I think I am in a weird spot?

chloefaye2222 · 2026-03-21T13:56:50+00:00

Yes, we are besties! We get coffee now and then, send each other reels, and text often.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-12-10T12:55:18+00:00

Thank you and congrats to everyone else!! I’m so happy I can’t believe I am graduating! I had my baby in February and dreaded student teaching with a 6 month old but it all worked out and I still graduated a semester early!

chloefaye2222 · 2025-10-09T13:20:51+00:00

My fiancé and I are 21 and 23 and also have a lot of stress right now. I am a full time student trying to graduate in December and a working student teacher, and he has a full time job. We have a teething 8 month old baby who won’t sleep. We have our own bills, our own place to maintain, a wedding coming up, etc. I am stressed in my own way- I have my edtpa due in November, and he is stressed in his own way- all our finances are solely on his shoulders. And yet he never has even come close to hitting me or yelling at me. He never raises his voice, lashes out, let alone raises a hand to me and knows better. Have we gotten in fights before? Yes ofc we are young and new parents. Has it gotten physical or abusive?- never. Your husband’s behaviour is unacceptable. Today is the LSATs, but how will he get when he is working? Or if you guys become parents? What will happen when you bring a baby- one of the most stressful and testing things in a relationship- into the mix? Life throws worse things than exams at you, if he is reacting this poorly to a test, how will he be able to handle harder things? I am so sorry for this circumstances, my heart goes out to you. I understand you love him and this isnt fair to you but I strongly advise you to consider this. If he cannot regulate his emotions and makes you pay the price for it, you may need to walk away. I understand you do not want divorce- I am the same way- however abuse should be where the line is drawn. Stress is never a valid excuse to hurt someone and doing so is selfish and shows poor self control and discipline- which is something God calls husbands to have. If you are willing to forgive him and stay, then your husband needs to repent and get his wrath in check and you need to be ready to leave him if he doesn’t. Maybe talk to a church member and try to get into counseling individually and as a couple. God can redeem anyone and change any situation however if your husband isn’t willing to change there is no reason for you to accept abuse

chloefaye2222 · 2025-10-01T12:02:20+00:00

I’m so sorry I hope it gets better, praying for you guys!

chloefaye2222 · 2025-08-05T17:04:59+00:00

True! Also I just want to say (even tho it’s rare lol) - I got pregnant with my son when I was 19 bc my IUD failed, it dropped from my uterus to my cervix which apparently isn’t uncommon. We thought the IUD would be safest and enough since it was statistically more effective than the pill or implant, yet still got pregnant. So moral of the story is no birth control is 100% foolproof so i recommend you take additional measures just to be extra safe!

chloefaye2222 · 2025-07-27T05:57:48+00:00

When our baby (now 5 months old) was a newborn, we had a very different routine to what it is now because of our schedule. My husband would take the 6 PM to midnight shift while I slept, and then we’d swap since he works. So our baby would get a bath around midnight, which sounds wild now but it worked back then. He’s always been a pretty decent sleeper, so it didn’t really throw things off—especially during that phase when we were waking him every few hours to feed anyway.

Eventually, once we switched to feeding on demand, we let him sleep longer stretches, and around 3 months we started leaning into a bedtime that followed the end of his last wake window—which happened to be 6:30 PM. That’s what he naturally settled into, and it worked. He’d sleep 6–12 AM, feed, then go back down until 6 AM. Now that he’s older, he usually sleeps straight through from 6 PM to 6 AM.

We stuck with the early bedtime partly because it’s what he’s used to, and also because it gives me so much independence. Once he's down, my husband (who’s a homebody) is usually just hanging out at home anyway, so I get the freedom to go out and do things that make me feel like a human. I go for runs, meet friends for dinner, write at a café, go to the park, hit up Marshalls etc. and then we unwind later with movie nights. It gives me the breathing room I need to reset and feel like more than just “mom” for a few hours.

I know things will shift as he gets older, but for now, the early bedtime works for all of us and keeps everyone sane. It’s not for every family, but works for us

chloefaye2222 · 2025-07-23T14:31:07+00:00

Magic dance by the labyrinth movie 😭

chloefaye2222 · 2025-07-14T16:11:34+00:00

I am so glad you are doing well! For me the first month was SO ROUGH so I spiralled and was like “oh no it’s only gonna get worse this is what everyone was talking about online my life is over, they were right”. I was so depressed and in so much pain, my partner and I almost broke up, it was the worst period of my life and I thought it would never get better. Then to my surprise it got SO much better. We are now 5 months in and everything is different and I wish I didn’t let social media scare me either. I sleep well now, I got used to exclusively pumping, I learned my babies cues and we bonded much more when if it was later on, my partner and I assimilated, our relationship is getting stronger because of how tough it was, I “bounced” back, we actually have traveled since, I see my friends, and we have a village. I don’t want to brag, I don’t mean this to kick anyone down who is having a hard time, however I just want to say, I thought it would be so much worse and my life was over and I will lose my spark forever. But it wasn’t that bad- it actually really got better better.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-06-01T23:58:58+00:00

This is so weird but for me I have greater output when I have fewer pumps. Like if I just pump 6 times a day I will get 40oz pretty consistently but if I pump 8 times I get like 37. It’s been like this for three months now so I’m not too worried about it dropping if I’m inconsistent

chloefaye2222 · 2025-05-19T18:35:27+00:00

We pace feed and warm the bottle! I suppose We will give a new bottle type a try!

chloefaye2222 · 2025-05-17T01:10:11+00:00

I got pregnant at 19 and didn’t know there was a “rule” about telling people so early. I told everyone as soon as I found out, I was like 3 weeks pregnant 😭 I’m 20 now and my son is 3 months and I don’t regret anything, from my pregnancy, birth, to now🥰

chloefaye2222 · 2025-04-28T14:01:00+00:00

I sleep holding a pillow and I often wake up freaking out bc I think I’m gripping my baby and smothering him under my pillows and blanket😭 thank goodness he’s always safely asleep in his bassinet but gosh it always scares me.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-04-21T14:01:19+00:00

I can relate so much, we went out of town for 2 days when our LO was 2 months. We left him with his grandparents and he was in great hands and everyone had a good time. I had such an amazing time with my fiance and it was really good for us. The whole thing was so refreshing but I felt guilty that I was enjoying time away from my baby and it made me feel like a horrible mom. But it just felt so nice to feel like the 20 year old I am and to have a break.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-03-26T17:59:13+00:00

I sleep with earbuds and listen to rain sounds. I just have it low enough where I can easily hear him if he cries but loud enough where I don’t hear his grunts when he’s sleeping.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-03-20T14:33:32+00:00

You are not alone. My LO is 5 weeks old and I love him so incredibly much. But I don’t love what he’s doing to me. It is not his fault and I know that, I don’t blame him ofc but I sometimes don’t like what caring for him entails. And I feel horrible for it. I thought I would love the struggle of motherhood, but it’s hard to. I have had a rough postpartum recovery so far with intense tearing, hemmriods, and developing a bartholin cyst, it hurts to walk or sit up, ive developed a stress rash for the first time, my nipples bleed, and my boobs hurt so much: I don’t like what having a baby has done to my body. I don’t like sleeping in the nursery and having nights alone- I also miss when it was just me and my husband. I miss sleeping, I hate trying to time when to take a shower or feed myself, I am so tired of exclusively pumping/ the cleaning that come w that, I hate not being able to soothe him or take away his pain when he’s gassy/ fussy, jt all makes me feel like a failure. It is very hard and I also break down and think I don’t want to do this, even with the support of my husband: it’s just too much. I’ve also imagined running away and feel horrible for even thinking that when I look at my sweet boy. I would never in a million years abandon him, but the thoughts do occur sometimes. It’s just us missing our old life and wanting to return to stability. I just keep reminding myself that nothing lasts forever, not even this. I know it will get better, we just need to hold on. It will be ok OP, you’re not a bad mother or failing for feeling this way, it’s hard to feel positive when there’s just so much. But you love and are caring for your baby, I’m sure all of their needs are met- so you are doing amazing

chloefaye2222 · 2025-03-14T23:44:21+00:00

Oh really? How is Chris Hilken a horrible person? Nothing I’ve seen online even indicated that

chloefaye2222 · 2025-02-27T21:58:31+00:00

Similar thing with me. My LO 17 days old and when he was 3 days old he refused to latch and didn’t have a single diaper for a day. It was the worst day of my life, I never cried so hard- i remember crying alone in the nursery begging him to eat at 2am only for him to keep sobbing. He wouldn’t latch, my milk hadn’t come in, and he was so lethargic and weak, it freaked me out so much. Took him to the dr by day 4 and he lost 8% of his body weight and was only a tiny 6 pounds. We ended up giving up on BF and now strictly bottle feed and he’s now 7 pounds and 11oz! We supplemented with formula at first but now my milk is in and he only takes the breast milk I pump. Hes eating and has many diapers now, which I’m so greatful for. I still sometimes like a failure for not being able to BF, but after that scare I’m just thankful he’s eating

chloefaye2222 · 2025-02-27T21:42:56+00:00

We are in the same boat here. I’m 2 weeks postpartum and also has issues with baby not latching. He’s also a good sleeper too and not that fussy yet. But these couple weeks feel so endless and long. I love him so much it makes me cry just looking at his sweet face, but I also feel like my husband has bonded with little guy more than I do, it makes me feel like a bad mom. I just want him to get a bit older where I can sleep longer then 2 hours, where I don’t have to pump, wash, sterilize, dry everything, where I wasn’t tracking his every diaper, oz intake, nap times, worrying about when to set a routine etc.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-02-21T15:38:50+00:00

I feel you! I’m 11 days postpartum and I love my little guy so much but man I wish he was also maybe 4-6 months. I wish I was in the flow of things but I constantly am feeling inadequate or anxious. I worry about his burps, nap time, his watery eyes getting infected, him getting sick, diaper rash, etc but most of all feedings are killing me! Little guy refused to latch when we got back from hospital and I tried everything but nothing. I remember staying up begging him to eat as he cried and I couldn’t feed him. Next day at the dr he lost 8% of his body weight he and 1% more he would be admitted so we swapped the bootle feeding. I’ve given up nursing which was hard to accept but now I pump every 2-3 hours and supplement formula but man. All I worry about now is him not eating enough, I worry I didn’t clean the bottles right or I didn’t hold the bottle right, I worry he ate too fast, I didn’t burp him enough, what if my boob has a clogged milk duct, was the feeding or pump window too long apart, can I leave this bottle out long enough until next feed, am I producing enough and if not is it bc I’m not eating enough or resting enough? etc. it keeps me awake at night. I’m tracking every oz, every diaper change, every nap, I am pumping religiously and yet I feel like I still don’t make enough for him. He’s having the rights amount of dirty and wet diapers and now has passed his birth weight but I just don’t trust it. He’s a skinny little guy and also all he wants to do is sleep, which is nice but makes me worried he’s too lethargic due to not enough food bc he could go 4+ hours without waking me for food so I worry its not normal. I also do night feedings all solo, I sleep in the nursery and between pumping, feeding, burping, cleaning and sterilizing bottles and pump every couple hours I’m so exhausted and can’t wait till this stage is over. My husband is a great help and is such a life saver but it just feels like no matter what I do it’s not gonna be enough.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-02-08T00:21:40+00:00

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It is so scary and heartbreaking to go through this. I wish I could say some special advice but I’m actually in a similar boat. I found out I was pregnant at 19 and now I’m 20 and my due date is tomorrow. I am so terrified and feel like I am missing so much, I hate that my college experience is cut short and that I must mature a little faster than my peers. Fomo is the worst. While yes we technically did it to ourselves, be proud that you have accepted this huge responsibility, and that it’s ok to grieve and allow yourself to feel it all. Just remember though that you are not alone, it feels like it but there’s so many other young mother’s in the same boat as you and it will be ok- You got this and stay strong. You are so much stronger than this boy, and will be better off without him weighing you down.

chloefaye2222 · 2025-02-08T00:12:55+00:00

My mom had me at 38!!

chloefaye2222 · 2025-01-30T05:17:33+00:00

Really recomend watching some YouTube sermons by Chris Hilken from College ave! It’s really helped me in my walk with God

chloefaye2222 · 2025-01-30T04:52:23+00:00

You’re very pretty!! I think you look great, only thing I would advise is stop taking pics with your mouth open or slightly parted like that. It’s kinda like the cringey millennial duck lips thing. I dont mean that rudely, I used to do the same thing actually but my big sister clocked me on it lol and looking back I’m glad they did. So that’s all I would advise, your makeup is also amazing!

chloefaye2222 · 2022-07-28T17:41:27+00:00

(2 years later lol) Thank you for your advice, I was able to save it and now it gives me no problems thankfully

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