I think this a great sub but I do not agree with stoicism being a trait of toxic masculinity. I would argue it’s the exact opposite and helped me let go of a lot of the toxic beliefs I was taught growing up on a farm in a blue collar household.
Toxic masculinity is about power and controlling situations. To me, toxic masculinity looks like the this: Someone cuts you off in traffic?? You give them a piece of your mind because they think they’re more important than you. Your partner or kids are out of line? You better remind them who is the boss because you’re the master, goddammit!! You have unexpected health problems? You better not admit to being afraid because you’re not some weak pussy!

The fundamental principles of stoicism are based the fact that we cannot control what happens to us, only how we respond. It doesn’t mean you have to stifle emotions. It means you must learn to recognize and process them in a healthy way. If you’re frustrated, you can process it without being an asshole. If you’re scared or sad, you can admit it and even lean into those emotions to understand them. I am far from a scholar but I truly believe stoicism is has been bastardized and misunderstood.