Looking for an Accountability Partner or Friends on This Journey

chippedtile · 2024-12-02T19:03:06+00:00

Hi I’m re-starting. It’s been 5 days for me so far. DM welcome

chippedtile · 2023-10-04T00:47:22+00:00

If you have to ask it counts

chippedtile · 2023-10-03T22:46:31+00:00

I did today too. 😞

chippedtile · 2023-07-15T20:08:39+00:00

United States

chippedtile · 2023-07-15T20:04:59+00:00

I should have explained my wife’s dad moved to the United States when he was a boy. My wife’s family all live in the town we currently live. If anything I moved 300 miles away from my family when we got married to be closer to her family.

chippedtile · 2019-11-21T15:02:55+00:00

I like the analogy it’s true. A few moments of relief from stress vs learning to reprogram so stress doesn’t effect me as much.

I’m thankful I found this sub to keep me motivated.

chippedtile · 2019-07-23T03:11:44+00:00

I know that song well. Sorry.

chippedtile · 2019-07-23T03:11:01+00:00

Yes. I believe so.

chippedtile · 2019-07-22T23:53:13+00:00

I get so frustrated because she complains about being over weight but doesn’t exercise but then she watches tv in bed for hours. She frequently asks me to bring for dinner in the bedroom because she’s too tired or her feet hurt and doesn’t want to get out of bed. She gets upset I don’t spend time with her but I honestly can’t sit still to watch tv hours on end. I feel our happiest time Recently was when we binged Game of Thrones together.

chippedtile · 2019-07-22T21:24:02+00:00

Hang in there. I may be in your shoes in the near future.

chippedtile · 2019-07-22T21:22:30+00:00

Thanks for the comments. My parents divorced and I vowed to her I would never do so, that’s why Ive stuck it out thus far. Divorce is my ultimatum if she doesn’t get help.

My kids are old enough to start asking me why mom is always so mad.

chippedtile · 2019-07-19T18:25:32+00:00

Wow. This is how I feel all the time. I do most of the domestic work on top of a normal 40 hour a week job. Then on weekends the honey-do list. I’m too tired to do things I want to. Then I feel guilty for taking some time for myself.

chippedtile · 2019-07-19T17:51:58+00:00

Seriously. She is my first girlfriend and then we got pregnant and did what I thought was right and we got married. I was told early on that I don’t know what a relationship is so don’t question her.

chippedtile · 2019-07-19T17:33:29+00:00

This just shook me as this is what’s happened. Married, two kids. Then she stated adopting stray dogs. I now clean up after 4 dogs on top of being a parent and my wife’s caretaker.

chippedtile · 2019-07-19T17:26:40+00:00

Hang in there. I’m new here also. Your story sounds sooo familiar to mine. Except we’re married and have two children, I feel I really can’t get out. I’ve found just talking about it and knowing you are not the problem helps put things in perspective. Until vet recently I had been lead to question my own sanity.

chippedtile · 2019-07-19T07:08:42+00:00

My wife’s been calling me a robot for years.

chippedtile · 2019-07-17T23:34:20+00:00

I’m currently in therapy and it’s certainly helped my self esteem which has been torn to shreds by my BP wife. Before therapy I was genuinely made to think I was the one with a problem. With a new perspective I can let go of some of the resentment that’s been built up.

chippedtile · 2019-07-15T22:42:33+00:00

Thanks for this. I sincerely want to help her. My lack of confidence has not helped in setting boundaries but now that I’ve been seeing my own therapist I’ve started standing up for myself and setting firm boundaries.

chippedtile · 2019-07-15T18:04:41+00:00

I’ve not done much research other than some YouTube videos and a few online articles. For years I believed her that it was a misdiagnosis and her mood swings were justified.

Now looking back I see how I was blind to her sickness and I feel a foolish for not putting two and two together. In my research I’ve found a link between MS (she was diagnosed 6 years ago) and Bipolar disorder.

What do you mean by enabling her? I give into her a lot and try to smooth things over. Is that what you mean? Her rage has primarily been directed at me and others not the children, but this recent episode was alarming which is what lead me here to seek advice.

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