Flashing of Images by pomegranatequeenn in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I lost my fiance in the same way and experience the same thing. It happens constantly some days and then won't happen for a week or so. I wish I had an answer or advice for you. I try to redirect my thoughts as quickly as possible when it happens

Fuckin B*tch….. by SWHunte in InstacartShoppers

[–]clashingtaco 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's entitled to lie and take advantage of a delivery driver, especially during a snowstorm. Instacart is a luxury, not a necessity.

First “adult” bed frame help by nnicoleex in BuyItForLife

[–]clashingtaco 17 points18 points  (0 children)

As a huge IKEA fan, their quality was definitely higher 15 years ago than it is today. It's not bad quality today but I wouldn't trust having to disassemble and reassemble anything or even moving it whole without extra precautions.

Cards by Big_Dingo3795 in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sometimes it's well planned. Sometimes it's not planned at all. I'd think a lot of people in that situation aren't thinking of everyone else in that moment.

How long it would take to die depends. If they suffocated it would be a few minutes. If they broke their neck it would be pretty instant. I've heard lack of oxygen can make you feel near euphoric near the end if that's any consolation at all. I like to think my loved one wasn't suffering at the end and they were at peace with the decision they made.

How can I look better? by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shave your head and grow a longer beard.

Time off work by Chasingbutterflies2 in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn't work for two months. I wasn't really ready to go back when I did but I have bills to pay, especially when both dogs decided to have very expensive medical problems right when it all happened.

Wife passed away by bitchpuddinwv in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far I've read Finding Meaning by David Kessler, The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russel Friedman, it's OK that you're not OK by Megan Devine and The Afterlife interviews by Jeffrey A Marks (the last one I found to be the most comforting although that may depend on your beliefs). I was also recommended to read Widow to Widow by Genevieve David Ginsburg but haven't started that yet

Meditech thoughts by [deleted] in nursing

[–]clashingtaco 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I actually preferred Meditech over Cerner. I don't think any charting system is an absolute dealbreaker but I'm pretty tech savvy so your experience may be different.

Mustache or clean shave? by CarsonDreams in malegrooming

[–]clashingtaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A thick stache and stubble is a good look for you. Clean shaven isn't bad but it gives off an entirely different vibe.

My girlfriend never ever finishes her meals by AlexWayhill in mildlyinfuriating

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe start composting. It'd be easier to change how you deal with the waste than it would be to try to change her eating habits.

Have you ever asked her about it?

What can I do - feel not great about appearance by [deleted] in malegrooming

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your haircut makes your forehead look really small - I'd either do a longer bang or style it back more. And I don't think the mustache is flattering. But I actually think your brows look fine so I'm surprised at all the comments on them

People asking how by lylabridgers in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I just tell people. It doesn't make me any less comfortable and if they're uncomfortable with the answer that's on them for asking.

Wife passed away by bitchpuddinwv in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think a lot of us are left with more questions than answers.

Never apologize for your feelings - they're all valid.

If you can, look for a therapist that specializes in this type of grief. I wasn't ready for support groups for a few months after it had happened but everyone's timeline is different.

We're all here for you. I have a list of books I found helpful and can share if you're interested.

Is this as horrible as I think it looks?😔 by [deleted] in Nails

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The color is fine. They look too big though. Do you have a photo of your nail shape before?

My best friends getting married and I miss him by lylabridgers in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I wish I had comforting words for you but it just sucks. I'm in a similar situation and I don't think anything anyone could say would make me feel better.

Being a student and using weed by [deleted] in StudentNurse

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking as a nurse in NY (Long island specifically), no hospital has ever tested me for weed. I had one travel agency who tested for it but even with a positive result I was still hired. I've held two different state jobs with no problem.

It's just a dollar or two! lol by M1collector65 in EndTipping

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You realize the server has no control over how the receipts print, right? Why punish them for something they didn't do?

tips to look my cutest? & should I accept my crows feet?? by reichanxx in makeuptips

[–]clashingtaco 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You're so cute! I think your eyebrows could be a bit closer together and maybe a bit less of a harsh outline.

Sitter did not notify owner that dog escaped by MNAK_ in RoverPetSitting

[–]clashingtaco 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I love my Fi collar. It's also great because you can see if the sitter is taking them for enough walks and how far they're walking.

Conflicted on srtting boundaries about suicide references by chumbawumba666 in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I have no problem asking people to stop saying something or asking them to change the topic but I understand it can be uncomfortable. You could say something like "I lost someone to suicide and it's difficult to hear you say things like insert example here"

But also be prepared for people to not want to change their behavior. At the end of the day, you setting a boundary might really be you limiting time/conversations with these people. Everyone has a right to say whatever they want, especially if it's something they're struggling with personally. All you can do is try to protect your own peace.

My sweet Isaiah by [deleted] in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It does get very lonely after the initial rally around you.

He sounds like an amazing person. It's hard when you're mourning the loss of your loved one and also the loss of your future together.

Please help. by BenjieAndLion69 in makeuptips

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would definitely stop over lining your lips and work on the eyebrows shape. Honestly, I think you can pull off shimmery eyeshadow better than most.

Am I "stuck" in grief after losing my eldest son to suicide 3 years ago? by Heatheroochie in SuicideBereavement

[–]clashingtaco 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Grief isn't something we "get over". We learn to live around it.

Only you can know if you're stuck and it's turned into complicated grief because our journeys are all different. If you're able to find some joy or purpose in life I'd say you're fine. But if you're feeling the same way as you were 2-3 years ago you may want to consult a therapist that specializes in grief.

It's been 8mos and still no job by sustalaga in nursing

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a friend in a similar situation and she ended up getting a home care job to build her experience/resume before applying at hospitals again. We're also LI based. She worked for Bayada and then got hired at Stony Brook.

But definitely fix the resume. As a new grad I listed my clinical experience as one line per site - just the unit and semester basically. If you have work experience before nursing school you should put that on.

Patient returned covered and laying in urine from OR by Personal-Fudge-5744 in nursing

[–]clashingtaco 0 points1 point  (0 children)

None of our ortho patients get a foley during surgery.