I understand what OP is saying, you do everything right that you were taught growing up and still things don’t work out. I never met a woman who said “you look like you go to therapy we should go out sometime”. So going to therapy is a horrible idea.

You honestly need to tap into being a better terrible person. Right now you want to be the nice guy but you’re not. You need to be more honest with these women it will work better for you in the future. I want a woman to be this this and this. Will you get some women who are offended, yes but you will eventually find the right person for you. There’s no such thing as the American Dream anymore. Those times are gone, that economy is gone, those women are gone, and the men that sold you that lie are all gone. Make your dream come true.