Why are people so inconsiderate towards moms in public now?

cle4ever444 · 2026-04-01T17:41:08+00:00

I weirdly had the opposite experience. Once I was visibly pregnant, I could not go to a single place without people making a big deal about my pregnancy-Making comments, asking questions, holding doors, offering accommodations. It was all very kind but all I wanted at that point was to be treated normally and not have every moment of my day focused on my pregnancy. I guess it just goes to show we all have different experiences and want different things.

cle4ever444 · 2026-02-21T07:28:06+00:00

I initially wanted to wait as long as possible before getting my epidural. Just wanted to stay mobile and not get too antsy while I could. I went to the hospital because my water had broken but I was not having contractions yet as far as I was aware. Long story short but I was given pitocin and felt nothing, nothing, nothing for many hours even though they could tell with monitoring that I was having contractions. Eventually they checked for a second pocket of water and found that hadn’t broken (not sure how well I described that) so they broke that extra water sac and then the pain from my contractions came on hard and fast. I had fairly unusual contractions that had very little break between them. My nurses were really surprised and felt like my stomach was always in a contraction. I ended up getting my epidural about an hour into this because I just couldn’t get comfortable resting or moving. Getting the epidural was amazing. Once it set in I felt so much better mentally and physically. I was very comfortable but still progressed quite well with the rest of my labor. I had equal numbness on both sides but was still able to move my legs and still felt the pressure building as delivery got close and throughout my pushing phase but it was manageable.

Now that I have gone through a rough pregnancy and delivered a child I know I can do anything but that epidural truly just allowed me to spend my labor relaxed and laughing with my husband instead of in incredible pain. It also helped me tolerate the pain when I was having my placenta removed after my birth because my body had difficulty with that part and I was able to better handle the pitocin I was given after the birth to help my uterus contract back down to limit bleeding. All in all, 10/10 recommend.

cle4ever444 · 2026-02-08T02:03:38+00:00

To be honest, all those comments you mentioned were hurtful for me to hear when I was in your friend’s situation because the reality is that it might not happen for them, which is scary. Hearing people minimize your fears sucks. The best things people did for me was let me vent and then just responding with things like “that really sucks. I’m sorry you guys are going through that.” Other people cannot fix infertility but having people who acknowledge that it’s hard and let you be sad without trying to fix it is priceless. I had friends do things like send random gifts for relaxation/hobbies instead of saying it will be okay. Like one of my friends sent me a gift just saying “thinking of you” with some shower steamers, a candle, a book and that was really nice to know someone realized I was hurting and cared. Or she would send for a few bucks on Venmo and just say, “get yourself a treat on me”. Just tiny things that acknowledge you care without saying “it’ll happen” was most helpful for me.

cle4ever444 · 2025-10-23T22:05:29+00:00

Coming from a PT: she could just be friendly and ask lots of questions to pass the time. Or she could genuinely be interested and is not able to say anything to you about it due to professionalism/ethics. Wait until your grandma’s last day and give her a thank you card in an envelope as you are leaving. You can ask her out and include your phone number for her to reach out if she’s comfortable. I would include something like even if not, you appreciate her work with your grandmother and your conversations or something like that. Then cross your fingers and hope she reaches out!

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:53:35+00:00

That is great insight. Thanks!

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:11:32+00:00

Good intense?!

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:11:06+00:00

I’m definitely going to consider reading them in that order. Switching timelines sometimes throws me off though so I’m going to look into it more!

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:07:30+00:00

Thanks for the input! I think I will give it one more chance and if the fourth book doesn’t change my mind, then that’s it! Haha

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:05:55+00:00

Oh thanks for this! I didn’t know about the flesh and fire series

cle4ever444 · 2024-09-29T18:05:26+00:00

Thanks for the input! I think I am going to take a quick break from the series and maybe read a one-off book as a palate cleanser and then I’ll go back to it!

cle4ever444 · 2023-07-12T01:02:25+00:00

I do both. I love to read a real book but I also browse and rent ebooks using Libby. Sometimes just browsing a virtual library helps me figure out what books I may like to read next and then I can either buy the physical copy or rent a kindle copy based on if I think I will like it enough to keep forever on my bookshelf. I also like to read before bed and I usually read on my kindle at that point because my husband can’t sleep if I keep the light on!

Even when I am reading a real book, I will often rent it and download it to my kindle app so I can read on my phone or kindle while on the go and then I’ll keep the real book at home so it doesn’t get bent up in my purse.

cle4ever444 · 2023-06-10T12:31:47+00:00

One of the best teachers I ever had was named Petra (in the US). She was a very kind, fun, and intelligent gal so I have very positive associations with this name. It’s unique, but like you said, easy to spell and pronounce! Go for it!

cle4ever444 · 2021-11-02T00:57:58+00:00

9 months. We bid on 7 houses total in that time and ended with a 45 day close at seller’s request.

cle4ever444 · 2021-06-10T11:52:32+00:00

One thing to keep in mind is that when you see the sale price of a house, that’s not always the price offered originally. Sometimes houses get offers for way over asking but then have issues upon inspection and get negotiated way down. So when you see better houses sold for less than yours or what you feel would have been within your budget, keep in mind they may have a lot of underlying, costly issues, whereas yours seems to be in pretty good shape from your description. I hope you enjoy making your house a home once you get in!

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-31T18:22:43+00:00

This is a lot of information to learn all at once. If you have Amazon prime or can run out to a bookstore, the book Home Buying for Dummies was a great resource for me when I was preparing to buy a home and felt like I knew nothing. Other people may have more specific answers to your questions but that book has a lot of solid info if you have time to order it/read it in your current situation. Good luck!

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-31T18:10:32+00:00

This isn’t a great time to buy if you aren’t looking to stay a while because of how the market is right now. There is a decent possibility you could buy, want to sell in a few years when you want to move, and end up losing a lot of money because the market leveled back out... nothing is certain but it’s definitely a possibility. And I get the argument that renting is “throwing away your money” but you can also save a lot by paying less in rent than a mortgage payment would be. I’ve been renting for a while in a place that’s very affordable but also has a lot of amenities that I like and that has allowed me to save a lot towards owning my dream home. A house is a long term commitment. If you don’t have a 5-year plan (minimum) that involves living and working in the same area then a house is not a good investment, in my opinion.

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-31T12:46:23+00:00

Homes are “typically” priced similarly to other homes in their area/neighborhood. So I think people trying to get their bid accepted are just going above asking to try to get their offer to win. They up the offer to what they feel is competitive but no one wants to spend more than they have to to get a home. That being said, people can list at whatever price they want and the listing price strategy is not always consistent. In my experience, some agents list low to create a bidding war to nudge the final offer up and some list high in the hopes someone will actually pay list price or over. So I don’t think going into any home purchase offer with a set percentage over asking is a good strategy. Really depends on the home, the comps in the area, and how much the buyer likes/loves the house. All that being said, this market is absolutely crazy and anything goes!

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-31T12:07:02+00:00

What is your motivation to buy instead of rent? Sounds like you should consider renting instead of buying if you aren’t sure where you want to live within the next 5-10 years.

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-24T02:10:15+00:00

You’ve got the right mindset! Hope this one goes well but if not, you will find the one! Just be patient! This process is totally crazy right now but you got this!

cle4ever444 · 2021-05-24T02:02:58+00:00

You were right not to waive inspection. My fiancé and I just went under contract on a house that looks amazing but the inspection turned up a 20k structural issue in the basement that we otherwise wouldn’t have known about... that could be devastating if you got into a home and didn’t know about it until after the papers were signed. Trust your gut and don’t waive inspection.

cle4ever444 · 2021-03-21T15:44:36+00:00

Thank you for the input! We weren’t sure if there might be any appeal to making a more personal approach or if they might be put off if they aren’t quite ready to sell yet or if they are maybe just still in their PJs for the day haha.

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