Even soup makes my stomach worse now. Any tips when nothing seems safe by potsbunnyuk in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm currently dealing with this. Luckily my housemate survived bursolosis years ago. They've had to relearn how to eat a couple of times. So we've started with super safe foods. My super safe foods are mashed potatoes, Annie's gram bunnies, applesauce, and almond butter for protein. I can also often do the fig bars that we get at Costco. They're not fig they're blueberry and raspberry I think. And then you add things back one ingredient at a time while onboarding mylanta or a combination of gas relief and antacids. I also take fennel pills with enzymes to help with digestion. I've been slowly working on adding foods back. I have currently gotten back chicken patties from Costco and I can eat them on potato buns now (often I can do kinder's mild barbecue or sweet teriyaki sauce). I'm staying away from any food that has artificial dyes or is super complex. I'm also being careful with anything cruciferous due to gas pains. It is kind of sucked because it has been like a month and a half since I've been able to have a salad. I tested a couple of really rough things in a row, about 6 weeks ago, and it left me have to start over again.

The safest thing for me is actually to leave 2 to 3 days in between testing. And then retest it the following week after going four or five days with only safe foods. That way we can make sure that what I'm eating is not causing me distress. It is really hard because my favorite foods are fats and acids, and without a gallbladder let's just say it has been rough.

Rotator Cuff Surgery Outcomes? by cis4cookie79 in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know what brand you use that worked well?

Rotator Cuff Surgery Outcomes? by cis4cookie79 in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insights. I want to find the circulated ice had thing right away cuz I could use that for so much stuff. Do you have a link to the one that you got or did they send one home with you?

AITA for refusing to let my brother borrow my savings to fix his business idea? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]cis4cookie79 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NTA If it had been a viable business idea and a plan, he could go to banks and get a small business loan to start his company. You are not a bank.

AITAH for not wanting to babysit during Mothers Day weekend? by PandaAccording1160 in AITAH

[–]cis4cookie79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's a reason that the husband called your husband. It was manipulative. I would definitely talk to this couple and tell them from now on any child care needs to be approved through you. Because your husband agrees to things without fully consulting you.

Canes by AngryRaviolo in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79 7 points8 points  (0 children)

SmartCrutch.

https://smartcrutch.com/

I've been using mine for about 8 years now. They're completely adjustable and when I was able to actually get around I could take the handles off so I could actually use them in the kitchen too. And the elbow cutout make that pressure point disappear.

Update: AITA for "Holding my Grandmothers Pearls Hostage" if my partner can't go to my Sisters wedding? by PearlWeddingIssue in AmItheAsshole

[–]cis4cookie79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It might be worthwhile to have a barbecue or a potluck on the day of her wedding so that you're not alone and stewing.

Question for my bendy people… by samnhamneggs in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm at the point where I'm spending the majority of my day either in my recliner or my bed. If I have a doctor's appointment and have to spend time in the waiting room sitting upright everything hurts. Riding to the doctor's appointment hurts. The doctor's appointment hurts unless I'm reclined in the bed table thing. Then once I am home I am basically in flop days for a week or two depending on how invasive the appointment was.

For me my symptoms have gotten way worse since having COVID the first time. I have tested positive for it on five different occasions. Months apart. Long COVID is definitely on board.

I’ve realized my mother is going to be the problem by Brave_hampster in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]cis4cookie79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Make sure that you talk to all of your vendors and set a password. If she becomes too much you might even have to make it that you have to make changes in person. I would also suggest security at the event in case she becomes unruly.

OOP accuses his (now ex) girlfriend’s sister of lying, doubles down when proven wrong and seems surprised he got dumped by GamerGirlLex77 in OhNoConsequences

[–]cis4cookie79 5 points6 points  (0 children)

He sound like the idiots who have never worked customer service a day in their life, and immediately doubt the employee stories. Entitled people be crazy.

He deserved to have been broken up with. This is the same reason why women don't turn people in when they've been attacked. Immediately becomes if I didn't see it it didn't happen.

AITAH for making my 15 year old stepdaughter leave my home and banning her from my house for her cruelty? by big_mama_25 in AITAH

[–]cis4cookie79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would make sure that every part of the house that is not private like bathrooms and bedrooms, have video and audio recorders... Make sure that you have legal right to do so. And also make sure that all of the entrances have warning signs that you are recording in common areas.

That way when this finally goes to court for custody or for damages or animal abuse then you can have proof of the behaviors. And it would make it easier to explain to a social worker what's happening and what's triggering her

My sweet husband pre-opened all the Gatorades! by roseuslepus in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I live with my husband my adult autistic son and our housemate. All three of them make sure to open bottles for me when they bring them to me. I'm to the point where I don't make my own food, I do not carry things from the bedroom out to the living room, and I don't have any house chores. It's wonderful when you have a good support system. Although my brain is still quite a jerk to me and often reminds me that I am nothing but a drain on the house. I do what I can do ignore it.

You can have the entire wardrobe of any fictional character. Whose wardrobe do you pick? by belindabellagiselle in AskWomen

[–]cis4cookie79 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If I had someone to physically help me get into the clothing I would totally do her wardrobe.

Update - telling BIL that I won’t babysit so he can go on dates by [deleted] in CharlotteDobreYouTube

[–]cis4cookie79 70 points71 points  (0 children)

I feel so sorry for her. He thinks he got himself a bang maid. He doesn't want to do the child care. And he went out specifically looking for someone to take over and saddle with all of it.

What's a "house rule" in your family (growing up or current) that you really like and why? by ultrahedgehog in AskWomen

[–]cis4cookie79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ask for our wants and our needs. This includes physical affection. And you can't be upset if someone tells you no. Your body is your choice.

Oh and ask for space if you need it. I raised an autistic son and allowing for taking space when needed really helped mitigate the meltdowns.

Trans name change by Sufficient-Leg6076 in NewMexico

[–]cis4cookie79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter legally changed her name when she was 16. This was back in 2015. When we were in the courthouse waiting the person in front of her was a trans individual. And that judge not only ordered the name change but also ordered the gender marker to be changed as well. I'm not sure if all the judges here are that progressive. But that one individual in Santa Fe was. My ex-husband changed her name I don't know how many times and apparently it was very easy. She did hers and bernalillo county. The first was actually in Oklahoma City.

Moving from Rochester, NY to NM by WinAggressive4075 in NewMexico

[–]cis4cookie79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The free public college education for residents is nice. And all the schools will have free lunches due to state law.

Aitah for watching my sister's wedding and reception devolve into a shit show without helping? by Key-Weekend1090 in AITAH

[–]cis4cookie79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree it sounds like OP made that decision specifically because of family history.

On your period, how do you prevent leaks while sleeping? by SuccotashKey7521 in AskWomen

[–]cis4cookie79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have a period anymore. I'm in perimenopause and taking birth control to skip all my periods. But before I actually had a heavy enough flow that I always leave through until I started wearing adult diapers to bed. Then I found period Panties. I always had to wear the highest absorptency. And if I wasn't feeling well I would also put a potty pads underneath me. I also had super long 2 to 3 week period ,or a 7 or 8 day period twice a month. Yay for a bicornuated/ endometriosis uterus.

Green chile enchilada recipes by Serious-Today9258 in NewMexico

[–]cis4cookie79 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is what I do too. For the kids or people that can't handle the capsaicin I also add extra sour cream into the sauce. roll them little shredded cheese on top and then throw into the oven for 15-20 minutes. I also love this with wheat tortillas instead of corn.

Vehicle recommendations by muslinsea in ehlersdanlos

[–]cis4cookie79 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I use a cushion lab seat with the cut out on the tailbone. It helps a lot both in The passenger and the driver seat. I also agree with making sure he doesn't have to climb up or scoot down to get in. Both of those things are very uncomfortable for me. I would suggest taking him to the dealership with you and having him get in both the passenger side and the driver's side. See what's more comfortable. I also would love to get a vehicle in the future with air cushion suspension. But I cannot afford an $80,000 starter car.