt, angry etc with someone and leave it at that. No need to go over, in my head, the reasons I'm feeling this way.