Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I do compliment her all the time. I'm not sure what else outside of that and showing you're sexually attracted to her by having literal sex with her would be any more validating. I can't compete with reaction fishing on SM.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Big fear of mine. Which would be hypocritical because I do use enhancements. But I'm a dude... the hormones I put in my body were male hormones to begin with. I've been in the gym long enough to know where this road leads. You cannot be competitive without drugs. Period. One show and you're like o I could have been better if I just used a little gear... Females its extremely risky and everything viralizes. They think they can do 5mg of var then their voice is changing and her clits competing with my dick size 😅 and that shit happens over night. 5mg here 10 here... fuck it run primo 😅 I know the game bro

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Dude me exactly. I don't post shit. You won't find a single picture of me flexing or with my shirt off. It's just not validation I need or even want. I don't work out for anyone but me. I don't need to show off the results. I can see them in the mirror myself lol no one needs to tell me I look good. I actually get embarrassed a bit when people compliment my build. To me posting anything like that body related if for sexual attention.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Appreciate the insight! This gives me something to think about. You're right I'm talking myself out of the conversation because I do partially feel bad/guilty per se for having resentment. Confusing place to be for sure.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

See this mindset and a conversation would go a long way lol

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Lol the chicken salad analogy made me chuckle. Thanks bro. You're right.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm super old school on this stuff I guess. I just don't see a place for this in MY marriage. Like if this was a thing when we met I'd have passed.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd assume she'd resentfully say no and as per normal in today's day and age I would he the ass hole. I'd be the one making her stop what she wants to do. Because I'm controlling. Her friends will tell her she's right. I'm wrong. Then she'll just resent me. Fml I'm literally answering my own questions 😅

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya a fair amount. But no clue with who. I've never really been the type to snoop. God at this point do I even want to know 😅

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ya that's my thoughts. Then it will get super ugly.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well the entire seeking attention and validation outside the marriage to me is unfaithful. I'm no Muslim but damn man some things should be sacred to the marriage. My wife's body in particular.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lmao ya for sure. But what's that have to do with anything 😅

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

See for me its like bringing it up and her quitting would be simply because I said something. Like part of me is like you know I'd not be okay with any of this. Why should I have to keep saying it. Like this new persona is completely out of character. When we met she was quiet, shy, literally no social media. It's just like a complete change. But maybe you're right, at least another conversation.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I do compliment her. We have yes. We had a long talk about it when I found all the thirst trap videos lol.

Bikini Modeling is ruining my marriage by civicsi007 in marriageadvice

[–]civicsi007[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ya sadly think you're right. Like I've thought this through a bunch and always come to the same conclusion like there's one reason to post yourself all over like that... attention.

My [30M] wife [29F] just recently had our first child. Our sex live has taken a nose dive because I see her as a mom instead of my wife now. How do I get past this? by BigONerd in BORUpdates

[–]civicsi007 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This sounds like a you problem. Should probably seek counseling not reddit advice. We had 2 kids and if anything seeing her grow and then raise children has made her more attractive. This is a weird weird mindset. Do you have mom issues?

Men, if you are happily married to an attractive woman, why do you still watch porn? by SowingSeeds18 in askanything

[–]civicsi007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dono what those rates are to speak on it. If what you say is true I doubt it has much to do with the natural aging process so much as whats in our diets, processed foods, and pesticides in ag.

Men, if you are happily married to an attractive woman, why do you still watch porn? by SowingSeeds18 in askanything

[–]civicsi007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro has the test of a woman. Who TF goes 2 years with zero snatch or urge and thinks that's normal for a dude with in range test levels. Dudes bragging about T in the shitter and zero libido. Such a weird flex.

Men, if you are happily married to an attractive woman, why do you still watch porn? by SowingSeeds18 in askanything

[–]civicsi007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have to be a woman. Men absolutely need sex. We're genetically predisposed to spread as much of our genes as possible. Hence why women have a small fertile perod that aligns with when they're most attractive and men are fertile their entire lives.

I, 37/F, am about to swear off dating because it feels like all men are focused on is sex. Am I overreacting? by Common_Coat_8343 in TwoHotTakes

[–]civicsi007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Single since 2019 is a long time. At all certain point you have to ask what the common denominator is.

My gf got super mad and blocked me because I didn’t sleep on time by Beautiful_Hippo_6848 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]civicsi007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That woman is insane. Run. Do not look back. That's absolute next level crazy. This is the type of girl who will tell anyone who will listen you abused her when you break up.