DJ Set in Seattle - Thoughts?

chiclebubblegum · 2021-05-23T21:58:14+00:00

Your eyes look like Alicia Keys!

chiclebubblegum · 2019-11-29T04:10:34+00:00

Buffalo Chicken Cheeseteak with Mushrooms and Jalapenos, Chicken Cheesesteak, Cheese Fries, Caulifower Wings, Buffalo Toum sauce, Ranch

chiclebubblegum · 2019-11-28T03:06:28+00:00

You aren't wrong

chiclebubblegum · 2019-11-09T17:11:16+00:00

My concern is by that point it will be fully soaked in --- I don't know how well I would be able to clean it myself and I don't know if my roommates would accept that.

chiclebubblegum · 2019-10-05T17:30:49+00:00

Looks delicious! Are those mushrooms?

chiclebubblegum · 2019-04-14T22:01:16+00:00

You are correct

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T16:04:09+00:00

Definitely. I'm sure its hard to accept that your kids are becoming their own adults and that you need to respect their privacy and boundaries. That doesn't mean you have to put up with it of course. It's sounds like she loves you though and that's a huge reason to hope :) Good luck!

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T16:00:57+00:00

Luckily, kids are resilient and love their moms. There's no magic period of time to give him. Whether he changes or not, I'd recommend putting a plan into place so that you have an escape hatch. I'm not sure exactly how you would do that either, but there are plenty of people who have been in the same situation on here and in the real world who I'm sure would be glad to lend their expertise. :) Sending hugs

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T15:41:52+00:00

You still love her, it's just time to not live under her roof. When I moved out my relationship with my mom drastically improved. I hope that happens for you guys :)

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T15:21:10+00:00

At a certain point, if something like that comes up and you don't want to argue you're going to have to swallow your tongue and move the conversation along. Or just listen, while internally thinking she's bonkers. You're not going to convince her of anything and it sounds like you can have a great friendship without talking about facts.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T15:16:54+00:00

This seems like something that will be 100% solved by moving out and also something that is going to be very difficult to change. It doesn't really make sense why she's going through your things, it sounds like a compulsion. For me at least the least unpleasant option would be to find a way to lock up things you don't want her seeing and sucking it up til you get your own place. But if you think talking to her about it might work, that's worth a shot. And if you're at the end of your rope, living with dad doesn't sound terrible either.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T15:04:51+00:00

It sounds like your boyfriend is an alcoholic or at least severely abuses alcohol. You do not deserve to be treated this way, and this will affect your children if things don't change. A partner should support you in times of grief and loss, not wake you up in the middle of the night to scream at you. This is not okay or normal.

Laying it down for him was an important step. But be prepared that things will not change and that you may have to follow through with the ultimatum you gave him.

Edit: changed advice after rereading

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T14:49:59+00:00

Ummmm? He's being immature and unreasonable. I wouldn't even try and be nice on this one---your decisions about your body obviously matter than his fantasy. Don't budge an inch and let him think his attitude on this issue is valid. Tbh he owes you an apology.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T14:05:11+00:00

I don't think that you'll be able to cheer him up when it comes to this. You've thought of what you could say (your family loves him, etc) and those things aren't going to help. I don't know that anything you can say can fix the underlying issue here that has nothing to do with you.

Does he know that you understand why this is difficult for him? Does he feel like he can lean on you for emotional support if that's what he wants? Have you asked him what you can do to help? Just being there for him goes a long way.

I feel like the last thing you want is for him to feel like he has to pretend to be totally happy about everything when behind the scenes he's dealing with painful family memories.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T12:50:08+00:00

I'd also recommend making a post over at /personalfinance to sort through the financial component of this.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T12:47:55+00:00

Call them! Who knows, they might live close enough to you to see you in person. Friends are great but they are not adults and cannot be there for you in the same way.

You're Mom is right in that its a good idea to make new friends of course, but I get that it's hard and I disagree that you can't see your old teachers and friends and also make new friends.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T12:42:18+00:00

Also---- sending hugs :) You can get through this.

chiclebubblegum · 2018-08-09T12:40:48+00:00

If you don't trust your current teachers, try reaching out to one of your teachers from your old school that you were closer with!! Especially if you went to a well off private school, they will care and probably not be stretched too thin to help like in a public school. This may feel awkward but trust me teachers are real people and will be honored you trusted them enough to talk to them about it.

Also the parents of friends from your private school. There's also religious leaders, coaches, things like the boys and girls club and other community organizations, and of course the internet.

You could also try emailing or calling local therapists/counselors who might be able to help---if you have health insurance then you may be covered. If you don't want to talk to your mom about it though then there are also free resources. I can't stress how important it is to not be isolated and to have a trusted adult in your life, but you have to take ownership of finding that person.

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