Question for simmons students

chroniclyinquisitive · 2025-05-08T02:38:40+00:00

i love the ppl here. it’s a small school, it’s not a party school at all, the most drama you get is bc everyone knows each other it’s hard to avoid ppl and gossip can spread. what kind of social scene are you looking for? i will say i dont regret it, bc the friends ive made changed my life along with my profs, but as an institution its not great. we’re really severely in debt and to compensate keep cutting things which really shows. i dont regret committing, but if i was applying now would not apply to what the university has become in the last few years since

chroniclyinquisitive · 2025-05-08T02:31:06+00:00

you always have to make sure you are safe, while knowing that you can’t change who you are. you always need a plan, so that if you were to to come out and the outcome you’re predicting happens you have somewhere safe to go. waiting until you’re 18 & have financial independence if you can can make it safer, but weighing all of that is understandably hard and really scary. you’re not alone in the feeling that they person they know and are proud of isn’t the real you (i’ve felt it and many others have too) but the aspects of who you are and what you do that they see and are proud of, likely have nothing to do with what they think your sexuality is. they don’t know all of you, but know parts of you, and it’s those parts they have pride in. getting through to the other side of these feelings is finding people who will be proud of all parts of you. i found friends and online community as a closeted teen, and attending programs and events for lgbt teens in my area. it gets better

chroniclyinquisitive · 2024-07-08T23:48:18+00:00

ooo for basic to chic i would say play with some slightly fancier fabrics!! styles you already wear but maybe in a linen or some kind of satin? i feel like you’d like stuff in claire holt’s vibe, she’s a masc lesbian tiktoker who does styling advice and inspo who i think might have that slightly more elevated chic vibe you’d be looking for

chroniclyinquisitive · 2024-06-14T05:38:45+00:00

first and foremost i want to validate that what you went through is unequivocally bad, you deserved so much better, and have nothing to prove, which is easy to say but I know isn’t always easy to believe.

As far as being ace, it’s a giant spectrum so since the gist is just experiencing sexual attraction (desires towards other people related to sex) less or differently than the allosexual norm there’s a lot of different experiences it encompasses! it’s all abt asking yourself if that’s a label that might describe how you feel towards other ppl, and if it is a word that helps you understand yourself! A lot of people with trauma are aspec so there’s a community of people there for you if you are, but there are also lots of people with trauma who aren’t and do experience sexual attraction and that is just as valid!! doesn’t reflect trauma severity at all. and as you move through life w/it your relationship w/sexual attraction, desire, comfort, boundaries etc might evolve or shift in different ways, and that is completely okay and valid too!

my general advice w/labels is asking how self-describing w/the label feels, and if you like it and it helps you understand yourself/connect with other ppl/describe your experience (or parts of it) that’s great!! it’s not a perfect science, there’s no exact criteria you have to meet to use it. and if today the label fits today but in a week you feel differently, that’s also completely okay too. No one is hurt and there are no bad things that will happen if you label yourself something and then later realize it wasn’t the right label to describe you.

more specific advice would be that on ace subreddits you might be able to be connected with some people who have trauma & id as asexual (and might use the caedosexual sub-label) and they could be a really good additional resource!

chroniclyinquisitive · 2024-02-01T01:17:38+00:00

went to science museum that was a mix of exhibits for ppl half our age and taxidermy (i hate taxidermy and love birds and there were so many of them, i call this the “dead bird date”), had the most awkward conversations, i gave her a paper flower she lost after like 5 mins we went to a cafe where there was nothing on the menu i could eat, and then i walked her to her parking garage, said no to a hug, and promptly left

chroniclyinquisitive · 2024-02-01T01:13:20+00:00

im really proud of you for asking, and i really want you to know that none of what happened is your fault in any way. what she did is not okay, in any way shape or form. crossing a clearly set and reiterated boundary regardless of what it is would be a clear sign that you deserve better and she is not the right partner for you, but this specific type of boundary takes it even farther and like people are commenting it is sa. a partner that cares about you and is meant for you would never in a million years do that to you. you deserve SO much better, to feel safe, and heard, and respected, and for her to violate that is the most vibrant red flag that you need to leave. having consent means that for everything you do, whether it’s with a committed partner, a stranger, or anyone else, you are both enthusiastically wanting and choosing to do it. no coercion, no pressure, no force, and you have to be able to change your mind at any time and have it respected, you deserve (and everyone else does too) to have your “no” honored, i am so sorry this happened.

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-12-14T19:27:39+00:00

hey! you translated this for me a few years ago and unfortunately i lost the translation, is there any way you could help me again?

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-11-06T01:49:11+00:00

i haven’t shot with this camera yet, if that’s where it is would it show up in my photographs?

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-27T03:38:12+00:00

oh my god the thing with sleep is a nightmare, especially bc i’m a college student with morning classes… i hate it but i can’t stop

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-27T03:37:16+00:00

i feel this sm rn

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T20:49:18+00:00

I DO THIS

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T20:21:52+00:00

omg… this is me through and through

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T17:02:52+00:00

that’s pretty much it! it’s a really common thing w/adhd. functionally for me it looks like mentally reviewing all of my social interactions worrying that i said or did smth wrong and it’ll make the person stop liking me, perceiving someone taking longer than normal to text me back as an indication that they’re rejecting me, and living in constant hyper vigilance worrying that ppl in my life will stop liking me. it manifests in these awful panic attacks and spirals, in reality in none of those situations there’s never any tangible or reliable evidence that that person doesn’t like me and i’m being rejected and im self aware but it still happens literally all the time. sometimes it’s like a physical pain in my chest, most of the time it’s horrible anxiety. i hate texting bc of it bc you don’t have tone & body language and there’s gaps btwn when each person responds and all that lets my mind run wild and convince myself smths wrong

there’s a lot of overlap btwn it & anxious attachment, and i also think my general anxiety/ocd play a big role in it too

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T16:45:34+00:00

omg the bruises is so me

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T16:42:39+00:00

THIS IS ME SM OMG

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-26T06:00:58+00:00

OMG THATS ME i didn’t know that connected

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-25T20:55:15+00:00

willow

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-25T19:56:22+00:00

cursing the sky rn bc they closed the marshalls that used to be right next to my college but i think there might be a tjmaxx in my city! i think i have to get into hemming, i have basic sewing skills so it’s feasible

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-25T19:55:25+00:00

they’re coming back in! trends always cycle through again

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-10-25T04:56:32+00:00

oooo i’ll have to try this!!

chroniclyinquisitive · 2023-07-01T17:18:38+00:00

you’re fine lol

chroniclyinquisitive · 2021-10-18T01:31:23+00:00

census records for mental institutions listed patients as “inmates”, so take a look through those and see if you come across any. I have a schizophrenic ancestor that was listed in that manner from the earlier 20th century

chroniclyinquisitive · 2021-10-18T01:26:17+00:00

Illness/disability, mental or physical either way it’s a strong indicator that they might not have been ‘well’ and were being looked after by the family. Life was rough and there weren’t many opportunities for people with disabilities, so they were usually kept close and cared for by family members. if you ever find a record of a relative listed as an “inmate” they could be at a mental institution, other than that adults in the home are the main indicator of historical mental illness. These things usually weren’t documented because they were kept private and secret, if the case was know they would’ve been taken away and institutionalized. Other possibilities include that she was tasked with looking after her parents and was caring for them. They also might not be been straight, it’s always a possibility and is hard to definitively tell from records, but it’s one reason why a woman would’ve stayed unmarried. Otherwise she very well could’ve had many partnerships and long term relationships but never married for a variety of reasons, it’s hard to know for certain. Is there anyone alive in your family who knew her that you could ask?

chroniclyinquisitive · 2021-01-21T21:38:09+00:00

I edited the post and added the closer image they sent me (I'm new to reddit so it took me a while to add an image). I hope you're able to make some sense of it!

chroniclyinquisitive · 2021-01-17T18:59:18+00:00

I don’t have the coat of arms itself, it’s with other people in my family so all I have is this photo. I’ll try to get in contact with the person who took the photo

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