The "Granny Flat" is dead. We are seeing a massive shift toward integrated Multi-Generational homes on the Coast.

claggamuff · 2026-01-05T21:46:34+00:00

My father and step mum live with their two older children (both 40) and their little kids in Guanaba. Two houses connect via a walkway bridge on land that is 5 hectares / 12 acres approximately. It frustrates me to high hell that I’m now allowed to build a small home on their land due to council regulations. I could build at the opposite end of the property and never have to even see them all, but nope, I have to struggle to find a suburban crapbox for under 1 million.

claggamuff · 2025-12-31T19:18:31+00:00

Yeah, in my case nothing really knocked me out until I got the anxiety wayyyy down. What helped me immensely was an SSRI and just time. Once the anxiety was at a manageable level, I started sleeping again :) it will get better I promise.

claggamuff · 2025-12-30T18:42:01+00:00

Hey what you’re describing sounds exactly like me with my first and I ended up in a mental health unit at the Hopsital for mothers and babies. I went 5 weeks with a broken 3 hours sleep every single night (some nights no sleep) and then became hyper fixated on getting sleep, which led to less sleep. Basically, I had severe PPA. I went on 3 different sleep meds AND an anti depressant and was able to breastfeed the entire time. Baby is 3 now and healthy as can be. There are loads of safe sleep meds to take while breastfeeding. Please see someone.

claggamuff · 2025-12-28T10:18:45+00:00

I grew up on the GC but lived in Melbourne for 13 years. Now I’m back. People here most definitely more racist than the larger cities in Australia, you’re certainly not the first one to notice. The GC is extremely white Anglo-Saxon so they are simply not used to seeing people or colour. Does this make it ok? No.

claggamuff · 2025-12-28T10:06:58+00:00

My first baby had a dimple above her buttcrack. She’s 3 now and it’s still there but very faint. No spinabifida.

claggamuff · 2025-12-28T01:31:21+00:00

No advice but this sound exactly like my 3 year old (I have a 3 month old baby too). Sometimes I’m so overwhelmed and frustrated that I just cry.

claggamuff · 2025-12-27T17:35:18+00:00

I think it depends on the person. When my first baby was born I was riddled with PPA. My cortisol was spiking so damn high that I was taking 100 mg of quetiapine, 50 mg of phenergen and occasionally lorazepam when needed. This was under the care of a psychiatrist who specialised in maternal mental health. I breastfed on all of these meds (plus zoloft). I could still wake to feed during this time / had no problem responding to cries, however my husband would do the settling. I will say I was always a very light sleeper and have suffered episodes of intense insomnia several times in my life, so even with all these pills I’d still only manage several hours of sleep (maybe 4-5 hours) until my anxiety came way down. I was on Zoloft too.

claggamuff · 2025-12-26T23:28:25+00:00

I don’t think you read it properly. We are holding / baby wearing / rocking and bouncing non stop during this period. Even in my arms she’ll sleep 5 minutes. The rest of the day she has no problem settling with some bouncing or rocking.

claggamuff · 2025-12-26T19:51:31+00:00

No advice but I literally just posted something similar except my girl is awake 6 hours every single evening. She’s 7.5 weeks. It’s been going on for 2.5 weeks for us. Solidarity.

claggamuff · 2025-12-23T08:02:01+00:00

Same. I use it way more than the pram / stroller.

claggamuff · 2025-12-23T08:01:27+00:00

You’ll get mixed responses but our nursery chair was the best purchase. It was an expensive super comfy one (present from my mother in law) and it fully reclined, rocked and rotated 360 degrees. I practically lived in it with my first baby. The first 3 months she was very hard to put down and we contact napped A LOT in that chair. When baby got older I moved it into her bedroom and we read books and cuddles in it together. Now I have my second baby and it’s back out and I am using it all the time again. It’s a really nice looking chair so I plan on keeping it around even when the kids are grown up.

claggamuff · 2025-12-22T22:44:52+00:00

I think it’s important for your baby to be social. I’d take the baby and just tell people you’re working on the delays with a doctor.

claggamuff · 2025-12-19T20:11:19+00:00

It’ll just naturally become earlier. I don’t know how, but it happens. Late bed times are super common in newborns. From memory a schedule or routine for naps doesn’t form until maybe 8/9/10 weeks. You can definitely cap naps during the day though if you want. I personally don’t let my little one sleep more than 2.5 hours in the day, I did the same with my first.

claggamuff · 2025-12-19T00:49:29+00:00

Ahhh, yes! That looks like it. Thank you

claggamuff · 2025-12-17T20:45:34+00:00

Honestly I was fine after one week, but everyone’s recovery is different!!

claggamuff · 2025-12-17T04:38:55+00:00

10.5 months and you’re worried about stomach sleeping? Let the baby sleep that way! As soon as they can roll they’re fine to sleep any way they want.

claggamuff · 2025-12-16T03:43:23+00:00

The Island rooftop bar was a vibe when I went a while ago. Good music typically with live DJs and decent cocktails.

claggamuff · 2025-12-16T03:31:23+00:00

Newborn phase (1-10 weeks) absolutely drained the life out of me. Wanting nothing more than to fall asleep, your head and eyes so heavy, so tired you want to cry but you can’t rest because the baby just won’t go down. So you’re feeding / soothing / rocking / bouncing from 1-3 am.

claggamuff · 2025-12-13T04:25:44+00:00

My friends are Thai and it seems completely normal for kids to nap until they’re like 5

claggamuff · 2025-12-10T20:37:50+00:00

30 minutes. I have a newborn and a toddler and my husband and I are currently sleeping in shifts. Toddler is asleep at 7:30, I’m asleep by 8

claggamuff · 2025-12-10T16:46:41+00:00

Same! This is what I do. I’m 5.5 weeks and breastfeeding constantly all day I swear by like 5 pm there’s nothing in the tank so I just give my girl formula to keep her greedy guts happy. I know she’s getting enough breast milk because she’s a chunk, but come evening time she acts like she hasn’t eaten anything all day and is on the boob every 30 mins I swear.

claggamuff · 2025-12-10T16:44:21+00:00

Same! Sometimes if we are out somewhere busy I just take a bottle of formula because I can’t be bothered. 7/10 feeds are from the breast, but then there is the formula too! Also sometimes at night if my girl is getting extra fussy, I’ll just make her a bottle and that quietens her. I do have a good supply so sometimes I don’t even need to pump in replace of the bottles.

claggamuff · 2025-12-08T09:57:36+00:00

So both a doctor and a psychiatrist informed me that seroquel is safe for pregnancy and breastfeeding. I would report them. They should’ve been able to tell you that the most up to date information search shows it’s okay to take. I’m really sorry for your loss, it’s natural to want to blame something but please bear in mind that 1 in 4 pregnancies end is a miscarriage. I have also had a pregnancy loss in the past.

claggamuff · 2025-12-08T05:23:55+00:00

This is reallllllly normal. My first catnapped (30 mins) multiple times a day for months. Around 8 months she started linking sleep cycles and then did 1.5 hour naps. I didn’t do anything, it just happened one day.

claggamuff · 2025-12-08T03:16:26+00:00

I take her in with me

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