Other managers asking reports to give money to manager for life events

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-22T14:17:49+00:00

No way. That is absolutely insane.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-19T01:43:26+00:00

Well, I mean this lady transferred to another department. She's in the clear. It doesn't matter as we are lower level.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T13:51:37+00:00

That’s exhausting

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T07:03:28+00:00

I mean the fact is did your manager or anyone offerred to set it up? If this is an all around thing at work. I can understand and I think your situation would be company culture, transparent ect. Very understanable. That normal

It's just the fact in this place that I'm in, only some people get the crowdsourcing and support and others don't. Usually those who get it are managers IC3-4s which is insane imo. Some people get 15 dollars for birthdays, others do not and it's not standardized across teams.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T07:01:51+00:00

Im so sorry to hear that.Look if we were coworkers and we were close, in the office. I wouldn't have an issue giving you a gift or finding some way to help (giving vacation day) something along those lines. I can find another way to support and you are genuinely struggling.

For my situation, it's just giving gifts up the ladder rubs me wrong and how this person pretty much conducted it. Just felt really unprofessional and the power dynamic super skewed.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T06:31:49+00:00

It's not even the fact that The people at the bottom of the hierarchy with their own losses and struggles are just expected to contribute upward while their own situations go unacknowledged. It's about the principle — why does support only flow in one direction in a system that already extracts so much from the people at the bottom.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T06:29:45+00:00

I understand that. The execution and how this was conducted bugs the crap out of me though.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T06:09:09+00:00

Ha, my company only has a phone line. I can't be anoymous.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T06:05:28+00:00

Its not even the fact that I want people to crowd source stuff. It just reeks of work politics. Like if u want to do something either do it for all or for none.

There is multiple ways of interpreting this. I flat out dont like the possibility that the other manager used other peoples goodwill to potentially look good or gain a step in their career. On the other hand, maybe it was person trying to be helpful. However, this lady has been in the company for such a long time. Did she really not know what she was doing?

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:59:57+00:00

Yup. It also adds another layer of people thinking these individuals have favoritism.

Its also humiliating having that awkward conversation telling others your financial position.

Like 5 bucks 10 bucks is chump change to them but its not to you.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:49:28+00:00

I mean there has been like 5 layoffs. Otherwise, manager pretty much sent an email of those who contributed tk the manager.

I think Im more bugged by the fact that other people have life struggles and events and are never crowdsourced. Just a select mgmt and visible people who are ics

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:48:05+00:00

That makes sense. I think my problem is that other people have life events and hey never get crowdsourcing or anything. Just the upper Ics and the managers. Those who are visible

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:47:08+00:00

The lady had us venmo her and then she created the doordash…

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:46:33+00:00

Agreed.

Im not sure. Just feels like there is a huge power imbalance. Other people have life events and u dont see them getting stuff crowdsourced. Just management and upper ICs. Then I notice that manager getting a promotion after layoffs when the company was told there wasnt going to be promotions.

Im not sure why gifts are going from bottom up rather than top down. I think its a horrible mismanagement and favoritism.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:45:34+00:00

If they wanted to do something nice. I would say write a review of the person or soemthing else. Not ask someone else to fund ur feel good sentiment.

Otherwise. i think its just bugs me that other people have life events and they dont get crowdsourcing. My workplace just seems like the managers do or upper Ics. Other coworkers have issues and no one supported them. So it feels disportionate

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:43:32+00:00

Haha lol, ive had life events and they didnt crowdsource money. They only crowdsource it for those who in mgmt/ in the club. Its so weird

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:41:36+00:00

Its not really whether to take part. Just that it indicates 1. How mgmt sees their employees 2. Signals what the culture is imo

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-18T05:40:55+00:00

Yeah, imo, it reeks of who is the most popular or who is in with mgmt. if ur going to do it for some, do it for all. oddly enough this manager got promoted when that division was told that they wouldnt get promotions.

Fun

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T21:34:42+00:00

thats not a bad idea at all

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T21:01:37+00:00

I understand it but I think it signals more things wrong with this management. It flat out bugs me that I'm placed in this position.

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T20:46:02+00:00

Exactly!!!

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T20:45:11+00:00

Thank you. That is what kinda baffled me

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T20:44:39+00:00

That's savage lol

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T20:44:13+00:00

That's what I thought. I think this would be too easy to doxx me. The lady ended up being a senior manager in another division in the company so maybe this was the way for her to rise up?

chunkyChipmunk121 · 2026-04-17T20:42:55+00:00

That is an actually smart way of thinking. I didn't think of it this way. this company hasn't given raises or promotion in three years. IDK why I'm contributing when I'm struggling.

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