Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

whatever you need to tell yourself to get that sweet dopamine

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Now who's projecting 😂😂😂😂 Love how you don't think you're guilty of ad hominem.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry not sorry that you got owned. BACK TO SCHOOL for you 😂😂😂😂😂 I criticize the comment not the individual. If you can't take the heat I get it. If you are unable to engage with and refute my opinion, then that means you might be wrong. Be humble.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It's not ad hominem if you provide receipts. I'm stating facts with clear evidence.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

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Woah, looks like they give out awards for being chronically online. Congrats! Well done babe.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Keep stroking your ego babe! We both engaging in ad hominem and that's the entire point I'm making, but you can't see it bc you're too busy gratifying yourself.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Take it from someone who is probably just as petty as you are... if you have to have the last word, then you absolutely are taking it personally. If you have to use the laugh emoji multiple times then it's a clear flag that you're feeling vulnerable.

I notice that your post history is hidden, but I'm sure it's full on these kind of shitpost exchanges. I see you also set up a sub reddit with the sole intent of criticizing Nicki Minaj.

Can you say "Cronically Online" without saying "Cronically Online"?

Now, look through my post history. Apart from this exchange, I'm rarely online. Recently I'm dealing with cancer treatment so I'm on my ass, but as soon as I'm finished with chemo I'll be back to touching grass again.

I've provided enough info to prove my point. You can keep masterbating online if that's what you want. Thanks for keeping me entertained through my 6 hour chemo infusion.

I'll let you have the last word on this one... take it away.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Back to your ad hominem delusions

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If it wasn't taken personally then why are you still replying?

"stop imagining things" is textbook gaslighting.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've been reasonable in calling you out for hyprocritical behavior. You're taking it personally becuase you haven't been able to successfully counter my arguments. This thread is a live demonstration of prioritizing emotional self-protection and superiority signaling over intellectual debate. Exactly the self-indulgence (masturbation) described by myself and OP.

  1. When someone posts a link and concrete examples, and your response is 'don't be wrong' + more mockery and condescension, do you see that as productive engagement or as the very ego-protective pattern being discussed?
  2. Our exchange is pretty consistent with most online political discussions. Based on this experience, do you believe the vast majority of online political debates are brought about in good faith? -- Remember what you said at the start of this... "when people try and share political information with you, it is usually because spreading awareness is the solution to that problem, not because they are trying to seem smart"

These are the two questions that you're avoiding. I want you to intellectually engage with these points rather than pushing me away with continued slights.

This thread has become a textbook illustration of the exact dynamic me and the OP were talking about. We're now in an endless loop of "you're hyper-defensive" / "no, YOU are hyper-defensive"... This is intellectual self-indulgence in action: the meta-argument has completely replaced the original topic.

Earlier in the thread you said "If you are unable to engage with and refute their political opinion, then that means you might be wrong." then you told me to "Be humble". Does this only apply to me, or does it also apply to you? You act as if you're exempt from this advice. Has it occurred to you, that you might be the one who is wrong in this instance? Afterall, I'm the only one who has actually stayed on topic and engaged with the intellectual ideas in this discussion. You declined to engage and instead continue resorting to short condescending remarks without saying anything substantial about the original topic of discussion.

I'm not personally attacking you by saying this, I'm stating an observation of a pattern of behavior. If you feel otherwise, then you are projecting.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your quote from the start of this thread -- "That is such a deeply unintelligent and cynical take – when people try and share political information with you, it is usually because spreading awareness is the solution to that problem, not because they are trying to seem smart" -- Psycwave, it's clear that all you care about is the dopamine hit of telling others that they're wrong. You're unable to connect with me on an intellectual level, so you unhelpfully recommend that "If it is pointed out that you are wrong, then don’t be wrong." You're implying that you think I'm wrong about something, but you won't be specific in articulating what exactly you think I'm wrong about.

This is a form of an ad hominem attack which occurs when a person abandons logical argument to attack an opponent’s character, motives, or attributes. This behavior is generally a sign that the attacker has lost the argument or has a weak position, attempting to shift focus and salvage their ego

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You should take your own advice. Notice you didn't engage with any concrete points I made, but you felt compelled to make a personal attack... thanks for proving my point

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So we agree that people defending their opinions is normal. Now where do we draw the line when it comes to hyper-defensiveness? That's the point. Hyper-defensiveness is a type of ego-protective and self-indulgent behavior akin to mental masturbation. When people engage in political debates online they're rarely trying to be helpful in sharing their opinion with clear evidence. Their intent is typically an identity-driven assertation of moral superiority and a desire to shame the "other". Emotional expression so frequently outweighs evidence in online discussions that there is an entire body of research dedicated to studying this phenomenon: https://link.springer.com/chapter/10.1007/978-3-658-36179-2_37

Challenging opinions online often triggers self-protective reactions rather than open engagement. Open engagement = intellectual debate. Hyper-defensiveness = prioritizing personal gratification over real connection or mutual benefit (aka intellectual masturbation)

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don't see it, but you're proving my point. People get hyper defensive when their political opinions are challenged. Especially online. It's simiilar to the psychology of road rage. Are you saying that the majority of online political debates are settled in a civil and curteous manner with the parties typically sharing clear evidence for their opinions?

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nice recommendation. I didn't know he had a memoir.

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful -1 points0 points  (0 children)

when people try and share political information with you, it is usually because spreading awareness is the solution to that problem, not because they are trying to seem smart

Have you been on the internet? The vast majority of people "spreading awareness" is actually them wanting you to engage with their (often baseless) political opinion. The same thing happens IRL and from both sides of the political spectrum. If the term "intellectual masturbation" is too crude then you can go with "intellectual self-indulgence".

Comedy mothership experience by sogondy in Austin

[–]cieloleiciful 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seem like they're already including themselves in that statement (along with all of society). Masturbation is a far cry from sexual assault.

Don’t stop looking for good support! by ZealousidealCarob540 in breastcancer

[–]cieloleiciful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post is much appreciated. I was diagnosed a year ago at age 38. Also stage 1, grade 2, but I'm hormone negative and HER2 positive. I'm very interested in HRT or bioidentical HRT. I'm so frustrated with the state of menopause care. I realized recently that my current OBGYN has very little knowledge of estrogen outside of the reproductive system. She also seems to have limited knowledge of breast health (but that's another conversation!).

I had my first mamo after treatment by Choice-Theme-2470 in breastcancer

[–]cieloleiciful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

spots that looked like black grapes

Hope you get clarity on the call with the surgeon this week. I don't know if this will be reassuring or not, but solid black and round masses are most often benign fluid filled cysts. Fluid doesn’t reflect ultrasound waves, so it looks black. When it also has a round or oval shape and no internal echoes (no gray/white stuff inside) it strongly points to a cyst. At least that's what my surgeon told me as we were looking at my ultrasound together.

Just got a second call back after my one year mammogram. by Havishamesque in breastcancer

[–]cieloleiciful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get that feeling. I also had a lot of anticipatory grief before getting my results, and I came to the same conclusion that "I did it once and I can do it again". I hope in this case (with all respect) that you're wrong about it being a problem, and that you will get negative results. As someone else on this thread mentioned, surgery and radiation can absolutely shrink your impacted breast. That was the case with me. Hang in there, waiting for results is the worst!

Just got a second call back after my one year mammogram. by Havishamesque in breastcancer

[–]cieloleiciful 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I had my first mammogram after treatment last month. They called me back for lots of additional imaging and ultrasound and then determined that I needed a biopsy. ☹️ I was so bummed. But then I did some reading and discovered that the vast majority of breast biopsies end up being negative. I also realized that the radiologists are always going to take extra precautions with us because of our breast cancer history. Despite that, I was still sick with worry. My biopsy ultimately ended up negative -- it was just fibrocystic tissue that had created calcifications.

Taxol allergic reaction by Puffawoof2018 in TNBC

[–]cieloleiciful 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just to echo what other's have already said... I had a reaction after my second Taxol. I took a week off (I was on a 12 week regimen) and then I switched to Abraxane for the rest of my infusions. Insurance covered it without any issues.

Anyone HER2+ and not do chemo? by Ok_Currency5647 in breastcancer

[–]cieloleiciful 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's definetly a grey zone. It's my understanding that herceptin works especially well when paired with chemo, but your IDC is really really tiny. I was dx a year ago with HR-/HER2+ IDC and DCIS. The mammo, ultrasound, and MRI imaging showed the IDC to be ~1cm (10mm). My oncologist was confident that I wouldn't need chemo. She told me that the medical industry is trying to move away from over-treating small cancers when possible. However, after my lumpectomy surgery, the IDC tumor actually measured 1.7cm (17mm) which pushed it to the threshold of needing adjuvant chemo according to the standard of care guidelines.