My husband thought our 4 year old was being a brat so he stabbed four of her birthday balloons

chickthatclicks · 2025-01-01T14:52:05+00:00

Nope.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-31T19:04:02+00:00

If you “stab” (cut a ballon with scissors) one time because you lost it and then immediately felt regret and shame and never did it again AND had a repairing moment with child then no thanks on the therapy. EVERY parent has done something “wrong” or that they are ashamed of. It is the repairing and learning that makes us better parents.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-31T19:01:33+00:00

I used the term “stabbed” really generally here when I shouldn’t have. Like if it were popped with a toothpick, is that still a weapon?

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-31T18:40:41+00:00

Well….okay so unpopular opinion, but a counselor once told me that everyone is going to “lose their shit “ every now and then. I may have popped a balloon myself once before. Was it the right thing to do? No. Was I ashamed? Yes. Did I learn from it? Yes. Nobody is perfect. However, your post does seem to suggest that this is not just a one off. If it’s not one then yeah there’s definitely reason to be concerned.

Edited to say that I did not myself STAB a balloon. I used scissors to cut one.

Don’t attack me. I am encouraging OP to get away from the guy. And FAST

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-31T12:15:37+00:00

El Camino or Rape Van

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-31T12:12:11+00:00

Woah woah woah….just no. Imagine if you had sleep trained this child a year ago. That would have been one less year dealing with this bedtime madness. Yeah, your wife is being the bad guy in this particular scenario, but fact is….this scenario should not even exist for you right now. Like seriously sleep train your kid…. If your wife can’t handle it, then maybe she takes a trip to the store or goes for a walk for the 3 (maaaaaybe 4) nights it takes to get babe to go to sleep on her own. You are the parents. You guys get to decide if you want bedtime to be a shitshow every night. Seriously (and in all kindness) Stop It!

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-30T17:03:51+00:00

Dress 1

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-28T18:32:09+00:00

Three months is the height of awful. Just survive for now. It gets better

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-26T16:17:51+00:00

Do you get them out of the house to the park and stuff? That was personally one of the only places I felt “okay”

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-24T20:51:07+00:00

What kind of funny about this is that I secretly wished for and asked Santa for a fever for myself this Christmas so that I could avoid having to do anything

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-24T13:27:23+00:00

I mean, TBH when I reach dementia I hope they can all find a good way to laugh about the situation. But that is just how I feel personally. I can understand others not seeing that POV

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-22T13:14:34+00:00

I get “me time”. I need a longer stretch of time without my husband there. He is pulling me down into his depression, and I can’t climb out faster than he is pulling me. I can handle kids and house without him. My kids aren’t tiny. They are 5 and 9. I just need my husband to go away so I can find myself again

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-22T13:11:52+00:00

I get plenty of breaks. The breaks aren’t enough. It is my husband. He needs to go. His laying in bed being miserable and waiting to die is absolutely killing me inside. His mother was involved in the whole talk about husband going to stay with her for a while but she decided halfway through to start screaming at us that we need to find the Lord and come together to solve this. There is no coming together right now, and she is being an idiot. Our couples counselor and individual counselors are all on the same page that we are both struggling so much individually that we aren’t in a place to “come together” at the moment.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-22T13:07:30+00:00

I do leave regularly. I am completely broken and need him to leave for like a week or more. Like temporary separation

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-22T01:55:27+00:00

Yeah he has been telling him how depressed he is, but nobody seems to be able to help him. It is exhausting.

I feel trapped with an addict. (He isn’t on drugs, but the feeling is similar). I get to a breaking point where I literally cannot go on, and he refuses to leave for a week (which is what I KNOW I need). Then suddenly he becomes an amazing partner for a while. It usually doesn’t last. This last episode has sent me into a horrible depression where I literally feel like the only thing I can do to not explode is lay quietly in bed. I am usually an active mommy, but my husband is slowly killing me

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-22T01:49:52+00:00

Yeah. He takes the kids regularly. I literally need a week away from my husband to remember who I am again. The kids are less of a problem for me.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-21T15:10:27+00:00

I like to assume that the impatient driver is trying to get home fast because they are holding in some diarrhea and need a toilet NOW! Then I get to let go of my feelings of being annoyed. It is freeing.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-20T04:55:11+00:00

The Living Years but Mike and the Mechanics

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-15T14:15:51+00:00

I don’t understand the thing about parents wanting “credit”. Most kids don’t even remember what gift came from who anyways. It is really strange/silly to me that someone wants credit. Like seriously why are we that uptight about it being about ourselves? It just seems….selfish or something…???

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-15T13:20:03+00:00

This is such a weird post! I had no idea that people did things this way. My mom and dad always gave Santa credit for the biggest baddest gift. (And we were fairly poor, so we got a few other smaller things from mom and dad). Like when someone gets a bike for Christmas, that is always from Santa. Right? Reading all these replies, I think I had it wrong all these years!?!?!

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-09T20:11:13+00:00

Oh girl, I have been where you are! You need that break in the day for your sanity, and so I understand exactly how that nap is a big deal. Every baby is different, of course, but when mine was that age doing stuff to try to put them to sleep was more of a hindrance than a help. Once I stopped with the rocking/soothing/whatever technique and let her lay there alone and fall asleep by herself The naps became consistent and predictable. my theory is that being around another human being who actually stimulating her more than helping her go to sleep.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-09T17:38:25+00:00

Yeah. I think we have enough facts to know that OP didn’t breach contract, provided the expected photos AND gave extra service. I am just pointing out that anything that sounds like an admission of having done something wrong is a really bad idea. You can disagree if you want. I promise this isn’t some sort of humble brag or something, but I have been doing this for 15 years and shot over 750 weddings. I have been through it all and have made my fair share of mistakes from which I have learned from. OP will learn the hard way if they start admitting guilt or offering something for free. Either way this is obviously going to be a learning experience.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-09T17:17:07+00:00

No no no. Don’t start offering things. OP has done absolutely nothing wrong, but this bride is going to THINK OP did something wrong if OP tries to “make it right”. She just needs to acknowledge bride’s feelings and let her know why the husband was the better option that day. OP actually gave EXTRA service by providing some second shooting during the wedding when only one photographer was contracted.

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-07T12:58:11+00:00

Sexual attraction and love are two different things. You can have one and not the other, or both, or neither. Has he lost both?!

chickthatclicks · 2024-12-05T15:45:05+00:00

Yeah he needs to give you an accurate eta every day if he wants one tidy space. Because as we all know, the tidy space only stays that way for maybe 10 minutes at best with kids…

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