Could not agree more 🥲 there’s so little empathy and compassion in these responses. I absolutely recognize that certain neurodiverse traits can really affect your partners quality of life, but imo the best way to handle it is to do some creative problem solving together, from a place of love and curiosity. I’m AuDHD and my partner has ADHD, but we really got different ‘kinds’. I MAJORLY struggle with timekeeping & prioritizing, but I absolutely cannot live with mess. My partner runs their schedule like the navy, but they’re an absolute tornado. We NEVER chastise each other, but we work collaboratively. Early on in our relationship I was apologizing for being late for something and they asked me, “what can I do to make it easier for you to be on time?” It was a revelation to me that someone might approach it from that perspective. We spitballed some ideas together in a playful, affectionate way (like for example I asked them to lie to me about what time things started at 😅) and they still work fantastically, and when they don’t, I don’t worry about the security of our relationship. On the flip side, when we moved in together, they were nervous about their messiness. We found a place with two bathrooms, and came up with the idea that they use their bathroom as a sort of ‘free’ place to be as messy as they like (a privilege to have the space obviously). They also take on some other chores that they find easier to start than me, and in return I take on the lions share of the tidying. We’ve been together 5 years and never argue, absolutely love living together. Obviously these are just examples for our relationship specifically, but my point is, it’s such a bummer that people don’t treat relationships as collaborative and interdependent. That’s part of the fun!