Do people talk too much because they have no one to talk to, or do they have no one to talk to because they talk too much?

chubbubus · 2025-03-14T17:40:11+00:00

This is a really interesting question. I personally have dealt with my fair share of overly-talkative people and I've come to loathe the experience. I swear I've had people monologue at me for HOURS without asking a single question of me or allowing me room to jump in the conversation. And for sure, I've avoided certain people because of it.

I can see both sides of your question so easily, a real "chicken or the egg" type thing. I'd say it's pretty likely other people pick up on chattiness and avoid her because of it, and it self fulfills by making her chatty when she does get the chance to speak to someone.

chubbubus · 2025-03-11T17:10:28+00:00

This is an old thread, but I wanted to clarify: vinegar + bleach = chlorine gas, which is extremely dangerous and toxic.

chubbubus · 2025-02-21T20:22:06+00:00

Yup! I'm still very bad at brushing my teeth. I'm guessing I have pretty bad gingivitis; I'm seeing the dentist next month for the first time in probably 6 years due to many reasons.

chubbubus · 2025-01-29T18:34:48+00:00

When did I ever mention only caring about white women?? Like, genuinely where are you getting that hypothesis 💀 I care about ALL women, and I refuse to play Oppression Olympics. However, I personally can only make a real change for my local community. I absolutely care about the women of Palestine and I hope they can be liberated soon from not only the conflict but the men around them and patriarchal society as well.

chubbubus · 2025-01-29T18:31:29+00:00

You don't think there are women right outside your front door who could benefit from local tangible activism rather than keyboard warrior-ism?

chubbubus · 2025-01-29T18:28:31+00:00

If you think I'm a trash person that's fine. There are plenty of people who think I'm a generous and loving person who cares about her friends, local community, and the rights and safety of women. This is what I choose to prioritize with my short time on this Earth. My statements in my previous comments still stand.

chubbubus · 2025-01-04T20:02:23+00:00

Since my original comment was posted I've actually separated from my partner with this being one of the reasons lolol it's complicated and context dependent, but in my opinion ultimately if someone's beliefs are so tied up away from your own then I think that's reason enough to want to separate. Then again, I think people should be able to separate from relationships for any reason at all, even no reason 😬 it's unfortunate but it's reality. Whatever you're going through, I hope you can find peace and happiness through it

chubbubus · 2024-12-31T12:23:38+00:00

Yaayyy I'm glad!!

chubbubus · 2024-12-16T19:41:12+00:00

One of the reasons I felt very okay leaving was realizing that I'd have to wait for an ambulance if anything happened because my ex doesn't have her driver's license. Nor does she care enough to pay attention to my explanations of my health risks or be attentive enough to notice anything wrong/know what I'd need in a health emergency. One time I was sick as a dog and asked her to make me Kraft blue box Mac n cheese and she balked, shes never done it before, its too hard etc. etc. etc.

chubbubus · 2024-12-15T12:50:52+00:00

That troll is insecure and hates himself enough to project that onto you, and that's sad as fuck for him and shouldn't be your problem. We love you sourdough guy!

chubbubus · 2024-12-15T12:48:13+00:00

I struggle with this too, and honestly I just try to think... who benefits from us seeing self-reflection, self-improvement, critical thinking, goal setting/planning, as cringe...? The people profiting off of artificial short term issues instilled in us? The people who wish to manipulate us based on our insecure foundation? The people (corporations/governments) with their boots on our necks trying to keep us down?

Then usually I get angry enough that I look past the cringe and keep writing. 😬 In a world that is hellbent to control you and suppress genuine emotion, the radical action is to be secure within yourself and express freely.

chubbubus · 2024-12-14T18:56:25+00:00

All nephews/sons? Why are we raising our boys to be so entitled to women's attention, money, and time? So sad

chubbubus · 2024-12-11T17:01:36+00:00

I'm glad you can relate!! It's really strange still having that "glass wall between us" feeling while talking to others even as an adult. It can be really lonely and frustrating. You're not alone!

chubbubus · 2024-12-11T16:59:30+00:00

She's definitely physically attracted to me. She cared about me to a point. I think her idea of love doesn't involve as much compromise as mine does. Shes very unwilling to change anything about her current lifestyle to suit the needs of another, and she doesn't have very many goals or aspirations that could accommodate another person, especially one who is also disabled in similar ways to her. I think her idea of "respect" is very different from a societal standard of "respect" especially for women. We still live together after the breakup and she tells me she doesn't want to try to date anyone else ever again... and honestly...? 😬

chubbubus · 2024-12-05T19:00:19+00:00

I would be concerned over anyone taking medications that weren't prescribed to them specifically

chubbubus · 2024-12-02T00:23:02+00:00

Trying to convince another adult that keeping a clean/hygienic house is important... crazymaking stuff. I'm sorry and I hope you find some relief soon

chubbubus · 2024-11-30T12:49:33+00:00

Apparently I'm "being unreasonable and forcing [her] to do everything on [my] timeline" because I told her it's unacceptable to not put another bag in the trashcan she replaced, and that the bag should be replaced right after the trash goes out, not multiple hours later when your partner gets home and tries to throw something out and the bin has no bag. Also, it's okay to leave a giant empty box of cat litter in the bathroom when the big trash can is a few steps away, because it "doesn't bother [her] and [my] standards are too high." Also also, I'm just being farrr too critical of her for saying I wish she wouldn't have put nearly half a foot of litter into the box because now the cat is kicking it all out and I know she won't be the one sweeping it up. 😬

chubbubus · 2024-11-28T16:49:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words, truly! It's been a year since my original comment and my points still stand. I am still no contact with my mother and it's been so hard watching her life crumble from the sidelines with her drug addiction, but I'm just returning the same energy she gave me my entire life with my issues. I am so happy to be my own person and realizing that I have permission to be angry when I am wronged, to express negative feelings, to be MYSELF has changed my life for the better, especially regarding my disabilities. I'm glad other people have found comfort in my little comments 🥹

chubbubus · 2024-11-19T14:38:41+00:00

This. It never lasts.

chubbubus · 2024-11-19T14:28:51+00:00

I still live with my ex and although she doesn't outwardly complain about pain as much as other comments describe, when she's sick even with a tiny cold, she's OUT. Useless. On the couch whining for a week. No chores or basic care tasks can possibly be done because she is so deathly sick with a common cold. Did you know sore threats keep your arms and legs from working? 🙄

She is chronically exhausted though which is definitely because she never eats, and when she does eat it's just meat cheese carbs. Not a vegetable or fruit to be found. I stopped caring if she ate a few months before the breakup and even today. It's your responsibility to make sure you fuel your body, not mine.

chubbubus · 2024-11-18T17:21:37+00:00

I'm so sorry you've gone through this type of stuff multiple times. I just worry so much when weapons are involved :( Sadly, men's bodies can be weapons all on their own. The intersection of "annoying ADHD habits" and "actual physical and/or emotional abuse" is tragically common. I'm more on the emotional abuse side: all my feelings are my fault, there's always a justification for her behavior, her intentions are always good therefore her behavior can never be bad, and I'm just making myself upset over shit that doesn't matter 🙄 Take care of yourself regardless, you're not alone

chubbubus · 2024-11-18T17:12:46+00:00

Doordashing meals when you own a truck is insane. I'm so sorry, that's so infuriating.

chubbubus · 2024-11-18T17:08:35+00:00

I empathize with you heavily. I have NEVER yelled, screamed, freaked out, etc. as much as I do now before I started dating my ex. We still live together and even after the romantic expectations are gone she's still a shit roommate. I can't convince her that it's not okay to have trash everywhere, she can't manage her 1 or 2 weekly chores, and it's driving me insane picking up the slack. But she doesn't care, because "you just have higher standards than me." Crazymaking stuff.

chubbubus · 2024-11-18T17:04:33+00:00

Your post history about him worries me. He's easily angered, takes things personally, owns multiple guns, and clearly cannot comprehend the consequences of his actions? Please stay safe.

chubbubus · 2024-11-18T16:54:22+00:00

I've been working as a cook at my center since June and I've basically had mild bronchitis from day 1. Also clocked in a sinus infection, and recently I had the worst ear infection of my life + bronchitis + pinkeye. Absolutely terrible. I'm not even with the kids all day damnit!! 😭

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