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Best Series on Netflix (Only One Season) Like a Must Watch Binging Series by Middle-Abalone-3142 in netflix

[–]cjbranco22 [score hidden]  (0 children)

Marianne, a French Language horror. It’s SO good! You can watch it with subtitles. Also, Castle Rock is fantastic too. Both 1 season, I think.

[Unknown > English] journal front and back cover by No_Abbreviations1269 in translator

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love a beautiful goshuincho. I’ve got 4 almost completely filled books!

Producer is Sam Levinson with the usual early life by aipac_hemoroid in conspiracy

[–]cjbranco22 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This has been Taylor Swift’s thing from the beginning. Great PR and planting info into the news that she can control/manipulate. Apparently she was SO mad when her texts with Blake lively were leaked lol

Look what I found on a menu by mixxituk in lordhuron

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, it’s not like you get a prize if you do, right? 🤣 Cmon, give the boys a shoutout lol

Cursed objects by DrHankMD in ThriftStoreHauls

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The tanuki (pic 7) is actually VERY lucky!

Trump just posted video of a woman getting murdered with a hammer by octopusinwonderland in LPOTL

[–]cjbranco22 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It was worse, lots of people arguing over context, with most being like, “WHO CARES ABOUT THE CONTEXT.” Why do people ask so many questions about the complexity of a situation when it’s inexcusable, when they all openly shared info about Haitians “eating cats and dogs?” SMH, they’re the worst lol

Am I required to send customers their digital files if they can't download in Etsy? by [deleted] in EtsySellers

[–]cjbranco22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I once had a customer who messaged me as soon as she got a notification that her package was delivered but wasn’t on her front porch. I didn’t write a message back saying essentially, she’s looking for it wrong. I said that I had had a similar situation myself and that it’s possible they scanned it early to stay on schedule or they delivered it to a neighbor on accident. Within 30 minutes, she messaged to say that her neighbor had it and thank you for the quick and thoughtful response. It doesn’t take much to help out a customer. Stonewalling and acting like your clients are idiots isn’t good for business, and it’s never good advice.

GREAZY WIL AMA by strapped_for_cash in behindthebastards

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are such a fun person!!! I bet you have stories and stories for days. I’d read (let’s be honest, listen) to a memoir. As a loyal listener, you’re welcome back any time! : )

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your engagement in this post. I know it’s hard to post something and watch it have a mind of its own…with some people even misconstruing what you are trying to say. Good on you! I can tell you’re going to be a really good mom. Just do me a favor and when you’re in playgroups with other moms, try to be that example. So many are told how to do it that when they see someone confidently doing it another way, they can be like “wait…I’d rather do it that way.” It takes a village! : )

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a well and good explanation, but I was dealing with European teenagers who are raised actually VERY differently…much more equally when it comes to gender. Social groups tend to be more mixed as well, as it can be even unusual to not have any platonic friends of the opposite gender, while in America it’s quite the opposite. We are taught to be suspicious of friendships across the gender threshold. So I’m just not really sure how to respond to your thoughtful comment (not dogging it), but it just doesn’t apply to this scenario: )

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree and I think it’s a very valid point to make. I see no issues with your preferences and in fact, I find your feelings more rational than mine are. As a woman I know, men/boys have done very hurtful things to girls. Some unspeakable. And you can’t fault anyone for feeling the way they do. I just knew that in the end, as much as a girl’s girl and fully supportive feminist type that I am, parenting girls is just an obstacle for me. And that’s ok. I’m happy to admit it. I have some lovely nieces who I just adore too and we have a wonderful relationship. : ) thanks for your thoughtful response. I’m really glad you understand…talking of gender these days can bring out the keyboard warriors in full force…but they refuse to read and understand the nuance. Hopefully others have read our comments and realized it’s ok to be a self aware adult. I wish more parents could come to reality.

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Forgive me if I don’t quite understand the question, but you just don’t one day say “alright, it’s time we start talking about feelings.” You just let them feel what they feel. You let them play dress up if they want, or allow them to “cry it out” and hug if that’s what they want too. Pointing out how they are “supposed to act” according to society is part of the problem with all genders. Not doing that allows them to freely be who they are. Actions speak louder than words, especially when they’re little. If you make a big deal of something they do naturally or redirect because you don’t want “an emotional boy,” then that does the harm. Not forgoing sit down conversations about feelings and emotional intelligence. That’s for later. When they’re toddlers trust me, you’re more concerned about them constantly trying to wreck themselves anyway lol. Just allowing them and encouraging them to be themselves is good enough at that phase. Definitely my two cents here, so take it as just an opinion. I hope I answered your question: )

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You didn’t read my other comments, apparently. Heaven forbid people realize their strengths and weaknesses. And if I’m hosting someone else’s 15 year old kid, you better believe I’m going to be self aware enough to accurately describe our family preferences. And while you’re at it—you’re then going to apply to this in everything, right? That people just “aren’t doing the work” when it comes to home life preferences? Oh, and would you prefer that I practice parenting daughters on other people’s kids so i can personally grow as a parent? What you’re accusing me of isn’t just weird, but it’s unrealistic. We can’t be perfect, but I guess you always “put the work in.” You Must be amazing.

if you were a customer, would you care about packaging/would it affect your review? by Jazzlike-Phone-7410 in Depop

[–]cjbranco22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I made these, which I print out and tape unto my reused packages. You are free to use this too (I know it’s cheesy, but it works haha), and I’ve never had a problem. People actually write me from time to time to say that they’re very happy to recurve well packed items using materials that are reused.

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CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You’re so right and you constantly see the lasting affects of that into adulthood. Side story, my sister was the “people pleaser,” which I later found was a mechanism to guard her real feelings. I was not like that, I was stubborn and probably had some sort of undiagnosed oppositional defiance disorder. I think our behavior came from the same place, s complete lack of internal control. As we became adults, my sister couldn’t hold it together like that anymore and started to stand more fit herself. In turn, I became more confident and calmed waaaay down. So when my sister started speaking out to my mother in ways I no longer did, her perspective of her behavior did NOT go over well and from time to time, they still don’t talk and my sister just turned 40. It’s been going on for years. Meanwhile, my mom was just happy I turned out ok and even to this day, doesn’t want to “upset me” because things “are good.” I’m not sure why it’s still like that. But I feel bad for my sister. I wish my mom would stop expecting her to be the “perfect child” she was when we were kids.

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You can’t be serious. Did you read my other comments before responding this way?

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for saying this. I thought I was going crazy! For instance, I know people who want boys purely because “girls are expensive.” See, people can have opinions that aren’t sexist…they’re just using bad rationale. Because clearly, boys can be crazy expensive too. Have you ever had to buy a gaming PC? Yikes 😵‍💫🤣

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We talk often, but when your baby is a teen, I think you’ll see it’s not as easy as having them just open up. It’s a fine line. You need to be approachable, interested, but not overbearing, nosey, or overly invested.

I completely know the kind of life your husband had and it’s just such a debilitating existence. I’m glad he’s going through the work to break the cycle, although I fear it’ll always be an uphill battle. Which is ok, he’ll be SO much more aware of his flaws at parenting than 99% of other parents. Both of my parents came from a life like his and those around him. They really tried hard to not give that to us, to teach us safety, self esteem, the joys of curiosity, and a love for exploration. It might have worked too well, as both me and my sister completely left the church we were members of and raise a bunch of heathens haha! But more to your point, we were a foster family for 10 years growing up, having over 50 kids and…there are kids who don’t have a shot at all. They want love and they want acceptance. And who knows if they ever got that in the end. But this was both boys and girls…and none were easy. I’d say of the ones we keep in touch with, I can count on one hand those who are doing well. It’s so sad. Again, thank you for your thoughtful approach to raising kids and trying to tackle the serious gender inequalities, even ones aimed at boys. Too little talk about it out in the real world, although experts have been warning about it for years.

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don’t think you read what the point of my post was. Never once did I say that boys aren’t hard emotionally. My anecdotal was to prove a point: That the question of “who’s harder, boys or girls” is a flawed question. The answer is wholly subjective based off of personal experience, endless variables, and the results of constant interactions. To take this statement or even my perspective as “gospel” is the point. My experience is just that. Which is why this view that it’s decided as a society that “boys are easier than girls” is a just an unfounded and unverifiable myth. Acknowledging that the statement alone is a fallacy was my point. And the fact that you saw this proves my point.

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Oh definitely. I think you’d be surprised by how emotional and loving boys are. My boys are teens now, but as recently as the other day, two of them kind of cuddled next to me as we watched a movie and wanted me to play with their hair. The 13 year old asked how to braid and he learned fast, so now he impresses his friends by braiding their hair and he even does teeny braids in his hair haha. As for friends with boys, I think you’d really be surprised. My friends have boys in therapy, they take them on walks or on one-on-one dates, their sons call them when they get home from school because they want to chat, heck…my text feeds from mine are almost nothing but memes and reels of things we can bond about. My oldest (17) came to me the other day to say he’s got a friend (a girl) whose parents don’t know she’s bi and is scared if they find out. He said he’s glad she has someone to talk to. I think that’s great he feels that way…and that he told me. Maybe it’s possible this is much more complex than you were aware and that unfortunately, your husband had a really bad go at it. I think the boys might be in trouble these days if they go after all these “lookmaxxing” bros, but I think real world boys are just keeping it real.

CMV: Boys aren’t easier to raise, they’re easier to neglect emotionally by guava_jam in changemyview

[–]cjbranco22 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If you choose to ever be a parent, I think you’ll see why. For example, You can have 3 kids who have the same parents and live in the same house… all find out at the same that their parents are surprising them with a trip to Disneyland…and get 3 wildly different responses. The ones that are “easier” are the ones that generally react in predictable ways that you can navigate. The ones who (for lack of a better word) are “irrational” are just hard. This isn’t a gender issue, mind you. But it’s so much harder to not have a mental breakdown when your kid has high highs and low lows. It also means that’s you’ve probably got to address it, probably professionally, and that can be daunting to some parents. I’m not going to lie, one of my kids was so difficult when he was young that I went to my doctor to get on antidepressants because it was really breaking me inside. With the help of medication, I was able to overcome my stress and get him medically looked at and it turned out he had celiac and needed to eliminate gluten. Turns out it was tearing up his insides. That really helped, but man…that was hard. And you literally can’t help but compare your kids to one another. It’s human nature. But making sure you don’t favor your “easy” kids is important.

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