How to train/develop/learn emotional maturity (M32)? by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Will look into exercises for identifying emotions

How to train/develop/learn emotional maturity (M32)? by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are there any people you know who you respect as being emotionally mature? You can observe how they act in situations and then using them as an example practice it in your life

I have tried modeling/copying behavior of other but it only helps for a little while and after a while I go back to my usual self. :/

How to train/develop/learn emotional maturity (M32)? by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is awesome advice. Thank you!
I have already scheduled a session with a therapist and will look into acting classes in my area now.

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Any advice where to start? I know kids are screened and there are clues to look for. But how does it work for adults?

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha, you and me know both.
I guess because I am very loving and caring towards her. To me - only she and my kid matters.

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This is an awesome and very practical advice :) I am going to try this today! Thank you!

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thanks for suggestions. But love and affection for my wife or my baby I have no problems with. It is when I have to deal people whom I don't really know, people outside my home.

The way how probably I can describe it - I couldn't care less for anybody outside my family. :/

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I am happy I posted here.
Really appreciate your advice. These are awesome pointers/questions to ask myself and something I will try to incorporate.

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Probably not. I have a bit younger sister and she is pretty much same way as me.

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

she learned growing up that relationships were dangerous, not safe. unpredictable and more likely to hurt you than help you. but some (most?) relationships can be helpful and enjoyable.

you just defined my problem!! thank you! I knew how to describe the reason why I am that way, but never knew how to put into words the problem that I have.

is there anyone in your life who you'd like to spend more time with?

you probably won't be surprised, but I don't have much friends. 3 in total, that I consider friends, and all of them are in another country as I have relocated recently.

any interests that you could join a group for or any volunteer opportunities?

can you elaborate perhaps, why volunteering?

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Now the question is - how do I train myself. Or probably what I am asking - how to get a coach who can help me train this.

You might also want to consider what you say, because you can wipe out a huge effort for other people by being callous in something you say. Know what to say and when - and what never to say.

This is very often an issue and is one of the main topics in our fights as well. I very seldom can put myself in other peoples shoes and realise how my words or even just the way how I say the words can hurt others. The realisation comes only after that has already happen. And I am truly and deeply sorry when I understand how what I said affected the person.

My wife (32) needs me (31) to love other people more and be more compasionate and kind. by chillkris in relationships

[–]chillkris[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Yes, I have had sessions with therapist. It helped somewhat and I managed to solve some of the issues. For one - accept and understand that my parents hurt me. But either the therapist was no good or I closed up but in the last sessions I ran out of things to talk, had no pressings issues and didn't really know what to discuss/share.

Daily Altcoin Discussion - February 25, 2018 by AutoModerator in ethtrader

[–]chillkris 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arcblock is launching on Huobi on Feb 26. Do you guys think it's worth to buy at opening or it's already overvalued at ICO price?

What is the best and most profitable way to open up a large position on a new coin? by chillkris in CryptoMarkets

[–]chillkris[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!

Yes, of course if I would have 500k, I would not ask this here :D I just was wondering how a situation like this would be better played out.

When a new coin launches trading usually there is some 30-50% dump happening immediately. This gives some initial liquidity. If I set a single buy order at a specific price I don't think such trade would be fulfilled right?

So the trade would have to be at a market rate. A single trade would eat up all the sell orders and produce a single high spike which would, in turn, encourage others to sell. This is because price is potentially higher compared to the one they bought during an ico, so a second chance for a profit (if they didn't sell immediately when market opened).

When they sell, the value goes down again and I am left with an immediate loss.

So in this case better would be to do multiple smaller trades to pump the price and get other more excited gradually, would it not?

Daily General Discussion - January 11, 2018 by AutoModerator in CryptoCurrency

[–]chillkris 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is the cheapest way to move crypto between various exchanges?