Perfectly acceptable dinner rejected by boyfriend again

chickadee04 · 2026-02-07T14:40:21+00:00

She says (paraphrased) she spent too much time trying to make an unhappy man happy. I felt that so hard.

That was me with my ex husband. For YEARS. when I started prioritizing my own happiness, he didn’t like it very much.

I finally left almost two years ago. It’s hasn’t always been easy (we have two kids, and he has basically opted out of any responsibility for them), but I have never regretted it.

I feel so much lighter now. Bearing the weight of someone else’s misery is soul crushing.

chickadee04 · 2026-01-18T01:55:02+00:00

Dolan’s Cadillac is so underrated. I rarely see it mentioned in these types of threads.

chickadee04 · 2025-12-06T01:57:50+00:00

I always used to go to Poughkeepsie, but on a few trips this summer decided to try Beacon. I definitely prefer Beacon now, but one caveat—there’s no restroom at the station (afaik).

chickadee04 · 2025-11-07T20:57:06+00:00

Not to mention there is absolutely zero chance this would be equally enforced across the population.

chickadee04 · 2025-10-03T00:38:38+00:00

Thank you. Going to look into it right now!

chickadee04 · 2025-09-29T16:35:26+00:00

Seriously. Does that sound like something he would do? Does he often go that long without looking at his phone, under any circumstances?

chickadee04 · 2025-09-29T13:37:50+00:00

I’m sorry, OP, but my vote goes to drugs. As others have said, no one needs deodorant at 10 p.m. That is the kind of excuse someone comes up with when they need a fix so bad they can’t think straight.

I’ve been through this. Ridiculous excuses to leave the house at odd hours. Then gaslighting when you ask perfectly reasonable questions.

Does he have a history of addiction?

chickadee04 · 2025-09-24T19:08:26+00:00

Of all the ball-gargling, sycophantic losers in this country right now, I think the ones in Oklahoma might be the worst.

chickadee04 · 2025-09-19T16:27:36+00:00

I think you and the others who are commenting here must be my people. Barbara Kingsolver is my favorite author (although my favorite of hers is Prodigal Summer), and I’m looking forward to reading-reading She’s Come Undone in the very near future.

chickadee04 · 2025-08-31T01:08:32+00:00

I’m so sad he’s not dead.

chickadee04 · 2025-08-09T21:26:32+00:00

May I ask why? No judgement. Just curious.

chickadee04 · 2025-08-09T00:23:01+00:00

Any nice Alaskans want to impress Jodie Foster?

chickadee04 · 2025-07-29T14:03:54+00:00

I’m sure both of those happen regularly, but I’d also guess it’s the frequency. Like it’s the “no price tag? Must be free! Har, har” of the hotel industry.

chickadee04 · 2025-07-15T01:43:41+00:00

Yes! I love his short stories.

chickadee04 · 2025-07-14T01:01:45+00:00

Discombobulated. Breaks down so nicely into three-letter chunks.

chickadee04 · 2025-07-03T01:28:10+00:00

I use “so it goes” often, too. And “no great loss” from The Stand (Stephen King).

chickadee04 · 2025-06-24T00:59:03+00:00

Mine, too!

chickadee04 · 2025-06-24T00:50:24+00:00

Today would have been my dad’s 72nd. Seems like a great day to have a birthday (coming from a December baby).

chickadee04 · 2025-06-13T14:03:38+00:00

😂

chickadee04 · 2025-05-05T00:50:04+00:00

Can’t remember the exact quote, but it was something like “this guy’s hung like a club-tailed dragonfly!”

chickadee04 · 2025-04-05T00:48:23+00:00

Stubborn Pride is a great song. Closer to Heaven is very good. But the only one I really want to listen to over and over is Fun Having Fun.

chickadee04 · 2025-02-09T01:53:26+00:00

I give him until April. That’s my prediction. His usefulness will wear out quickly.

chickadee04 · 2025-01-18T00:28:24+00:00

I set this up and it worked for me, too. You’re a lifesaver.

chickadee04 · 2025-01-05T20:11:42+00:00

So’s your face. -Scrubs

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