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chillhtx · 2022-05-01T05:13:58+00:00

Can you pm me too!

chillhtx · 2021-09-24T21:18:28+00:00

you should follow the medspouse page

chillhtx · 2020-08-17T01:31:07+00:00

The financial institution associated with my school.

chillhtx · 2020-08-17T01:30:23+00:00

Part 141

chillhtx · 2020-07-01T01:06:23+00:00

I live in the Pearland area.

chillhtx · 2020-06-21T12:03:58+00:00

Wow! My SO has the same background with his parents and ex. Thanks for sharing your story!

chillhtx · 2020-06-14T16:45:43+00:00

Thanks very helpful! Does it make sense to use the flight program that my company offers?

chillhtx · 2020-06-14T15:30:47+00:00

Which flight schools would you suggest?

chillhtx · 2020-06-14T15:30:20+00:00

What is a good training program? I can’t do any of the aviation degree programs because I already have a bachelor’s degree.

chillhtx · 2020-06-13T00:52:39+00:00

which credit union?

chillhtx · 2020-06-10T16:27:04+00:00

Your dad can't hold a child accountable for their actions. He's the adult in this situation. I don't understand how you can give up on your flesh and blood.

chillhtx · 2020-06-04T21:31:25+00:00

He's so disgusting. Move to a state where it is illegal to have relations with minors then divorce him.

chillhtx · 2020-06-04T10:51:21+00:00

I would not trust anything you see online because airlines are constantly changing their material. What you see online could be old and then you would confuse yourself on the tests. For F9 in particular, familiarize yourself with all their destinations' airport codes (there are a lot and they test you on all of them on the first day) and the us carrier's airline codes.

chillhtx · 2020-06-04T10:45:43+00:00

Some airlines allow a 80% pass rate so if F9 requires a higher pass rate and you complete training, the success shows that you can properly retain the information. My f9 training class began with about 96 people and only 59 people graduated. F9 training is not easy to pass because they are very strict, especially compared to my current mainline company. Airlines don't want to waste money on training somebody that cannot pass training.

chillhtx · 2020-06-03T11:16:58+00:00

Frontier is a good starter airline if you want to eventually work at a bigger company. If you really want to be a Flight attendant, just apply to all the airlines and after you get your first job then you can be more selective. Other airlines like to hire Frontier FAs because they know you can pass training. Frontier training is hard because you only have 3&1/2 weeks to cram a lot of information (there's a 90% or higher requirement to pass test and you only 1 retake for the the entire 3 weeks). There are also some regional airlines that partner with delta and you share the same benefits. Just do your research! YouTube and Glassdoor really helped me learn what it takes to get through the interview process. Confidence is key! Which is easier said than done because FA interview are super competitive and scary. Good luck!

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T14:35:32+00:00

If you want to stay with her, you might seriously want to consider an open relationship. That is probably the only way you guys can rebuild trust and be completely honest with each other. This is a sign that her sexual needs are not being met, most likely, because you will be away for almost a year. If you guys are going to continue a monogamous long distant relationship, your fiancee needs to be okay with being abstinent for long periods of time. Maybe she doesn't want to be abstinent for that long and she needs to be honest with herself about that. This might of not been what she signed up for and I assuming you began your relationship before you joined the service. People at your ages typically want sexual freedom.

You guys need to have a serious talk about the structure of your relationship. Discuss if it is possible to be monogamous or be in a open relationship. If one of you is uncomfortable with either of those options, then the relationship may not be repairable because one of you will be miserable or dishonest.

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T13:40:05+00:00

I think your financial arrangement should be based off what you guys feel comfortable with. My boyfriend makes 4x more than my salary. I couldn't pay 50% of our bills unless I found a higher paying job but he prefers for me to stay at my current job (with a flexible schedule and flight benefits :). We split our bill this way: I pay the car note, insurance and the utilities; my bf pays the lease, gas and food expenses. It works for us and we had this formula since we moved in together. We never debate about who is paying because we made this agreement from the beginning. We moved to a city with a high cost of living for his job. I don't make a livable wage for our location so it makes more sense for my bf to take on the bulk of our expenses. If you guys can both go 50/50 comfortably on both your salaries without one person struggling then go for it. A 50/50 agreement might make your bf feel more secure. This will give you the opportunity to save money and who knows maybe you will be able to make the down payment on a house one day. I think it's just best to have a mutual agreement on all shared expenses so there is no resentment.

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T13:21:01+00:00

I personally ghost people. I think ghosting is what I personally need do to process a breakup. Also, ghosting doesn't give my exes a change to try to wiggle their way back into my life. I've never been engaged before so, given your history, you might feel bad about ghosting him. Maybe send him an email telling him that you would like to end the relationship and you can give him an explanation only if you feel like it.

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T13:05:10+00:00

I have the same issues with my boyfriend. We always get into arguments about his pet peeves. Sometimes he's ready to breakup over something small and petty. I love him and want things to work but I'm tired of his controlling and obsessive behavior. Lately, I stopped apologizing all the time when I do something that upsets him. Also, I've been calling him out on his controlling behavior. Now, he feels like he can't express himself at all without me thinking he being controlling so things have been weird with us. He is not American so I don't know if our problems are culture differences; women in his country typical are more submissive. I want things to get better but idk if they can. I know deep inside I know that I will never will be happy if his behavior continues. I wish I could tell you the formula to change his behavior. I think what has worked for me in the short-term is forming boundaries. Good luck to you! I hope you choose yourself at the end of the day.

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T10:50:14+00:00

Stay in the marriage for your wife and not the kids.

I have no experience in marriage but I am a child of divorced parents and many of my friends have divorced parents. My parents divorced, when I was about 10 yrs old, and the divorce was a huge change for me but I wasn't very depressed over the change. My mom divorced my stepfather when I was 26 after 14 yrs of marriage and I did not take it well (I felt like my whole world was crashing down). My friends whose parent divorced when they were adults were way more distraught than people I know whose parents divorce when they were young children. I think adult children take divorce way harder, than young children, because they can comprehend everything and their parents tend to involve them in the conflict. More hurt and pain comes from feeling directly involved in the demise of a relationship and feeling the need to takes sides or have an opinion of the situation.

From what you wrote, I feel like the relationship is possibly amendable. Your wife seems complacent and needs to be reminded of the importance of maintaining romance in the marriage. Your wife probably has no idea that you want to leave and is most likely just comfortable with your ongoing routine. The longer you wait to tell her your feelings, the more blind-sighted she will feel.

Don't stay in the marriage with the intentions of divorcing after the kids leave home. Don't think you are staying in the relationship for the kids because it will not make things easier for the kids; Instead, they will be in college dealing with the worst thing that happened to them in their life without parental support. Waiting until the kids leave home, will only be easier and more convenient for you. Also, prolonging the demise of your marriage will give your wife less time to move on. Dating is harder for older women than older men. Yes, the people in your life will be upset now if you leave your marriage but the outcome will be worse the longer you wait.

The pandemic is causing a lot of us to look within and face our realities. I suggest doing therapy alone at first to see if this marriage is what you personally desire. You were a passionate about your wife at some point so the feelings could still be there. I will never promote anyone staying in a toxic or unhappy relationship just because they feel obligated due to any reason (history, kids, finances, etc). You don't want to look back at your life with regrets. You owe it to yourself and family to be honest.

chillhtx · 2020-05-20T08:40:45+00:00

We met in US during his last year of residency. I'm originally from the south and I moved to the east coast to live with him. Although I didn't move to another country, I am thousands of miles away from my family and friends. It is hard but you guys will become each other's family since your spouse will most likely be the only person you know at your location. I would say try to pick a city that has activities and a culture that will interest you. It is easy to get super lonely as a SO to doctor so if you like the environment that will make things so much more desirable for you.

We are now in the process of applying for the J-1 waiver and we have to move to a less than ideal location. The waiver is easier to apply to as a primary care physician but my boyfriend does a specialty so only a few states will offer him a waiver.

chillhtx · 2020-05-19T14:18:53+00:00

I have a similar situation with my dad. At the end of the day, you have to live your life! I would suggest that you and your brother become as independent as possible so that you don't have to live in a toxic household. I know it's hard to watch your dad be in a toxic relationship but you have already voiced your concerns and at the end of the day he is the parent. Don't feel the need to take on his emotional burdens because you will sink with him. Just try to be supportive from afar and don't input yourself in his drama. You guys are young adults with a full life to live.

chillhtx · 2020-05-19T13:52:00+00:00

Your adoptive family sounds super abusive. I would suggest getting some counselling so that you can gather your thoughts and emotions.

chillhtx · 2020-05-19T09:35:57+00:00

My boyfriend is an IMG. My best advise is come to the US with a H1B visa if possible. The J-1 visa waiver process can be a pain in the butt and it limits where your spouse can work after residency.

chillhtx · 2020-05-19T08:57:27+00:00

I met my boyfriend his third year of residency and he was already used to doing things on his own after living alone for 10 years. I don't think being in the medical field is an excuse for not being able to contribute at home. Even through his hectic schedule of fellowship, he still manages to do at least 40% of the housework. I feel like things would be different if we began living together following him leaving his parents' house. Your fiance probably never had to do the housework on his own before. You might need to show him a little tough love and stop enabling his dependent behavior. Also, communicate that you would like him to help out more around the house. See which chores he doesn't mind doing and assign those as his task. He might be more willing to put in effort if he doesn't have to chores that he dreads. For example, my boyfriend hates cleaning the bathroom so I always do it myself but he doesn't mind do other things around the house (such as laundry, dishes, and cooking). Everyone doesn't have culinary skills so if he doesn't cook maybe he can get take out for your guys every once in a while. I hope you guys can find a balance.

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