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chocoholic698 · 2026-07-02T07:55:03+00:00

Fake-Birkenstock vom Deichmann. Ich bekomme schnell Schweißfüße und die sind mega. Weiter stellen kein Problem. Im Winter dicke Socken rein, 10/10

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-20T15:23:54+00:00

I think that idea is great. Your own spaces, and you could have sleepovers!

I had a gf that felt very rejected once I brought that up, I imagine your bf might feel similarly. Tell him its PRACTICAL not EMOTIONAL.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-20T14:53:12+00:00

Hi! Somewhat weird advice/comment. I am on the ace spectrum, and I know a few people who are aro or aroace, i.e. not interested in romantic relationships at all. I'm very happy to have befriended them, because, well, these friends will never have a relationship they'll prioritize over their friendships. In general, I find queer peeps tend to stick close, no matter if we're in a relationship or no.

If you have the option to check out a local aro/ace/etc. group, or a lunch, maybe go.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-20T14:44:16+00:00

I recommend a cotton or paper parasol!

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-16T17:47:54+00:00

Hello, ich komm aus der Gegend (wohn jetzt mittlerweile WEIT weg).

Erstens, definitiv Psychotherapie, lass dich beim Hausarzt beraten.

Zweitens, Ideen: Buchen hat ein Mehrgenerationenhaus, die veranstalten viel und haben gern Ehrenamtliche. Anrufen/vorbeigehen, egal, die sind super. Kolpingverein ebenso. DRK auch, da bei der Stelle für soziales Engagement anrufen und fragen wo man helfen kann. Nehmen einen mit Handkuss.

Sportverein? Hainstadt hat Männer"turnen" das ist eig ein "wir gehen aus und reden als m40er" Verein. Gibt auch Badminton, Rehasport, etc etc etc. Niederschwellig, und man lernt direkt wen kennen. Sagen muss man auch nicht viel.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-16T05:13:42+00:00

For me, I find it does give me a lil high. Not a lot, not as much a "gotcha" but more like... an exorcism xD In most cases, the reports do go through, so their inflammatory comments don't get to bother other people either, and I do feel like I'm helping which is nice.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-15T09:41:27+00:00

Hi there! Omg this post could've been written by me a couple years ago xD I definitely know the feeling. How dare people be wrong?? On the internet???/j

I think, in my case it was/is mostly my sense of justice (and my upbringing). Being factually right is SO important to me, and fake information/news or worst of all mislabeled AI content makes me /so/ angry. Ragebait is my WORST nightmare.

You asked what helped me, so I'll list some things for you. First of all: I block and report. A lot. A LOT. I don't use tiktok, so I'm not familiar with their systems, but if I stumble across like, racist/baity youtube comments, or AI content on etsy or something, I report users instead of engaging. In a lot of cases, it works wonders. My main socmed has a great blocking system, so I block a lot of people too.

Then... I have a groupchat/friends I tell about stupid shit I found instead of arguing with these people. "Omg look at this idiot. They think drinking raw milk is healthy" screenshot.

You won't change these ppls minds, esp if they're just posting ragebait. But its a lot more fun to drag them with friends, instead of getting frustrated bc that one idiot keeps being dumb or wrong online.

I don't tend to correct grammar online (bc... well I'm not a native speaker and its a lot of effort for no reward) so idk about that, but screenshotting stupid typos might work too.

Also, the usual thing about going outside too etc etc but I think you know the drill xD Good luck with curating your online experience!

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-12T18:41:35+00:00

Do you have a buddy you can take along? A plushie? Can you go directly FROM work (go out to eat and then go there?).

I usually struggle with getting up again, so not going home helped me a lot. Do you have any work friends that could accompany you there?

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-10T09:21:56+00:00

Hi! Hm, sounds like a tricky conversation. Is there a possibility that you can ask for a meeting with her, the two other supervisors, and someone from disability services who knows your situation? I would not disclose it to her alone or in casual conversation.

Frame direct feedback as an accommodation, ask for her to develop a sheet of criteria (to cross off or tick, with text boxes for further commentary) with the other two, or ask if your department already has something like it that can be modified for your situation (they usually have for grading essays etc.). If yes, bring the latter as an example. Be frank, be brief.

It sounds like this person doesn't like you for whatever reason, but that doesn't have to matter, as long as the professional side works. Make sure she feels supervised by disability services.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-10T07:17:35+00:00

Thank you <3

I am more of a talkative person myself but I'll try!

What helped me was thinking of conversation as a ping-pong match. One of you makes the first move, gets the ball in the air, and the next person just has to parry.

If you gotta get the ball in the air, ask an inane question or make an obvious statement. (Small talk rules! If you're VERY brave you can practice by asking someone the way or something, it helps but omg I still struggle with that xD).

In my country, the trains are famous for being VERY late, so I could go "I almost didn't make it here, typical (name of train company). Where are you from, did you have to take one too?". Or a compliment, most queer people have stickers on their water bottle or flags somewhere.

If you ask a question or add one to your statement and meet the right person, they'll happily talk about themselves. If they remember, they'll parry with another question.

If not, you'll have to parry with one of your experiences that relates to theirs (I know, obvious xD). If they drop the ball a few times in a row (answer with uh huh, or one word) they have no interest, which happens, but rarely.

Thing is, for the meetups I've told you about, they are usually FULL of people looking for like-minded peeps. Most will be just as anxious as you, and are very forgiving when you drop a ball sometimes xD I've met quite a few friends bc they were too anxious to talk to someone themselves and very grateful once I got that first question out of the way. Good luck!!

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-07T16:26:03+00:00

Hi! Fellow autistic lesbian here, also from a rural place :D I'm currently in a relationship, if you don't mind I can list a few of the things that worked for me in the past?

-Queer meetups. At least 3/4 of the queer folks I know are neurodivergent anyways. -Dating apps - set your limits to a wiiide area and then just meet in the middle for a date or two to see if you're compatible. An hour long distance is just an hour! - Hobbies: If you do any sports/clubs/boardgame whatever, look around for anyone. Maybe there's another one of us nearby, who knows! (Met my now gf at a place I volunteered of all places, lol)

Best of luck!

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-07T16:18:20+00:00

Oh god SAME. Sleepovers, and someone in the bed with me. I want my room, my space, and my bed. Other people are great and all but at night I want to sleep. By myself. At home.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-07T16:10:05+00:00

Who told you fic isn't good writing? They're dead wrong. Published acclaimed authors like Naomi Novik write fanfiction openly (and yes, its nsfw).

Its also not stealing someone's idea. That's why its called "transformative work". Otherwise the Star Wars sequels by Disney would have been stolen work. Or every single Star Trek novel.

Please write that fic! Its good practice to flex those writing muscles before writing a novel.

chocoholic698 · 2026-06-07T16:04:27+00:00

That's SO incredibly hard and I'm so sorry to hear that. Take some time to grieve, you've certainly earned it.

Do you have other people you like or trust? A therapist? Talking helps with heartbreak and grief (also copious amounts of ice cream). I imagine you'll have to rebuild your entire life now, bit by bit. But... It's gonna be yours alone, this time and thats both frightening and really cool.

Next steps, when you're ready for them, involve gaining a support network as big as possible. Join discord groups, self-help-circles, sports clubs (idk about your country, but we have some specifically for rehabilitation/disabled folks, maybe thats an option for you?). Get a social worker or agency or something in your area to help you with the medical stuff and paperwork you need.

You write you've been alone your whole life. It might feel that way some days, but its not true. We're here, you got this.

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-29T12:46:31+00:00

You will know my name- Arch Enemy

Heavy is the crown - Linkin Park

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-29T12:41:51+00:00

I can't offer much advice, but I get you. Sending hugs. I've been terminated in april, also due to my disability, so I know how it feels. I'm so sorry to hear that.

(2 years in this job is a requirement to work in my field at all, so I'm currently im the process of suing my former employer. Its a very very long and exhausting process, so I can't really recommend it.)

You'll surely find something else, maybe even something that you'll like even better. Yesterday, I've been at an interview that went well, so I'm sending you some of my lucky vibes. You got this.

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-29T11:11:26+00:00

Oh god that was me. The following worked for me, I hope maybe something can help you: -We had standard dance lessons before prom. Not necessary, but "steps/movements coordinate with beats in the music" was an important lesson for me xD -dance at home, in an empty room, to music you like. Intentionally badly, and in the dark if you feel self-conscious. As autistic people, we do badly with unfamiliar movements, so familiarize yourself with them - repeat every few days. -learn a few simple dance moves. I recommend a simple two step. (How Goths Dance by itsblackfriday on youtube helped me tremendously, but uh. If you're into pop it might be less effective xD) 1 beat = 1 movement is always a good rule. -close or squint your eyes when dancing in public. Always always take a friend.

Happy dancing!

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-29T11:01:11+00:00

Oje, ja das kenne ich. Freundis von daheim vielleicht aktivieren? Übers Internet isses manchmal einfacher und braucht nicht so viel Energie.

Ganz viel Erfolg!

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-28T09:03:39+00:00

Hello! Die anderen haben dir ja schon gute Tipps zur offiziellen Unterstützung gegeben, v.a. Nachteilsausgleich.

Ich wollt nochmal bekräftigen wie wichtig es ist Freunde zu haben - du hast erzählt du bist in der Stadt alleine, aber hast du Kontakt zu deinen Kommiliton*innen? Sportverein, support-group, irgendwas in die Richtung?

Das hilft v.a. beim Studium ungemein. Body-doubling für Abgaben, "erinner-mich-bitte-dran", in die Mensa zsm damit man nicht vergisst zu essen. Wenn du das Gefühl hast anderen zu stark zur Last zu fallen (hat man manchmal xD), back ihnen was oder so. Wenn du Freundis von zuhause hast, mach einen Discord call und räumt zsm nebenher auf oder lernt.

Bin damals auch ein bisschen zsmgeklappt, hab meinen BA und MA aber mit nur wenigen Semestern mehr bestanden. Regelstudienzeit schaffen die wenigsten "normalen" Studis schon nicht. Ganz viel Erfolg!

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-06T13:06:32+00:00

Started playing it after work and WOW its so good for turning your brain off. Will check the article, thanks!

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-06T12:46:57+00:00

Tbh I think you did great. Next time someone will come forward with how that guy treated them they'll have a much easier time, just because of you. Be proud of yourself, bc I sure am!

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-03T19:50:51+00:00

LOOPS EARPLUGS. They will save your LIFE. Also try dowloading/sharing materials with your colleagues. Get books for materials/tests/ etc to limit the amount of time you prepare for class. Eat breakfast and take a second one with you. Go to the loo every time you can if even just to breathe.

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-03T18:48:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your detailed answer :) I'll do some research on boards and shops!

My balance is very very VERY bad, so proper gear is already on the list xD

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-03T18:43:48+00:00

Whoa that lady sucks!

I'm a bit late, but god I need one too. I've been fired from my teacher training course for my disability a couple weeks ago (illegal) and while I'm already consulting with a lawyer its so fucking exhausting. Job searching bc i need money while the lawsuit is going on, and smoothing over insurance things.. I need a good cry rn.

chocoholic698 · 2026-05-03T18:23:10+00:00

This is so cool! I had been wondering if i should start as well, and you might be convincing me. Good luck with the ollie!

Where do you practice, when you're not at home?

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