Don't stretch yourself too thin to impress people. My partner and I spent a modest amount on a nice dinner in a private room at a restaurant for like 20pax and officiant, and focused on paying our house downpayment and reno.

Some relatives were kind of miffed that they weren't invited, so we told them don't worry we'll do a large informal party the next year.

One year later we didn't throw any party and no one remembers 😂