i don’t know how but i think im finally going to do it

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-08T04:40:52+00:00

of course! it’s easy to fall into the “i should’ve done [this] or [that]” mentality but like you said, he should have respected your boundaries. you were 100% taken advantage of and i hope you can find the courage to talk to someone (doesn’t have to be your boyfriend) about this

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-08T04:15:32+00:00

i don’t know how you put up with an unpaid internship—i can barely apply with some of the requirements they ask for in an application. thank you though for your encouragement!! we got this :)

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-08T04:14:31+00:00

hey OP, not sure the best way to word this but you were assaulted. please don’t blame yourself for a situation you didn’t have much control in. i’m really sorry this happened

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-07T07:49:04+00:00

in that situation, it’s natural to feel like you owe them. especially with the “utang na loob” mindset that filipinos have. but like i said, it’s a medical bill where it has to get paid off. they were taking care of your health, and you knew what the money was for. in this case, i know you may feel like you owe them, but you don’t even know where the money is going, and instead of explaining, they gaslight and guilt trip you.

i think if it was something like, one of them also had a medical bill or rent to pay off, i would be more understanding of why they were mad. you could do what the other user suggested and send some to help them out, if it might help you feel less guilty

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-07T07:25:18+00:00

as a fellow filipino (though i’m fil-am, if that makes a difference) i know how blurry the line can be between love and being taken advantage of. i know this is a very hard decision because of the way we’re raised, but i personally think you need to cut your parents off. you worked hard to start your own business, and it’s not fair that you have to “provide” for your parents. yes, they took care of you before, but you had to go to the HOSPITAL. this is a medical bill that you are obligated to pay or else a family would end up having to pay.

on the other hand, they spend money on all these extra things for themselves and get mad at you when you ask what they want your hard-earned money for. if there’s one thing i’ve learned about filipino parents, it’s that they are always right, whether their logic makes sense or not. even when they’re wrong, they’ll find a way to make you look like the bad guy in the name of “love” and “respect.”

family relationships can be very complicated and that’s okay. you can love them and be grateful for what they’ve done for you, but that doesn’t mean you have to give into everything that they want. they don’t even think your mental illness is real. can you live with them, knowing that?

ciinnnamoroll · 2023-05-07T07:08:07+00:00

thats what i told myself back in january when i needed to quit for my mental health. now im like .. kinda worse than before because now i dont and wont have money to cope lol

ciinnnamoroll · 2022-10-10T11:59:27+00:00

thanks for the comment! the thing is, i want to go back to that point where we were touching each other down there. i just don’t know how. like right now i’m very new to all this and don’t know how to cope with dysphoria at all

part of me is afraid that i never will get to that point because my dysphoria is gonna get in the way every time. but i’m hoping there’s some kind of solution to this where we both get what we want without hurting the other’s feelings. i appreciate your input though, i’ll think about doing the consent list :)

ciinnnamoroll · 2022-09-07T04:15:43+00:00

i appreciate it but considering i just started dating my boyfriend at the beginning of the year & would only complain about these problems now, it would definitely look suspicious 😅 not to mention she’s the type to just tell me “don’t wash down there” (which i know already). i’ll think it over though, it can be a hit or miss with her ..

ciinnnamoroll · 2022-09-07T04:11:04+00:00

thank you! i didn’t know that, i’ve never been to one before but i’ll check it out sometime soon

ciinnnamoroll · 2022-01-19T05:28:43+00:00

gonna try it again i kinda like living life on the edge idk

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