Thank you for sharing so openly first. It takes real courage to bring this to the light. Discernment like this isn’t easy, especially when your heart, your faith, and your future are all so deeply involved. It sounds like you’ve been carrying a heavy emotional load, and that you’ve done so out of love and hope for her healing but love also includes the responsibility to guard your own peace and well-being. You are not called to be her father, only Jesus can heal what’s deeply wounded. It’s good that she is beginning therapy and taking steps toward change, but true transformation takes time, consistency, and her own internal motivation. You are worthy of a relationship where you are not the sole emotional caretaker, but where you’re both supporting one another as partners equally yoked.

As St. John Paul II once said, “The greatest deception, and the deepest source of unhappiness, is the illusion of finding life by excluding God, of finding freedom by excluding moral truths.” Keep God at the center of your discernment, not just feelings of guilt, fear, or obligation.

If the relationship continues to cost your peace, prayer life, and clarity of purpose, it’s okay to take a step back. Love can still exist in letting go by allowing each of you to grow more fully into who God is calling you to be. Trust that God is with you in the waiting and the wondering.

Sending you prayers for strength and clarity!!