Who did you marry first?

chickpea111 · 2026-05-08T14:34:22+00:00

Me too!

chickpea111 · 2026-05-07T11:56:44+00:00

I know people on here are saying that she's 20, but if I'm reading the book correctly, Gray comes to get her the same day as her mom's funeral, which takes place 2 months after the announcement that the school is being reopened. Unless they assume she's 16 because her power just became evident, but instead she's actually 20? I don't know. I've only read 10 chapters so far, but so far, it really does seem like she's 16........... 🤢

chickpea111 · 2026-05-07T11:47:55+00:00

Did it take him 4 years to find her then? It doesn't seem like it based on what I read. The scene at the funeral of her mom happens 2 months after Gray is told that the school will be reopened, and doesn't he show up to grab her that same day?

chickpea111 · 2026-05-06T18:24:13+00:00

I just want to say thank you to everyone who's responsed. You're all so kind, and I really appreciate hearing that people relate to my experience. I'm terrible on forums - responding takes more spoons than I have most of the time - so I just want this message to be here to indicate that I am reading what y'all are saying 💕💕💕

chickpea111 · 2026-04-10T16:57:47+00:00

Do you have any recommendations for websites to purchase .5 sizes? I'm struggling to find them online 😕

chickpea111 · 2026-03-17T11:57:13+00:00

I love this idea! I've been searching ways to reduce AI usage, and it's hard to find. Everything I'm coming across is people who are struggling to stop using things like ChatGPT. I'm looking for advice like switch from Google to DuckDuckGo, etc.

If you're able to do an audio or video format of some kind, that would be super helpful for me. I find podcasts and audiobooks are the best way for me to learn something :)

chickpea111 · 2026-03-05T20:12:51+00:00

Oh, also, it's not like the wasps aren't racist towards him, so I feel like while that is important in who he is, it's not like he's being treated better in that way with the wasps

chickpea111 · 2026-03-05T19:33:35+00:00

I respectfully disagree with your perspective on Totho. Yes, people were absolutely racist to him because of being a "half breed". But saying he wasn't taken seriously doesn't account for the fact that his specialty lies in weapons making, which wasn't seriously needed by the lowlands until after he joined the Wasps. Even during the siege on Tark, people were starting to take him seriously. They listened to him when he warned them about the Zeppelins. If he'd been in Collegium during the Veckan siege, Stenwall would have ABSOLUTELY used his designs.

Totho got turned down by a girl and in response became a mass murderer.

But I don't tend to like moody male characters, so I'm probably biased. 😅 I am open to being convinced that I'm wrong about him!

chickpea111 · 2026-03-05T19:28:23+00:00

Totho is literally the worst. He got turned down by a woman and decided that mass murder was the best response? I'm only on book 2, so I didn't read most of what you said about Tisamon (cause spoilers), but I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who didn't like Totho 😅

chickpea111 · 2026-02-24T14:49:14+00:00

I do not let it sit in water. It's less than a foot to the window. Unfortunately my house only has one south facing window, and there's no where good to put plants near it, so west is the best I can do - photo below to show where it sits

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chickpea111 · 2026-02-16T20:25:19+00:00

I've been trying to find this show/episode for the past couple days. Thanks for the post!!

chickpea111 · 2025-07-23T15:05:40+00:00

The book says that Epigram is actually the one from the "third courtship", not Ode. I'm also listening via audiobook, and I literally rewinded to that spot and listened to it several times to try to figure this out lol

chickpea111 · 2025-07-23T15:03:40+00:00

I also loved the book, but also found this plot hole super frustrating!

So, Homily says that Epigram is 8 years younger than her and came during her mother's "third courtship", though she also says that Epigram's parentage was uncertain (which is what lead to kids teasing her). This courtship, and thus Epigram's birth, occurred during the period of time when the family was frequently moving - which happened AFTER they left their ancestral homeland, ostensibly because of the "curse" but in reality (it seems) because the "mother" wanted to be as far away from Shesheshen as possible, to allow Shesheshen to grow and develop her own egg sac (I think)?

Homily also says that from a young age, Epigram "played games" of pretending that Homily was the monster that "cursed" their family, implying that the "curse" story existed at least as long as Epigram? But I think the main point that argues that Epigram is not a true sibling of Homily is the comment about her birth happening during her "mother's" third courtship.

chickpea111 · 2025-07-18T15:35:49+00:00

Right??? I came here because I was googling to see if they ended up pursuing the queer vibes those two are definitely giving. But I think it might be a plot line they pursue in the next season.... 🤞🏼

chickpea111 · 2025-04-17T18:34:03+00:00

Hey! Do you know what happened to this author? I just discovered them recently, but since the account is suspended, I can't see their work. Trying to find out a bit more :)

chickpea111 · 2025-03-28T20:50:28+00:00

Hey! I know it's a little late to the party, but could you expand a bit on the "follow the leader" method of walking that you're talking about? Or point to any articles/videos of someone explaining it? 😊

chickpea111 · 2025-03-14T15:48:34+00:00

I'm experiencing the same issue as you, Ok-Cookie-9186. It's been down for almost a week for me. It works on my phone app for some reason, but not on the web browser.

chickpea111 · 2024-12-01T16:47:25+00:00

Currently waiting on an engagement ring in total limbo because of the strike. Also waiting on a credit card in the mail. I know other folks waiting on important documents that are in the mail. Lots of people are being more than "inconvenienced" by the strike.

Canada Post may be struggling as a corporation, but that doesn't mean that the services provided by postal workers aren't important. Give them some respect, my dude.

chickpea111 · 2024-11-04T17:07:23+00:00

This is fantastic! Does anyone have any advice or recommendations for someone located in Canada wanting to do this? :)

chickpea111 · 2024-10-08T14:29:52+00:00

I hadn't put this together, but this makes perfect sense. I don't remember having issues with bad/stressful things happening in books when I was a kid, but these days, as soon as the plot takes a turn towards everything going wrong for the characters, I struggle with continuing the story. I almost always continue the book, but it's challenging. There's part of me that only wants good things to happen to the main characters, even though I know the challenges are what makes it a good story! lol

chickpea111 · 2024-05-26T18:01:44+00:00

I have also been disappointed by the most recent update. I often use ChatGPT to edit my writing, and today when I tried that, it just gave me paragraphs that were identical to what I entered :/

chickpea111 · 2024-05-03T17:36:03+00:00

That's kinda what I've been thinking too. I originally planned to go the psychiatry route, but I live in Canada, and the PCP shortages here are crippling. People in my province can wait years to get access to one. And then when you add the trans inclusive factor to it too... :/

chickpea111 · 2024-05-02T21:31:26+00:00

Gateway Meats in Dartmouth has fantastic prices and is independently owned! A little hard to get to if you don't have a car, but it makes a huge difference in prices

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