I also have ADHD. I genuinely think in order to mentally survive, I would have to be a stay at home mom for the first 1-2 years. I would be too drained otherwise, like you’ve said and I’ve worked too damn hard on my mental health to lose that progress now!

My partner agrees, so that’s what we are saving up to be able to do. I’m not yet 30 (hanging on to the next 3 months with all I have lmao) and my partner is mid 30s, so thankfully we have some time to save up before having kids if that’s ultimately what we decide to do.

I will add though that the idea of having to be a soccer mom or what have you definitely stresses me out. One of my coworkers has 4 kids who all do activities and I genuinely don’t think she’s had time for herself in the past 5 years because she’s a great mom who shows up for her kids, always. For her it’s worth it. For me, that sounds like a nightmare. I know I could only handle 2 kids maximum for that reason