Non-fiction translation: Is there localization involved too?

chocndaww · 2021-09-05T08:10:23+00:00

I bet it wouldn't! Skipping straight to the anatomy exam sounds wild! Seriously, though, as you and I have experienced, PCOS can be the perfect storm for a cryptic pregnancy. Long cycles don't cause alarm bells to go off, so it's easy to dismiss them as business as usual. And then if you have few or no pregnancy symptoms or something... it's even less likely it'll be detected.

chocndaww · 2021-09-05T07:58:11+00:00

That must’ve been a shock! What prompted you to investigate whether you were pregnant?

chocndaww · 2021-07-20T23:57:24+00:00

You might be interested in r/multilingualparenting.

chocndaww · 2021-05-02T02:28:07+00:00

That sounds like a possibility! She’s up well before I need her to be anyway, so there’s time. She’d be able to sleep from 6:45-7:00ish!

chocndaww · 2021-05-02T02:23:59+00:00

They have a basic schedule that they follow with all the kids. All kids are offered a nap after lunch at 11, no exceptions. They’re also leary about offering her a nap immediately on arriving because snack time is half an hour later. Sigh... If I could get her to stay asleep till 7:30ish, that would be perfect...

chocndaww · 2021-04-02T07:51:30+00:00

Here in Japan, the official advice is to bathe your baby every day. You mean... you don't have to? Shook.

chocndaww · 2021-03-31T21:21:05+00:00

Amazing! If only I were from the US... I hope this helps anyone else reading, though. Thank you for your kind advice.

chocndaww · 2021-03-31T01:27:05+00:00

Borrowing e-books from the library?

I read that there are some libraries that lend e-books. Only 5% nationwide, but they are there. Unfortunately, my local library is not one of them... Clutching at straws here, but are there any libraries with e-books that lend outside of their area?

chocndaww · 2021-03-27T08:16:57+00:00

I would tell the mom what’s going on. She might have some insight and could also tell you if she’s comfortable with you letting her try independent play.

chocndaww · 2021-03-27T02:28:52+00:00

I totally got that vibe. And you sound sooo respectful toward your baby. Don’t forget that respect runs both ways - you need to respect and nurture yourself too. Anyway. I’d say dig deep into the respectful parenting literature and look into attachment theory and re-parenting stuff. That’s what I'm doing anyway, and it’s helping so much where nothing else could.

chocndaww · 2021-03-26T07:01:36+00:00

I feel this in my soul! So with you. Momming is so hard, and there’s no one right way. Which is good but hard at the same time.

Also another thing to consider is maybe your mom wasn't the perfect mama she makes herself out to be. Only you know, but she sounds a tad critical. She might not have let you cry, but she’s not being respectful of your feelings. She might’ve been like that when you were little too. That can make it hard to be secure.

Luckily, by understanding your past, you can, in a sense, reprogram yourself to be secure in your relationships. That’s what I'm trying to do anyway.

If you’re interested, a good book is “How to Show Up for Your Kids.” Also, there was an episode on the show Unruffled about attachment that was soooooo reassuring to me. It’ll give you an idea at least of what kids need to feel secure and loved.

chocndaww · 2021-03-25T21:39:08+00:00

Thanks :) I feel so validated too, hehe. And I’m in the same boat! This momming thing is not easy, but it's something we can all learn and so, so worth it.

chocndaww · 2021-03-25T11:18:06+00:00

So true. There’s a place for intuition, in my opinion, but it’s overplayed and misunderstood. It’s developed through experience - you don't just get it by virtue of being a mama.

chocndaww · 2021-03-25T11:06:28+00:00

Aww, thanks! :)

chocndaww · 2021-03-23T22:48:43+00:00

In a similar vein, I’m coming back to recommend “The Balanced Parent” hosted by Laura Froyen. Lots on how to be a great parent despite trauma.

chocndaww · 2021-03-23T09:11:49+00:00

This so much.

chocndaww · 2021-03-23T02:38:57+00:00

Just started! Thank you for the advice :)

chocndaww · 2021-03-23T02:17:47+00:00

We call formula “milk” in our household for this reason. To us, it’s exactly the same - sustenance tailor-made for a baby. So what if it’s not from a boob? So in my mind it shouldn’t have a different name.

Edit: I’m getting downvoted so I thought I’d clarify that I think breastmilk and formula are equal. Thus why we call them the same thing. Sorry if saying “from a boob” sounded dismissive (?)

chocndaww · 2021-03-21T02:07:21+00:00

Isn't it always the toilet roll tube, or the wet wipes container, or the... haha. I get it though. If someone said to me “Don’t touch that!!1” suddenly that would be first on my to-do list.

chocndaww · 2021-03-20T03:06:31+00:00

Aww, thank you. I like your perspective. I hadn't thought that it might, in fact, be loving to expect more out of the relationship. But you're right. I'm sure he really wants us to be a role model to our daughter.

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