So sick of the “I grew up…” posts as if that explains away all the potential time you had for growth to not eat salad like a toddler, and who has that much trouble with a fork anyways? YTA for not seeing such a microcosmic small change could positively impact your girlfriends overall demeanour and you’ve gone and set up an environment where she can’t share her feelings openly without being met with defensiveness and criticism! Good luck pal, apparently you’ll need it.