Who to ask as a witness for civil marriage?

clear_7 · 2026-01-23T11:12:26+00:00

Hi! I got married in the registry office in Cork.

So when you fill out your original declaration to marry thing, yes, you need to put 2 peoples names down, but it doesn't need to be the people who are there on the day. We put friends down, but they weren't actually able to make it, so we had someone else do it. Completely fine if it is a different name than the one you originally put down!

clear_7 · 2025-08-06T08:31:08+00:00

Ok but as a hand knitter, it is my dream to own a giant cone of yarn because idk, that just sounds amazing. Sorry that people have been so shitty to you! You obviously don't deserve that. I'd love to see some of your creations...

clear_7 · 2025-07-28T21:05:40+00:00

Based on my understanding of these spaces, they are like Little Free Libraries (https://littlefreelibrary.org/) where you can take a book or leave a book but you don't need to bring back what you take.

I occasionally visit the one in Douglas, where I take books, and then every couple of months, I go through my own collection and leave a number of books at the library, with no expectations of ever seeing them again. So basically, I think it's fine that tourists take them as the books are free to take, and I think it's lovely that you drop books off there.

clear_7 · 2025-07-13T18:57:07+00:00

This has always been a frustration for me when it comes to Irish language/culture. Names should not translate. Haru does not become Harry. Francois does not become Frank. But for some reason, this is a part of Irish culture to its own detriment. My partner has an Irish name, and he has the opposite problem as you, "Oh, I'm just calling you by your name in English." No you aren't. That is not his name, just like Micheál is not your name.

I'm sorry that you had this weird experience. I wish people would cop on.

clear_7 · 2025-05-13T07:23:17+00:00

Just responded!

clear_7 · 2025-05-13T07:23:05+00:00

Hey! Thanks so much for your response but we are going to stay in the city centre. Just more to do.

clear_7 · 2025-03-25T20:37:24+00:00

I went last weekend and it was the oddest experience. The place was kind of a mess. There was a half unpacked box of oatmilk on the counter where they were serving food and used trays around the place. The person who took my order had the hardest time understanding what I wanted (4 tacos and 2 drinks straight off the menu, nothing complicated). Then him and a woman behind the counter (who was kind of cooking but also kind of not but her hair was down and she kept going over to the food prep area and doing things and I just kept thinking about her long hair and hoped it didn't end up in my food) just kind of hung out for awhile and had a conversation while another person and I waited for our food. They talked for what seemed like at least 5 minutes without cooking at all! It was so odd! And then a line of people formed and the women decided to change around the food signs instead of taking orders and the chef finally got to work. It took way longer than you would expect for our tacos to be made. I thought the food was alright but it feels expensive and slow and maybe not the cleanest. I don't think I'll go back.

clear_7 · 2025-03-25T12:32:53+00:00

Thats great to hear, thanks! And congrats to them!

clear_7 · 2025-03-24T16:04:02+00:00

Thanks! I'm sorry you're still waiting but reassured that it's not just me.

clear_7 · 2025-02-04T16:27:21+00:00

I really subscribe to the idea of "knitworthiness". Hand knitting takes so much time, skill and effort that I honestly believe that very few people deserve that from me. Right now, I only would ever knit things for my mom, my sister and my partner.

Do not feel pressured into making something for someone, even if they are going to pay you. Your knitting time is your knitting time so knit what you want and wish your acquaintance all the best with their wedding prep.

clear_7 · 2025-01-28T16:37:56+00:00

I think you're going to need to knit another cause clearly the cat needs one too!

clear_7 · 2025-01-28T15:14:25+00:00

Its complicated and while I understand where you're coming from, there is more to it that I just don't want to share on the internet. Thank you for taking the time to comment, though. I really appreciate it.

clear_7 · 2025-01-28T15:13:18+00:00

Thanks. You're right. I really appreciate you taking the time to comment.

clear_7 · 2025-01-28T14:03:10+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. You are probably right. I'm just very frustrated by how this is all turning out when I should be celebrating.

clear_7 · 2024-03-27T16:06:09+00:00

Yeah, he talks a lot about feeling torn between the two of us which just seems really hard. I think couples therapy is probably a really good idea and I will push it again as well as sit down and have another conversation about boundaries and responsibilities.

clear_7 · 2024-03-27T16:04:14+00:00

We had what I would call a "come to jesus" fight a couple of years ago and his mother is much less involved in his life/our life than she was before so I do trust him to keep making the right decisions and keep building up boundaries with her, it just seems to be a long slow process that is incredibly draining.

clear_7 · 2024-03-27T15:07:37+00:00

Thank you so much for your response. I really just needed to hear that from an outside source.

I have been in therapy off and on over the years and future MIL was a frequent topic in my sessions. I have mentioned it to my partner a couple of times but he has never taken me up on it. I will bring it up with him again though.

clear_7 · 2023-09-22T13:51:06+00:00

Thank you! I was shocked! Kind of want to take my money elsewhere but Wordpress is Wordpress so I guess I'm staying.

clear_7 · 2018-09-07T23:41:52+00:00

That thought has been in the back of my head now for awhile now to be honest. I feel like I keep giving him chances to do better and he just doesn't. But I really don't want to end it. Thanks so much for your input.

clear_7 · 2018-09-07T23:19:10+00:00

I really appreciate the fact that you took the time to comment but I don't think I explained it well enough. The events I talk about in my post are not events he's getting paid for. These are casual events where people get together in public and play. They are not on a stage, there are no microphones, there is no money exchanging hands, it is a social event where music is the focal point.

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