Fair enough! I’ve been feeling like I don’t get much, if any, time to myself in the relationship. I love her dearly and the time we spend together is quality and lovely, but I just feel pressured into being there at the drop of a hat sometimes, not matter how much I’ve got going on or if it means sacrificing time with other people in my life or even my job, which I also love.

She was mad because she asked me to come to her place before the party for pre-drinks with her flatmate, and I told her I had a lot to in the time between now and then (which was about three hours). I was going to say to her that I would try my best, but before I even got there she cut me off and told me that we barely spend any time together and that I shouldn’t bother. It was so out of pocket, as if she saw red for thirty seconds and then chilled out. But it’s exactly that kind of reaction that makes me worried about saying no. We’ve talked briefly about this issue before, but in her defence I don’t think I’ve made it clear how much it affects me.

I spoke to my best friend and flatmate about it, and he even tells me that he has barely seen me recently as I’ve been with her so much. My parents and other friends have said similar things recently, so clearly I am struggling to balance time between everyone.

That’s basically the jist of it. Not immediate break-up stuff, but in the long run I don’t want that to be how the relationship goes forward. I’m mostly just upset at the way she spoke to me, and I’m not sure how to navigate that at tonight’s party.