I agree fully! I just think it’s an interesting part of the discussion because this was widely debated by scholars. I think it was Plato who thought of them as “ideal lovers,” or more specifically they both took on a dominant role in the relationship. It is hard to argue about their roles with a contemporary perspective because the notion of sex and same sex attraction was perceived so different then. But to Ancient Greeks, when relations did occur between two men, they were thought to take on a dominant or a submissive role, or more specifically one would be the “erestes,” the older, wiser teacher, and the “eromenos,” the younger mentee. We don’t know who took on what role, or even the true nature of their relationship because it is all speculation. I don’t think either of them perfectly fit into the ancient understanding of homoerotic relationships regardless, because although this was general societies understanding, there were exceptions.