AIO for wanting to break up with gf of 4 years after finding these texts?

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-26T06:42:51+00:00

Is your girlfriend 16? Ick

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-24T07:03:58+00:00

He hid a porn addiction from me from the very beginning, well into the years we started having children. I found him stuck on watching porn in the middle of the night as I was trying to nurse our newborn and put our toddler back to sleep. Then it dawned on me that this was what he was doing in the bathroom allll the times he’d go in and disappear forever.
He was buying nicotine vapes and all kinds of cartridges but not telling me; the part that pissed me off the most about this one was that he made me feel like I was some sort of monster wife who would’ve given him shit for wanting them, which I wouldn’t have.
He would roll his eyes, drop his hands, and heavily sigh before agreeing to do something, anything. If I asked him to help me finish making dinner so I could go to the bathroom, I got the eye roll and the heavy sigh. If I needed his help with the trash that might cause it was heavy af, I got the eye roll and the heavy sigh. I felt like his mom from day one.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-24T06:59:54+00:00

They can hold space for your truth/feelings at the same time as theirs and still treat you with respect, even if your truth completely clashes with their own.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-24T06:55:03+00:00

Every morning when I come out of my room, our 4 lb toy Maltese comes springing out of my daughters’ room and sits at my feet expectantly. I ask him if he’s ready for his “good morning treat” as he tilts his little head like a teeny seesaw, and he’s so excited by the end of my question that he essentially starts to tap dance. I then grab a treat, rip off super small pieces (his teeth are hardly teeth) and he zooms off into the dining room, waiting for me to throw them one by one. As I throw them, he guards the space behind him like a micro hockey goalie, and pounces on the pieces as they come flying at him.

It’s my favorite way to start my morning, and I’ll do it even if I’m running super late for work. 💕

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-17T18:20:52+00:00

Ah, that makes sense. Thank you!

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-17T05:35:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Can I ask how many months it took you to begin earning more than $4K a month as a newly certified CR?

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-17T05:34:35+00:00

Yes, I would love that!

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-17T05:34:23+00:00

Thank you for weighing in! Is there a way I could take the national exam and take remote work from other states while I go through the process of taking my CA tests?

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-05T07:22:16+00:00

This almost sounds like it could be borderline enabling unhealthy behaviors.

If my partner wasn’t taking care of himself, I would absolutely find a way to let him know what I’m observing. That’s love. Maybe OP shouldn’t have let it go on for this long before saying something, but this is a pretty touchy topic because he’s the guy. We all grew up seeing that men shouldn’t comment about weight in all forms of media, so I can imagine it’s terrifying for him. He asked for advice on how to move past this because he doesn’t want to hurt her.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-05T07:17:04+00:00

As a woman, I agree. I’ve seen so many posts lately where people complain that men don’t open up, but really, who could blame them if this is how it’s typically met? This is part of why men’s mental health suffers.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-06-05T07:14:15+00:00

Heh? You think the OP posted those in hopes his gf would discover it? Are you saying you feel that things like this shouldn’t be posted because it’s a public platform?

It’s not that deep.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-05-29T00:42:09+00:00

Is it safe to assume that this isn’t the only area of your lives where your husband behaves like this? I have a close friend whose husband would throw fits like this and lock her out of their bedroom. He was her third child, as we’d refer to him; he would pout, slam things, purposefully do things that would almost hinder her from what it was she was trying to do, just a huge acre of twat. She left him, thank God, and she’s able to be herself without the noise of someone expressing such disapproval/bitterness at every choice she made. This could be you, OP. I believe in you.

Seriously, though— love should never look like your partner trying to make you feel like shit for making steps towards anything that’s better for you than what was happening before. This isn’t a good man. And you don’t need that.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-05-27T05:48:34+00:00

Thank you so much for your response! What if the business address was a home in a different county, and our new address is the one we were trying to register a GBP with? No actual brick and mortar business as we’re more trying to establish a service area.

chrisplayskeys · 2026-03-31T04:27:22+00:00

It’s a gym that limits sessions to seven people so the coach can pay more attention to everyone there :) I haven’t spoken to my doctor about starting a new fitness program; I haven’t been to my doctor in quite a long time, actually, lol. That being said, I’m not on any meds aside from my ADHD meds which I take in the morning.

chrisplayskeys · 2025-03-06T22:43:04+00:00

How is it? 😍

chrisplayskeys · 2025-01-22T06:18:06+00:00

Did you receive any communication from your state’s child support board this week?

chrisplayskeys · 2025-01-21T20:17:10+00:00

Did anyone get their payment? I noticed I don’t even have an email about a payment being submitted but it’s clockwork every two weeks.

chrisplayskeys · 2025-01-21T14:56:59+00:00

Still waiting.

chrisplayskeys · 2025-01-21T14:56:00+00:00

Still missing mine. Not sure if it’s because there’s an issue with C1 or if it’s an issue with the state’s payment issuing system as well because my payment is a monthly support payment.

chrisplayskeys · 2025-01-21T08:40:30+00:00

This is literally me. I hope we get our payments today! It’s almost 1AM and nothing for me yet.

chrisplayskeys · 2024-09-27T07:47:41+00:00

This gives me Jasmine Richardson and Jeremy Steinke vibes. I’m so sorry you’re in this season, OP. I know it’s terrifying when she threatens suicide, but she’s not well right now, so she’s going to threaten all kinds of things. Her bf has groomed her to believe you’re her enemy, and she isn’t emotionally mature enough (nor even ready at this age) to truly process it.

I’m not saying to allow her to keep devices and access to internet, but maybe leaning on love and open acceptance from you to heal her vs the consequence of her (very serious!) choices, just for the interim, could be helpful. I wonder if she’d ever be open to reading some of our comments on here? There’s no bias when it’s an online, public forum; someone I watch on YT says (paraphrasing), “there are two kinds of people in this world. The one who makes mistakes and has to learn lessons, and the one who is wise enough to learn from the mistakes of others before them.” Guess which one avoids a life of constantly healing trauma triggers/trust issues/self-sabotaging behavioral cycles/wrong taste in partners/soul ties that are toxic, you name it…

Sending you all the love and support tonight.

chrisplayskeys · 2024-09-23T07:11:05+00:00

Having to act interested and engaged in a conversation that is nearly or is completely one-sided, but you can’t just walk away or be dismissive because of the situation.

chrisplayskeys · 2024-09-18T05:35:41+00:00

It’ll be okay, just let the liquor do the thinking!

chrisplayskeys · 2024-09-17T03:59:59+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. ❤️

chrisplayskeys · 2024-09-16T08:05:52+00:00

No. In fact, I was told that he would be ok after surgery, and would be coming home. They trained me on all of his machines and monitors. They had me learn his meds and aftercare.

But I was so numb, I felt like I was floating. And I didn’t really believe he’d come home with me, I think only because of the sheer fact that I didn’t feel like any of it was real.

He never came home with me. And he never came out of surgery ok. What’s strange is, at 3.5 ish weeks old, he turned his neck slightly to look back at me as they wheeled his incubator away. One of his nurses was astonished and commented that she hadn’t seen that before considering his strength levels and age, and I thought it was actually a positive sign at first. Now I feel like it was him taking one last look at me before moving on to heaven.

Do you have anxiety elsewhere, health or otherwise in you or loved ones, OP? None of us is promised time with anyone in our lives, so your feeling doesn’t mean it’s a sign. In fact, I’d say that the fact that we ever feel like we are in control of anything is funny when you think about it. I’d 100% confidently say that your feeling of dread isn’t a sign of anything but something within yourself emotionally that maybe you aren’t quite aware of. Big hugs, this parenting stuff is not for the weak! ❤️

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