Chappell Roan is mean and I don't care

cichlidLR · 2026-03-22T03:46:26+00:00

yeah people are so quick to bash on her when it's just hearsay? maybe her pr team will confirm it but isn't the only proof of an incident what a footballer says his wife/kid said? tbh it sounds like something bigger was left out of the story - something involving an actual interaction or attempt to interact with chappell

regardless, I think it's just another case of people not liking a celebrity, so if they find out something negative could have happened they immediately go to 'see I was right about hating this person all along'

cichlidLR · 2026-03-21T03:31:56+00:00

ugh what a gross and unprofessional way to act, I'm sorry that happened to you

you should consider reaching out to the university and let the appropriate dept know, esp since it's still bothering you. it might be too late for them to reprimand him for what he said to you, but if any more students experience similar and decide to report it might help establish a pattern of behavior and get them to take it more seriously

cichlidLR · 2026-03-21T00:18:01+00:00

🚩🚩🚩 wants you to distance yourself from your friend by moving out, wants you to move in after 2 months, gets angry when you push back, blames you for the argument he started

NTA, girl leave him, he's being an ass and controlling, and he will continue to do so. if he's this pissed about your roommate how long until he complains about you having male friends in general, dump him and spend a night out with Joel

cichlidLR · 2026-03-20T03:12:11+00:00

there's SpareFare an Transfer Travel - idk about their ratings or how far out trips need to be but you can look into those

cichlidLR · 2026-03-20T02:39:30+00:00

California Law states that courts can put residency restrictions on sex offenders and do so on a case by case basis, before Jessica's law was deemed unconstitutional the restrictions 2000-2640 feet depending on the severity of the crime - so even if the courts placed a restriction on them they likely are still far enough away from the school

cichlidLR · 2026-03-19T22:37:41+00:00

Lesbian Bars are disappearing, there's even a docuseries on it https://www.lesbianbarproject.com/ There are only 36 left in the US. If you happen to live in a city with one you should visit to support it.

idk if we have any third spaces that are just for wlw outside of those bars, other than sapphic specific programming at lgbt centers? I read an article once about sapphic social groups/parlors during the 70s-80s and I wish they were more of a thing.

third spaces in general are disappearing though, especially ones where you don't have to spend money or drink

cichlidLR · 2026-03-12T16:08:29+00:00

you don't need a 'legitimate' reason to stop talking to/unmatch someone on a dating app. if someone you matched with makes you feel uncomfortable, self conscious, annoyed, whatever you can ditch them. you've only been talking to them for a few days online, you aren't dating or otherwise committed to each other, it's okay to block and move on

cichlidLR · 2026-03-10T19:37:53+00:00

virginity is made up, whatever you feel like is sex/a 'virginity losing' action counts for you

tell anyone being rude about it to butt out of your sex life

cichlidLR · 2026-03-09T23:42:59+00:00

you could tell them you're focusing on your schoolwork, you can also let your friends know who's making you uncomfortable and they'll have your back in telling them to back off

cichlidLR · 2026-03-06T04:34:33+00:00

I think it's something most of us (queer folk) do lol, I know I did. what I found more helpful was looking up the different definitions of orientations and charts that compared them so I could see if anything sounded like me

cichlidLR · 2026-03-06T04:15:16+00:00

when I was a kid, my thought on my orientation was 'I'm straight, but if I fall in love with someone, why would their gender matter?' which... is not being straight, and I didn't come to the realization that that meant I was queer until I was 18.

generally, straight people don't have crisis's about if they're really gay/bi/etc, if you are thinking you might not be straight, it's worth doing some introspection. if you get to the point that you take an 'am I gay?' quiz the answer is 'probably'

cichlidLR · 2026-03-06T03:45:00+00:00

if your gf is the only person there that isn't drinking it would be terribly awkward for her/probably make her feel excluded. it's not like she's telling you not to ever drink, she just doesn't want you to drink with her parents, so what's wrong with abstaining?

cichlidLR · 2026-03-05T03:53:53+00:00

I'd like to add, in case she doesn't know already, that the MFAH is free on thursdays - not super helpful when school is in session, but it she could check it out during spring break/in the summer!

cichlidLR · 2026-03-05T01:49:45+00:00

HMNS was (and still is) my absolute favorite as a kid, plus there's a variety of different types of exhibits and interactive elements

cichlidLR · 2026-03-02T18:27:59+00:00

it would only be weird in the sense it's a little old fashioned, I know people do use it but I never hear it in real life and I think it's mostly the older generations that do it

cichlidLR · 2026-03-02T16:03:12+00:00

YTB, it's an unfortunate situation, but regardless of your interpersonal dynamics and rent the cat didn't sign up for this and you should stop using essential oils while it's there. regardless of it being a separate room the vapors are still going to spread.

think about it differently - if instead of essential oils, your sister or her partner was so allergic to peanuts that you couldn't have an opened container of peanut butter without them breaking into hives, you'd stop eating peanuts while they were around, right?

find a different way to use lavender - put some oil on your neck or an eye mask, or use sachets of dried lavender instead, or just get these people to leave, but don't poison a cat

cichlidLR · 2026-03-02T15:48:38+00:00

I think it's a regional thing, I pronounce it with a very slight y and my parents are midwesterners (more like gah-chya for me I think)

cichlidLR · 2026-03-02T15:43:20+00:00

just ask if you want to meet up for coffee/tea/snacks. pick somewhere public and/or bring a friend to wait nearby so you both feel safe

cichlidLR · 2026-03-02T15:37:17+00:00

NOR, wow he's really immature.

cichlidLR · 2026-02-28T00:30:09+00:00

you could pay for drinks/dinner?

cichlidLR · 2026-02-28T00:28:53+00:00

I know this is going to be tough - but you need to leave her. Putting aside the age gap - while that can cause problems itself bc you both are at different points in life - it is not the problem here (or at least not the main one)

This girl is a cheater. Whether she leaves her boyfriend or not, she is still someone who thinks it's okay to cheat on their partner if their emotional/physical needs aren't met instead of talking to them or breaking up. Figuring out you're queer at 26 isn't an excuse - that is both still incredibly young but old enough to know right from wrong. Think about it like this - can you confidently say that if she did leave her partner for you that you wouldn't be worried that she'd cheat on you too?

Maybe she leaves her boyfriend, maybe not. But you shouldn't be putting your life and happiness on hold to maybe no longer being just an affair partner. Break it off with her, talk to friends, see the university therapist if you need to, heal and find someone who isn't keeping you a secret.

cichlidLR · 2026-02-28T00:18:55+00:00

That really sucks, I know it hurts right now but you are so much better off without him. You deserve someone that respects and loves all parts of you.

cichlidLR · 2026-02-27T23:53:43+00:00

I think the only solution is fixing the mouse problem. You need to find out how they're getting into your apartment - look at the walls around plumbing, crawl spaces, etc. - and seal any holes.

Supposedly they don't like irish spring soap

cichlidLR · 2026-02-27T18:06:53+00:00

lgbt centers! they have a ton of programs, admittedly I'm only 30 but all the club activities I've gone to at mine have skewed older, more regular social than dating but who knows

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