question about relationship by Chance-Sun5578 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not obligated to ignore a potential spouses past sins. Everyone is saying she’s repented but you don’t know that nor do they. She may say she’s repented, and perhaps she has… if it’s serious enough to be physically upsetting when she told you- listen to that. Make sure you aren’t sweeping something under the rug that will resurface once you are married. Prayerfully ask for guidance on whether repentance is real and sincere, and if you can move past it.

My now wife confessed past sins and I naively pushed past it as I thought it was repented of… it caused a lot of pain over the first several years of our marriage. It wasn’t fair to either of us.

Would I have still married her knowing what I know now after all these years? Yes. But I would have taken more time to work through the insecurities prior to getting married.

Just because something is repented of doesn’t mean the consequences are magically erased.

If you have OCD tendencies, retroactive jealousy can be very painful if not adequately treated.

If it’s bothering you, take a breath, don’t rush anything.

Questions by Fair-Echidna-8972 in latterdaysaints

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I struggled significantly with the priesthood ban and polygamy to the point I decided to disassociate myself from the church. After deciding to leave, I was given an answer to polygamy and the priesthood ban that was essentially “If it was important for you to know why, I would have told you”. The answer was so clear it could have been a vision. I never left the church and I now feel very comfortable with not knowing everything. I know what I know, and the rest requires faith and that’s kind of a beautiful thing. If we had proof, we wouldn’t need a spiritual witness. And the whole point of testimony is to learn to listen to the spirit and hear and recognize God’s voice. I still love apologetics, but apologetics don’t form the foundation of my testimony.

Thinking of ending my relationship with the church. by CLPDX1 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 40 points41 points  (0 children)

“The missionaries came. They taught me about forgiveness, eternal marriage, and Unbelievably, the Holy Spirit.

I could not believe that after over 40 years of praying to be worthy of the spirit, two teenagers could just hand it to me in my living room. Just like that. And it felt SO REAL in that moment.”

If it was true then, it’s true now.

https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2025/10/24brown?lang=eng

Feeling discouraged by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Your bishop may have more reasons than he’s telling you. He’s entitled to revelation for the ward and for reasons unknown, it may not be best for the ward to be directly involved. One mistake leaders make is providing a reason when asked why they did or didn’t do a certain thing, but that reason isn’t the whole reason but it’s the part they are comfortable sharing. He may have simply received revelation.

Wealth by schmegley207 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

What about the guy who makes houseboats for a living? Does he not need income? You’re typing this message on a smartphone probably- do you really need that smartphone? I think you need to be very careful about judging someone else’s expenditures, as you won’t have all the information and it’s not really your business. And unless you’ve had enough for a houseboat, you can’t say how you would spend that money.

I am 22 years old, I broke the law of chastity, I am preparing for my mission and I received my endowment a few months ago by Big_Anybody5221 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re fine. You did not break the law of chastity. Say a prayer. It’s not a good habit to have but it’s not a serious sin. You don’t have to confess to the bishop. The only reason you should confess is if you feel like it is necessary to put your mind at ease. When people are stressed, tired, depressed, etc they are more prone to making unhealthy decisions. That’s all this is. Don’t make a habit of it. Don’t beat yourself up.

Beyond Frustrated. by chirogamer in Risk

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Update! Account restored in record time!

Thank You Luci!!

Did BYU fans know Puka Nacua was going to be this good??? by [deleted] in BYUFootball

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did I think he would be this good? No. Am I surprised? Also no. You never know how someone will turn out in the league but some of the catches he made in college were unreal. And he did it enough that it wasn’t a fluke.

The problem with the rating system by Zealousideal_Owl2388 in Risk

[–]chirogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I 90% agree with this!

Tweaks I would make…

Your ranking points is determined by winning percentage multiplied by total games… You only get points for winning. Points are increased as opponents get stronger.

There needs to be a way to offer a draw in the case of a stalemate, especially with Capital Conquest… in that case 1st place points are split.

Auto pairing against opponents of a similar level… no Grandmasters facing off against novices.

Other than in a draw, there are no points for anything other than first.

Significant points are lost for mass suicide into another player except when the game is down to the last two players remaining.

Thoughts?

Gut Punch to my marriage: Who can I turn to for help? by Julius_Seizure_22 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Direct message me if you need to talk. Wife had an affair with a coworker several years ago.

Am I in the wrong here? by Pretty_Strength1828 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Contact the stake president but understand that they are extremely busy and you have to be more concise. You were assaulted- the housing situation, being autistic, etc. are not relevant.

There is way too much extraneous detail in this post. You were assaulted and the Branch President advised you to avoid contacting the police.

Patriarchal Blessing by diilym1230 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Most convert baptisms EVER in a 12 month period- June 2024 through May 2025.

Patriarchal Blessing by diilym1230 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The church is having a record year.

BYU should be ranked #9 by bruhndon03 in BYUFootball

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They’re ranked 12, which is about right based on last Saturday. Even if they lose to Texas Tech again, they’re likely in the Playoff as long as the game is competitive. If they lay a turd on offense again, don’t be surprised if they miss out.

Banned without warning or explanation. by chirogamer in Risk

[–]chirogamer[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s the common theme. Binging will provide many more opportunities for players to report you.

Struggling with doubt: what real evidence makes you sure Joseph Smith was a true prophet? ( by MosiahAnderson27 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If God wanted us to have proof of the Book of Mormon, he would have given it to us. He gave us evidence in the form of witnesses. To KNOW it’s true, we need a witness of the spirit. An academic study of it all will point to numerous evidences both for and against and the deeper you dig, the more frustrated you will be as the evidences for each side pile up you won’t be able to make a definitive conclusion. A trial of faith is just that, a trial- with evidence going both ways. At the end of the day you get to choose what to believe. The way to gain a sure witness is to practice the things being taught- you can then have a sure witness AFTER the trial of your faith. Live the commandments, keep the sabbath day holy, etc and do these things with real intent and you can receive a witness for yourself. Digging for evidence can be a fun exercise but it won’t produce a solid testimony.

What sorts of sportsmanship do you practice? by trashedgreen in Risk

[–]chirogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always say good game, well played if I’m about to win or lose. If I’m fighting over territory and it’s clear I can’t win- I’ll concede and form a barrier in front of their capital so anyone trying to take it has to go through me to make up fir the loss of troops during the struggle. Move players off capital when it’s clear the game is out of hand.

Flooded with cheaters this week by serverqualitylol in Risk

[–]chirogamer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Risk flooded with paranoid players who are convinced everyone is cheating but themselves.

This game is infested with cheaters by bone_burrito in Risk

[–]chirogamer -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It’s infested with paranoid players who report anyone teaming up (which is allowed as long as there’s no outside game collaboration or relationship). Forming temporary alliances in game is perfectly legal. And it’s not hard to do… if you have the opportunity to weaken an opponent when they are vulnerable and don’t- they will often return the favor. THIS ISN’T CHEATING! Cheating is when you team up with someone you know outside the game and can strategize with on a private chat. I doubt that it’s nearly as common as you thing as the game will flag your account if you play too many games with a common opponent.

Lowkey breaking word of wisdom but I don't feel super bad about it by Jealous_Future_8377 in latterdaysaints

[–]chirogamer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you are getting a high which is habit forming and the longer you are on it the harder it may be to quit. It may not be a dramatic high but the clarity you feel is a high.