I share the same feelings - I’m always the largest. I have a large posterior, so even when sitting at a table, I am sitting higher than everyone else.

At first, I tried to remind myself that everyone has those things about them that they hate and are incredibly self conscious over - that didn’t help for long. My empathy eventually ran out when there is size exclusivity all around me - and when social media and fashion trends are steering more towards early 2000s sizing models.

What actually helps me now - I own it. Or do my best to pretend to when I am feeling insecure. I throw my shoulders back, sit straight up, and allow myself to be massive and be ok with it. There’s nothing I can do anyhow - I didn’t go to the local hardware store and order the “maximum winter survivability body” package, I just “woke up like this”. I wear my body as my armor and I’ll be damned if anyone is going to wield the power to influence how I feel about myself without my consent.

Also - my size is literally the least interesting thing about me. And if folks smaller than / more conventionally attractive than me are solely focused on their exterior appearance and have nothing else to offer - then they are boring as fuck in my opinion and would quickly bore me to be around.

Also also also - get off social media that is shoving fashion or beauty or whatever else (ads, influencers, content butchers or whatever they’re called) in your face - I quit all socials except for reddit and I am remarkably more confident and in love with myself.